Do you ever feel invisible?
So many of us do, especially as we age. We can't get the bartender's attention, salespeople look through us. Our family thinks the toilet paper is magically replaced by elves in the middle of the night. Invisible.
And then we stop seeing ourselves. We no longer feel vibrant and complex. When I'm in this place, it usually means that I'm doing everything for my family and feeling unseen and unappreciated. I say, "I'm the mule," or "I'm Dobby [from Harry Potter], waiting for someone to hand me a sock." I think of myself like an animal or a mythical creature -- less human.
The antidote to this isn't to change the bartender, salesperson, or your family (although you can try). The antidote to feeling invisible as we get older is to embrace our own humanness. By increasing our tolerance for the hard parts of being human (eg, embarrassment, mistakes, mixed emotions), we let ourselves be visible. It's like a membership fee for the human club.
In this episode:
⭐ Why we need a visceral, felt sense of the richness of adult humanhood
⭐ How being invisible makes us less human
⭐ Why robots and AI aren't better at life than we are
⭐ How embracing mistakes as a membership fee for the human club increases our tolerance for them
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