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Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world.

On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality.

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Main Event Ma‪n‬ Roy "Flash" Gordon

    • Self-Improvement
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Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world.

On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality.

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    4 Questions to Help Determine Your Purpose

    4 Questions to Help Determine Your Purpose

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    Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world.

    On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality.
    It's kind of hard to decide what that next step is or how you can best spend your time if you don't know that final destination.

    Google maps doesn't really work without the address of where you're trying to go. Sure, you can use it as a map and kind of just start heading South because you know that's the direction where the place you're going is but good luck getting there soon or at all, really, without those coordinates.

    Life without purpose or goals determined by trying to fulfill a purpose is a lot like wandering around using google maps without a final destination put in. You're not going anywhere or just wasting time doing things that don't really matter to you or move your life in any specific direction. Times passing you by and you're just going where it takes you.
    One of the biggest results of men, and anyone really, lacking vulnerability is the fact that they have held back on executing on what is it is they really want to achieve in life. It probably isn't fair that I say that this is an issue that everyone faces because, a lot of people simply don't know what they want in life in life.
    Ikigai has four foundations that help individuals gain clarity on what a fulfilling purpose would be for them. They come in the form of questions. You're gonna want to whip those journals out for this because as always, pen and paper is mightier than letting answer just float around in your brain.

    What do I love?
    What am I good at?
    How can I make money?
    What does the world need?
    From Grit by Angela Duckworth
    A few other questions to consider:
    What do I like to think about?
    Where does my mind wander?
    What do I really care about?
    What matter's most to me?
    How do I enjoy spending my time?
    What do I find absolutely unbearable?

    • 11 min
    Rejection 2: Took an L? Here's 3 Ways to Bounce Back

    Rejection 2: Took an L? Here's 3 Ways to Bounce Back

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    Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world.

    On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality.


    So, you listened to MEM EP 3 and it got you fired up to ask your crush out because Flash told you it was a great idea aaaaaaaaand womp womp they hit you with a big fat NO. YIKES…..awkward…..
    BUT you knew this could happen and didn't let the possibility of no stop you in your journey to find your ideal partner. That's already a win and the action you took still brings you one step closer to your vision!
    There are several paths you can take after facing rejection and taking the L. You can use one or better yet, all 3 of the paths I want to tell you about today to bounce back and keep moving forward to your vision OR the easier and most obvious path. And that's turning around, using rejection as evidence that you aren't able to win, and letting that take you back to sitting on your ass.


    Rejection is an opinion and should be treated as such
    So after rejection you can:
    1 Use it as an oppurtunity to practice acceptance.
    2 Use it as feedback and work on the areas in which you need to grow to position yourself for success
    3 Use it as motivation to get better, prove people who doubted you wrong, and make your main event dream mfing a reality.

    • 17 min
    Rejection 1: How to OVERCOME Your Fear of Rejection

    Rejection 1: How to OVERCOME Your Fear of Rejection

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    Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world.

    On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality.
    Resources: 100 Days of Rejection by Jia Jiang
    Highlights
    Today I'm going to talk about something that goes hand-in-hand with our old friend vulnerability. What we are all afraid of and something that stops you from winning before you even play the game because it stops you from playing in the first place. Yes, if you didn't guess from the title of the episode, you've probably guessed it by now. It's misery's bestie, failure's cousin, and achievement's arch nemesis. Give it up, for that mean old son of bitch, rejection.

    How many hopes and dreams are staying hopes and dreams all the way until the day their owners die? Far more than are achieved- that's for sure. We all have that friend that's always saying, "One day I'm gonna do this and that and blah blah". Shit, maybe you are that friend. Until I actually put this podcast out I'm sure I was earning some judgement as that friend haha. Could be a lot of stuff but the fear of rejection is riding along with every reason for that inaction.


    Tribalism is part of our nature as humans. From way back when we were new to the planet all the way to today, our social ties have always been important. Back then, if you didn't stick with the group, it meant certain death by saber tooth tiger or something equally as deadly. So in a very literally sense, rejection = death.

    Self preservations remains the most base human motivation. All fears developed as a way to protect our lives and a fear of rejection is definitely among those fears. It being built into our genes back then meant we'd have a better shot of survival because we would not veer away from would was acceptable in the group. That meant we wouldn't get kicked out of the cave and have to face the saber tooth tiger on our own.

    Fast forward 200,000-ish years and great news for us! There are no prehistoric creatures taking up residence where most of us live yet our fear of rejection still takes hold pretty much the same way.


    We've all suffer a massive L or 2 or 100 in life. It's part of playing the game called life. And it sucks. It shows up very much like a punch to the stomach. It can make you not wanna eat. It can make you lose sleep. It can be super lonely. Of course we want to avoid that feeling. But it's when we let the last rejection stop us from going out and getting the next opportunity that we really lose. That next opportunity or one soon after could be the YES we're seeking and so many are willing to let that potential pass them by because of a past pain! How much has passed you by already? Idk how many billion dollar ideas you've had but what HAS passed you by?

    I know one answer that we all share and that's time. And it's gonna keep passing us all by. With time comes regret. And I'll share this with you. I get that same gross feeling that rejection causes when I think about regret.
    Roy tells a story about leaving his job as a police officer to more seriously pursue his professional wrestling career.
    Write down what will happen if you are rejected in that request. What does

    • 18 min
    How to JUMP START Your Success

    How to JUMP START Your Success

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    Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world.

    On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality.
    Highlights:
    For some, asking for help is as vulnerable as it gets. It's admitting to someone that you have something wrong or out of order and you are unable to come to a solution without going outside of yourself, or your knowledge, or your resources. Admitting that simply equals weakness but a lot of us know, that is not the case. The opposite is true. What definitely does make your body weak is when it's subjected to disease, mental health problems, and the destructive behaviors associated with the accumulation of both, though. And that's exactly what we as men ask for when we do not seek the help we need.
    655,000 Americans die from heart disease a year. Over half are men. And I only mention this disease cause it's the leading cause of death for men but like many diseases, there are early signs and several predictors that involve a general lack of care for your body. In 2018, nearly 70% of all suicides were committed by white men alone. Men commit suicide at a rate 3.5x-ish higher than women. There are warning signs that not everyone may be aware of but with suicidal thoughts being so deep and personal AND the stigma attached to any mental illness, it's even less likely men would share these things and seek help.

    I'm kicking this thing off with health today but I can think of times in several other areas in which I didn't seek the help I needed. Times in school, times when I was on the grind and struggling financially….. hell, how many of us have ended up paying a shit ton more for car repairs because we ignored the early signs of a problem that needed fixing. Something that if we handled earlier, could have saved a lot of money, time, effort, or whatever. This whole episode is about ignoring those things that we could have addressed sooner but didn't.
    The first is, your concern over "the social cost" of asking for help. We feel like we lose face. Our perceived notion is that asking for help will make us seem weak, less competent, and unable to handle ourselves is often backed up by nothing. I think I will always coming back to the importance of making sure we do not allow others thoughts about what we do stop us from doing what's best for us. In this case, not only do people not care if you ask for help, (or anything that you do really) but the opposite is true. Research shows asking for help, in fact, can make you seem more competent, aware, willing to take risks, and confident. All these things add up to making you more respected and seem wise, even, amongst your peers.

    Another thing I want you to think about…What are the consequences of you not seeking the help you need. I acknowledge, a lot of times, small potatoes. Those late car repairs cost a pretty penny, but it's not the end of the world. But developing a serious illness could cost a lot more. Time, money, and ultimately, your life in some cases. Not so small potatoes. Not caring about yourself is one thing. But who else do these consequences affect?

    Are you someone's partner, brother, uncle, father? What would massive financial strain do to them? What would

    • 12 min
    How You Can Start to Win TODAY

    How You Can Start to Win TODAY

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    Summary:
    I want to open with mentioning, the name "Main Event Man" suggests that this is for men, and it is. I am focusing on helping men break free of their basic ass lives and stop doing more and being better for themselves and the world. If you're listening to this and you don't identify as a man, thank you for listening this far. You can do A LOT to help by bringing these ideas to the lovers, fathers, brothers, friends, SONSin your life will help on the mission to help all men grow into the best version of themselves and maybe you can even share The Main Event Man podcast with them.
    As humans, but men in particular, when we hear the word vulnerability we associate the word with weakness.

    We all know the "old school" man. The man's man. Oh no, I love this one, the "traditional man". We have them in our lives in some capacity. Maybe grandfathers, fathers, and uncles might come to mind. They maybe passed this "traditional" viewpoint down to brothers, cousins, and friends. Think about how "tough" they are.
    When it comes down to it though, whether from the images in media or from the parents that raised us, men are generally socialized to hold down any feeling that could identify them as weak.
    Another draw back from hiding true feelings is that you can get used to hiding those feelings or intentions and therefore not make moves to reveal true desires OR take risks that open you up to failure/hurt/rejection
    By normalizing the regular and healthy expression of emotions beyond what we're known for and giving all men a greater capacity for vulnerability, men as a whole have access to a happier, healthier life. A life that invigorates those around them too.

    • 15 min
    Who Are You Performing For?

    Who Are You Performing For?

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    There is a lot of writing on what motivates us, each type of "desire" we feel, norms etc but when it comes down to it we can simplify things and lump all of it into two categories. Humans do what we do for one of two reasons. We want to move away from pain or move towards pleasure. Looked at another way, we want to look good and avoid looking bad.
    Think about when you put on your nice clothes. Do you do that for you? Or do you do it so you look good to others?
    The list goes on. There are totally exceptions to this rule but if you look at circumstances in your life and peel away layers, you will find your need to look good/ avoid looking bad at the root.
    Whether it's a fight or overachievement for the sake of other the tendency to make decisions based on how you might look to others ultimately disempowers you. In the fight scenario, the guys who are headed to getting into a fight think that in this scenario they are avoiding the pain of looking bad to others but, ironically, are moving themselves closer to physical pain. In the student example, the kid thinks his hard work will keep him looking good in his parents eyes and that will keep him happy, but really his pulling himself away from a fulfilled life of doing what it is he truly wants to do. So there is often times a trade off in the game of looking good/avoiding looking bad.
    To do big things or things others are afraid to try. To be vulnerable or exhibit ways of being other people are uncomfortable with. To go against your parents dreams for you and live your life chasing your dreams for yourself. All these things come with the possibility of displeasing, shaking things up, doing the opposite of what's expected, or even "disappointing" others and as uncomfortable as dealing with those consequences may be, on the other side of them is growth and a shot at what you actually want to accomplish in life.

    • 13 min

Customer Reviews

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47 Ratings

RCG 10/218 ,

Motivational

I love hearing the little pieces about Flash’s life and how he’s encountered the topics he touches on in his real life. I’ve enjoyed listening so far. I believe anyone would benefit from listening. Highly recommend.

Mayamileyy ,

AMAZING!

He speaks so fluidly and the way he communicate to audiences is effortless. The ideology behind this podcast not only help men but also women to understand the other sex better! Keep up the good work :)

Andy_Goode ,

Really helpful, inspiring series

This is a really great series. Each episode is thought provoking, providing thought on some really important topics, geared towards men. The subject matter isn’t superficial or patronizing, but provides actual and actionable insights into the things that matter. With each episode only 15 mins, or so they are the perfect length to listen with a cup of coffee.
I’m not a “self help” guy, but I surprised myself with how accessible and good this series is. Take a listen, it only takes the time to have a coffee!

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