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Ask yourself a few questions: Is it wrong for a self-proclaimed spiritual leader to make a high-priced sex tape on purpose to get more exposure for her work? Is it unethical to outwardly say you are brainwashing your audience? Is it bad to advertise that you run a cult and seek followers? Is it unsafe for someone to be obsessed with celebrity culture and dream to be famous one day?

Or is intent everything? 

In episode 26 of the Maker/Mistaker podcast, you are in for a treat. Today's guest is Unicole Unicron, who describes herself as a "Pop Star Cult Leader and Digital Salvationist, or spiritual transhumanist... highly productive and creates content on a variety of platforms."



She's one of the most interesting and creative humans I've ever met. She too suffered from severe anxiety and depression and feeling like she did not fit in no matter where she went. She describes tools on how she was able to find her way out of the darkness of depression and into the light of self-love and joy.



Her goal is to inspire others to live in a constant state of JOY and she uses a variety of digital platforms to express that message. But what makes her so unique and interesting to me is how she flips the script on the methods that the occult elite have used for centuries to manipulate the masses and gain their own version of power based on greed.



But what if you knew how to use those techniques to spread a positive message and empower others?



I love how she just flat out OWNS her desires and intentions.



She certainly challenges a lot of assumptions and at first glance you might think she's crazy. But she's incredibley aware, intellegent, and thoughtful. Listen to the episode and decide for yourself.

Updates from Me:



Get your Starseed Patches here!



* I soft-launched Starseed Supply Co.



* Follow @StarseedSupply on Twitter

* Follow @StarseedSupply on Instagram





* I released a pack of Peaceful Alarm Ringtones for iPhone and Android.



 

Topics Covered in this Episode



* Who is Unicole Unicron?

* Why does she call herself a Pop Star Cult Leader?

* How did you get your occult aesthetic?

* Do you call yourself a Starseed?

* What was your awakening like?

* Suffering from severe depression and anxiety

* Not fitting into society no matter what she did

* Healing out of depression, slowly but surely

* We The Arcturians book triggering Starseed awakening

* Not resonating with the Pleiadians at the time

* Why do you use the term Brainwashing?

* Brainwashing for good and not greed

* What is JOY and how to

* The path to Joy = Ascension

* Obsession with celebrity culture

* Celebrities are our modern-day spiritual leaders

* Why we are obsessed with celebrity?

* Finding your light in the darkness

* Your mess is your message

* Unialarms - waking up to affirmations

* Collaborating with other Starseeds

* Living in the Unitopia - Heaven on Earth

* The big picture - what does the future look like?

* Unicole's five steps to JOY



* Cynicism

* Attention

* Truth

* Creation

* Time & Dedication

I have an unbelievable story to share with you.

I had the chance to talk with the world-famous Samantha Hess, the affection-starved woman who divorced her husband to cuddle everyone she possibly could. She turned cuddling into her job, seriously. And then she got famous for it.



She claims to have spent nearly 75,000 minutes cuddling in the last 2.5 years and has been featured on the cover of the Wall Street Journal and America's Got Talent. Through her greatest struggle, a touch-deprived marriage, she was able to find her purpose and offer her unique gift to the world.



It's such a fun interview. She's one of the most lively humans I've ever talked to.

"I was online and came across an article about a man giving away free hugs at a Saturday market. He was punked by another man offering Deluxe Hugs for $2. When I saw this my first thought was 'I would pay someone to just hold me and make me feel loved without wanting anything more,' and then it hit me that there had to be other people like me who go through moments when they just need a no strings attached hug. I decided that everyone deserved a place to go when these moments strike where they can feel like they matter without all the complications. "

The image that inspired Sam to start a cuddling business

Some gems from our conversation:

"No I can't wait around for him. I have to choose happiness for me. I had to choose ME. Absolutely 100%, I was worth the risk."



"You don't have to be the best version of yourself to be worthy of love."



"Why isn't there a Starbucks for hugs?"





Topics Covered in this Episode



* How her cuddling skills landed her on America's Got Talent

* Becoming world-famous for cuddling

* Making a living and changing the world one hug at a time

* Ending a 13 year relationship because of

* Dating after divorce - 100 dates in 3 months

* Abandonment issues

* Living with abundance without attachment

* Not depending on the "Happily Ever After"

* Loving and being happy RIGHT NOW

* There's gotta be so many people out there hurting and lonely

* What about the "sexual" part that is bound to come up?

* Boundaries in cuddling and what you can't do

* Cuddle certification program

* Healing the inner-child in all of us

* Staying positive and keeping shame and judgment out of the picture

* Focusing on personal growth and self acceptance

* How to get a job as a Professional Cuddler

* Embracing awkwardness as proof that you're challenging yourself

* How do you scale the cuddling business?

* Finding your purpose through where you struggle the most



Links:



* CuddleUpToMe

* Certified Cuddlers

* Samantha's book Touch: The Power of Human Connection

* Samantha on Facebook and Twitter

* It's not about the nail



About Samantha

Samantha Hess, owner of Cuddle Up To Me has established herself as the industry expert. In the last 2 years she has professionally cuddled more than 50,000 minutes,  written a book, opened a 3,500 sq ft retail space, hired 3 employees, designed and ran the world’s first cuddling convention, and now she brings the only hands on certification program that will standardize the profession and legitimize the industry. Samantha Hess is on a mission to take over the world, one hug at a time!



Samantha recently released Touch: The Power of Human Connection. The book explores the science and psychology behind cuddling and offers detailed ...

Hey friend, I just got back in from being outside in my car after midnight in the rain - recording a podcast! This episode is just me talking about what I've been interested in the past few weeks. I've been reading a lot about manifesting money as well as The Red Pill.



When a man wants advice on dating or relationships, where does he go? His parents? His friends? The internet usually. And if you do any searching for this, you're sure to run across the PUA (pickup artist) scene and The Red Pill. Both are large, community driven groups aimed at helping men have more success with women. Both have been criticized for being crass, manipulative, and misogynist. But I found myself endlessly curious and it took up a large part of my reading this month.



Find out what I think in this episode of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast. I talk about healing my inner Alpha as well as my curious look into the BDSM community and The Red Pill

Topics Covered in this episode:



* My move to Austin begins this weekend!

* Starting my new life and what I want to do when I get there

* Digital Detox Update: Quitting Facebook and Instagram

* Taking Yoga classes, Kirtan, and Meditation Group

* Worried about money, scarcity mentality

* How much money I make per month

* Manifesting money and abundance

* Get Rich Lucky Bitch book on manifesting money

* A Happy Pocket Full of Money book

* The Red Pill subreddit

* Alan Roger Currie - Mode One book

* Leandra Vane interview on my podcast

* Four letters that helped me feel better as a man: BDSM

* Fetlife BDSM community

* The Rational Male blog and book

* Men being raised in a Feminist Culture

* David Deida - Way of the Superior Man

* No More Mr. Nice Guy

* Why desire fades in long term relationships

* The dance of masculine and feminine energies

* Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity book

* Catalyst Con in Chicago

This was such a fun episode, but it's definitely one of the more far out episodes. And I love it! Today's guest is Krista Raisa, aka Galactic Faery. She and I recently collaborated on a music project as well as some Starseed patches!



Krista is such a fun and beautiful soul. She's got a wildly popular YouTube channel and has written a bunch of books. She makes a ton of cool patches and clothing items on her Etsy store and channels extraterrestrial beings called The Orion Council. This episode was really fun as we get to share the story of Krista's awakening and realization of her Starseed nature and channeling abilities.

Find Krista Raisa on the web



* Krista Raisa official site

* Krista "Ezoterrarist" on Soundcloud

* Krista Raisa - Galactic Faery - on Instagram

* Krista Raisa on Twitter

* Krista on YouTube

* Krista's Angels creations on Etsy

* Krista on Facebook



About Krista Raisa

Krista Raisa is an accomplished psychic medium, multi-dimensional channel, intuitive artist, spiritual teacher and healer. She is well-known internationally thanks in large part to her success as a YouTube sensation. Her YouTube Channel has thousands of subscribers from all across the globe. With an African-American, Finnish and Lakota ancestry, she was raised in New York City, and has lived and studied in Finland. Currently she resides in Sedona, Arizona.



Krista’s mainstream education includes Master’s Degree studies in English Literature with a heavy focus on Psychology and Cultural Studies. Non-conventional studies include certification as an Angel Tarot Reader by Doreen Virtue as well as having attained the level of Master in Usui Reiki Healing. Krista is bi-lingual speaking fluent English and Finnish, as well as Spanish basics. Her flair for art and hip-hop serve as other mediums for self-expression.



Awakening to the spiritual nature of reality began for her at an early age when she built an altar in her closet at age nine, but it wasn’t until 2011 that it moved to the forefront and became the main driving force in her life. Krista always had a strong desire to help our planet and the life living on it. From a very early age she developed a strong connection to Mother Earth and the Nature Spirits, and as her psychic abilities continued to develop she eventually became aware of her cosmic origins and ancestry as a Starseed. A Starseed is someone who’s soul or spirit has Extra-terrestrial origins. We are all part of a connected conscious universe that is alive and teeming with life.



Krista is a contactee and an ambassador for a collective known as the Orion Council. In 2011 this collective revealed themselves to Krista as she spontaneously began trance channeling in a Whole Foods car park! Orion Council are a benevolent group of E.T.s, accompanied by Angels, Archangels and other conscious forms of life. Krista has since authored 6 books on Spirituality, Metaphysics and Self-Help topics, some of which can be purchased from Amazon.com. Furthermore, her hand-made arts and crafts are highly rated on Etsy.com.



Krista is available for private readings, life coaching, workshops, group sessions, teaching, live events, and public speaking. She is very knowledgeable in a multitude of areas and is passionate about transposing star consciousness with art and music.

I'm quite excited about this episode of the podcast. I talk with Leandra Vane, author of one of my favorite books Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Disability, Femininity. It might be one of my more "controversial" episodes because we talk openly about sex, porn, disability, kink, BDSM, sexual fantasies, open relationships, fear, shame, and shit. Leandra has a way about her that makes these subjects feel relatable and safe to talk about.



Leandra Vane - The Unlaced Librarian

I loved her book. Here's my five star review I just posted.

One of the best books I've read in a while. Such honest and intimate writing. It was so relatable and I found myself feeling inspired and hopeful for my own "sexual coming-of-age" in my 30s. We may not all have the same challenges, but are all "passing" in some form or another. Meaning, we try to fit into society and "be normal", but are hiding our true selves underneath fear and shame. Leandra puts this struggle into such beautiful words. She doesn't hold back and has the courage to talk about taboo subjects with such intelligence and vulnerability. I can't recommend this book enough for anyone who is trying to be more authentic and true to themselves

Topics covered in this episode:



* Having a disability

* Feeling different from everyone else

* Fear and shame around our bodies, sexuality, and kinks

* Femininity and "one of the guys"

* Shit... yes, shit.

* Bowel and bladder issues in dating

* BDSM and Kink

* Honesty and authenticity

* "Passing" as a "normal" or a socially acceptable person instead of being ourselves

* Pornography and "porn therapy"

* Erotica and fan fiction

* Devotees and disability fetishists

* Body Identity

* Sexual objectification

* Open relationships and polyamory

* Ethical Non Monogamy



Get in touch with Leandra Vane



* The Unlaced Librarian blog

* Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Femininity, Disability book

* Leandra Vane on YouTube

* Leandra Vane on Twitter

* Leandra Vane on Facebook

In this episode of the Maker/Mistaker podcast, I welcome April Hannah back on the show to discuss the book Attached - The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love.



Listen to the show by clicking the play button above, or find this episode in your podcast app or in iTunes.



The idea of attachment styles in relationships is interesting. It's an attempt to shed new light on the patterns we have experienced in our relationships. Do we tend to attract unavailable partners or ones that want to control us? Do you have a fear of commitment or a fear that you'll never find the one? This book explains three different styles - anxious, avoidant, and secure. Personally, I thought the book was interesting and definitely helped make me more aware of some of my patterns. But I felt like I could relate to ALL the different styles, even within the same relationship. Sometimes I feel anxious and overly worried if the person isn't as close as I'd like. But then I'd feel anxious if they were getting too close. Hah!



Whether you like labels or you don't, I think it's a cool way to look at it.



Anxious attachment is rooted in the fear of abandonment. You crave being close to a partner but fear they won't ever love you as much as you love them.



Avoidant attachment is rooted in the fear of losing independence or freedom. They like being in love, but are hypersensitive to being controlled or suppressed.



The secure attachment is what you think, more balanced. There doesn't seem to be any overriding factor that constantly stresses out a person with a secure attachment style.

First, some updates from me this week:



* Black Friday deal is still on! Wake Up VIP Package is now Pay What You Want

* Currently Reading - Leandra Vane's new book Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Disability, Femininity - Love her honesty and authenticity. She's inspires me as a blogger and writer.

* Also finished reading Outrageous Openess: Letting the Divine Take the Lead by Tosha Silver and Meditations on Tantra by OSHO

* Created another song called Look Around You and also a new track called Galactic Faery Grime for my Starseed sister Krista Raisa



Which one are you?

You can take the quiz here http://www.attachedthebook.com/compatibility-quiz/



When I took this quiz, I had a particular relationship at the forefront of my mind and I got anxious attachment. Yet I feel like the definition of secure suits me better. And while reading this book, I found that I resonated a lot with the avoidant tendencies - but I think that's because I'm just getting out of a 12 year relationship/marriage and I don't feel inclined to jump into a seriously committed relationship without exploring the single life for a little bit.



It's hard to date and be romantic or sexual with women knowing you aren't looking for the next long term partner. That produces some avoidant anxieties there! I'm currently more about exploring options and finding out what's out there. So while I love being in love, I don't want to feel possessed. Whereas when I was 20, I was more inclined to pair up and be exclusive. I do love intimacy and closeness, and I'm not historically an avoidant, more anxious. Unless they are too controlling... Errm, I don't know what I am! :-)



Even though I don't feel like I fit a particular label, it's helpful to know there's nothing wrong with me.