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Now in their third year of In-Vitro Fertilization treatment, we documented Abbe and Isaac's experience so listeners can hear first-hand the intimate struggles of a couple experiencing infertility. They share their hopes, dreams, doctors appointments, and late-night fights and reveal an up-close, personal, and sometimes funny look at a couple longing to become parents in real time. Abbe and Isaac Feder met in the summer of 2008. For Isaac, it was love at first sight. Eventually, Abbe got on board. They were engaged a year later, and got married because of their love for one another, and also because they wanted to have children. After hearing stories from friends: warnings from their own bumps along the road, and trying to be as supportive as possible, they felt sure this was not one going to be their story. As it turns out, their story became extremely complicated.ABBE MERYL FEDER is a writer, producer, and actress in Los Angeles. She’s an Artist in Residence at the Braid Theater in Santa Monica. Her struggle with infertility led to co-founding InCircle Fertility, a coaching business helping people navigate infertility. She is also a stylist, and is a recurring contributor to the blog What’s Up Moms. You can find her on social media at @absofstyle (instagram). She grew up on the mean streets of New York’s Upper East Side, graduated from the University of Wisconsin, and studied at The American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York. She is an avid mahjong and card player, an escape room enthusiast, and has been called by many friends a true “balabusta.”  ISAAC FEDER is a film director and television showrunner. Recent projects include series for Netflix, Sony Pictures Television, Disney+, Amazon, and Fuse. He has directed shows for Comedy Central, VICELAND, Tru, YouTube Originals, and IFC, and has worked with Sacha Baron Cohen, Robert Smigel, Nikki Glaser, Ken Jeong, and Haley Joel Osment. His first feature film, the scripted comedy Sex Ed, won the Grand Jury Prize for Best Narrative Feature Film at the Portland Film Festival. His short film produced for ESPN’s “30 for 30” series, AC Green: Iron Virgin, was an official selection at the TriBeCa Film Festival. He is a graduate of Northwestern University, and holds an MFA from the American Film Institute Conservatory. Isaac was born and raised in Chicago, and now lives in Los Angeles. 

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    • 4.7 • 445 Ratings

Now in their third year of In-Vitro Fertilization treatment, we documented Abbe and Isaac's experience so listeners can hear first-hand the intimate struggles of a couple experiencing infertility. They share their hopes, dreams, doctors appointments, and late-night fights and reveal an up-close, personal, and sometimes funny look at a couple longing to become parents in real time. Abbe and Isaac Feder met in the summer of 2008. For Isaac, it was love at first sight. Eventually, Abbe got on board. They were engaged a year later, and got married because of their love for one another, and also because they wanted to have children. After hearing stories from friends: warnings from their own bumps along the road, and trying to be as supportive as possible, they felt sure this was not one going to be their story. As it turns out, their story became extremely complicated.ABBE MERYL FEDER is a writer, producer, and actress in Los Angeles. She’s an Artist in Residence at the Braid Theater in Santa Monica. Her struggle with infertility led to co-founding InCircle Fertility, a coaching business helping people navigate infertility. She is also a stylist, and is a recurring contributor to the blog What’s Up Moms. You can find her on social media at @absofstyle (instagram). She grew up on the mean streets of New York’s Upper East Side, graduated from the University of Wisconsin, and studied at The American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York. She is an avid mahjong and card player, an escape room enthusiast, and has been called by many friends a true “balabusta.”  ISAAC FEDER is a film director and television showrunner. Recent projects include series for Netflix, Sony Pictures Television, Disney+, Amazon, and Fuse. He has directed shows for Comedy Central, VICELAND, Tru, YouTube Originals, and IFC, and has worked with Sacha Baron Cohen, Robert Smigel, Nikki Glaser, Ken Jeong, and Haley Joel Osment. His first feature film, the scripted comedy Sex Ed, won the Grand Jury Prize for Best Narrative Feature Film at the Portland Film Festival. His short film produced for ESPN’s “30 for 30” series, AC Green: Iron Virgin, was an official selection at the TriBeCa Film Festival. He is a graduate of Northwestern University, and holds an MFA from the American Film Institute Conservatory. Isaac was born and raised in Chicago, and now lives in Los Angeles. 

    The Bridge

    The Bridge

    Meet Isaac and Abbe. After more than seven years of marriage they find themselves struggling on the journey to become parents. Three years of unsuccessful medical intervention and a devastating miscarriage have left them exhausted, emotionally and financially. They return to San Francisco where Isaac proposed, to renew their commitment to becoming parents. 
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    • 27 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
445 Ratings

445 Ratings

mvpikaart ,

Thank you for talking about this

I am not a parent , nor have I gone through this process, but I have had friends a family members who have, and it has always been a learning experience for me to learn about all stages of the birthing process.
It is soo important to talk about this , thank you for being honest , sharing your tender moments, and offer up your most venerable moments. I appreciate you both and your journey.

Gracefourme ,

Come back!

I keep checking and hoping for new episodes. I know it has to be such a difficult thing to share this journey in real time. Until you’ve undergone IVF and walked a mile in their shoes you can’t possibly understand and should not judge them. Sending prayers and love to you both!

oakhh3 ,

Oooooooooh

I mean I just can’t with this woman. My husband and I have struggled with infertility and totally understand the stress and trauma of IVF and multiple miscarriages. But this woman is a narcissistic, whiny, princess. It’s all about HER and her struggle. I feel so bad for her husband. She’s mean to him. Poor guy is probably afraid of her. I have a hard time empathizing with her. It’s almost like she likes being a victim. I was done with her when she failed to acknowledge presence of her friends’ kids because of what SHE was going through. I thinks she’s a miserable person.

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