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I share my raw, relatable, dating and life experiences to help singles find more joy and happiness after divorce. I'm Stacie Wimer, an optimistic 43 year old twice divorced mom of one amazing teenage daughter. You'll get practical tips and strategies you can implement everyday to experience more joy.

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I share my raw, relatable, dating and life experiences to help singles find more joy and happiness after divorce. I'm Stacie Wimer, an optimistic 43 year old twice divorced mom of one amazing teenage daughter. You'll get practical tips and strategies you can implement everyday to experience more joy.

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    Ep24 ~ I'm Good Over Here

    Ep24 ~ I'm Good Over Here

    In this episode I share how I am at a peaceful, content, happy place in life with no romance...I'm good over here.

     In this episode, I focus on three main topics.
    My experience after going through my first divorce helped me to brace and prepare myself for what I experienced during my second separation and divorce. This is not my first rodeo.  I wasn't surprised that my second divorce wasn't easy, cheap, or quick.   I've spent a lot of time working on self-development and my relationships with loved one. I've gone to therapy off and on for over a decade.  I've read books, researched online, and listened to podcasts.  I think on this stuff a lot. I reflect. I pray. I talk about my interpersonal relationships with friends and family.  I try to learn.  You have a choice. You can isolate yourself, pity yourself, punish yourself, feel guilty, numb yourself, distract yourself... OR you can make healthier choices. DO THE WORK!Use your time doing things and being around people who make you happier and healthier!I had an epiphany! I think I am happier by myself because in my marriages I kept secrets, experienced stress, chaos, manipulation, and lying.  I now have peace and stability on my own. Also, because I've never experienced a mutually loving, supportive, emotionally  healthy relationship I simply don't know what I am missing.  I think recovering from divorce can be harder for those who had relatively happy marriages where they shared a deep love and a balanced because they miss those things. Recovering from divorce is a process and everyone's journey is different.  This is just a little piece of mine.


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    • 42 min
    Bonus Ep9 ~ Dirty Details of Single Mom Travels

    Bonus Ep9 ~ Dirty Details of Single Mom Travels

    In this episode I share details of 3 dates I went on while I was traveling with Lanie.

    First, I met up with a guy I had met on Bumble in Colorado Springs, CO. We call him Bulldog.

    Second, on the same Colorado trip, I discovered Nashville Nic was actually nearby to Vail where Lanie and I stayed a few nights.

    Lastly, I tell the story of meeting up with my Bumble friend, "California" , in Manhattan Beach, CA.

    These Bumble dates will most definitely be in my book. Spoiler alert... these innocent vacation dates were only the beginning of getting to know each of these guys...

    Ep23~ Well, we all have stories...

    Ep23~ Well, we all have stories...

    My friends share their funny dating stories in this episode to entertain you and to remind you that we are ALL in this together! (Yes, I stole the title from the 1996 movie, Swingers.)

    It's of important note that my friends from this episode are either still actively dating OR are in a committed relationship with someone they met online.  I love how they all shared their embarrassing stories but each made a strong point to let you know they didn't let these incidents dissuade them from dating.

    The show kicks off with my girlfriend sharing a hilarious story of freaking out on a guy while she was in a state of paranoia.  

    Secondly, a male friend of mine tells of a very inebriated woman on a first date and then a second catfish story.

    Then, another girlfriend shares her story of a first date sleepover gone wrong.

    Lastly, I wrap up with some short stories that were sent to me in DMs. 

    BIG THANK YOU to my friends for taking the time to record for me and to Alex for compiling three different types of audio for this one! I LOVE my TEAM!


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    Ep22 ~ Cigars, dick pics, and other dating do's & dont's

    Ep22 ~ Cigars, dick pics, and other dating do's & dont's

    This episode was recorded live at Ash Cigars in Kansas City, Missouri with a group of local singles.

    In this episode, we discuss:
    Cigar Smoking v Cigarette Smoking - is there a difference?  (We say YES!)What are single people looking for after 40? I think people are looking for different things at different parts of their journey...excitement, sex, fun, an escape, friendship, to build a network, OR a sense of comfort, security, avoidance of being alone.How do you hit on someone in public but not offend or seem creepy? I think it's b******t that we have to overthink this. I think we should feel confident to walk up to someone and say something flattering or say something funny and just see where it goes.Why do men think we want dick pics turned into a fun discussion between my male friend & I about sexualizing the initial flirtation stage of online dating.How do I balance my career, parenting, podcasting/writing, and dating... I prioritize & dating is at the bottom of the list. This topic morphed into a discussion of how my podcast is affecting my dating life.How do you kindly decline a date or second date? A friend of mine reminded us that it's ok to meet awesome people and it not be a match.Do men or women really want the truth when their date feels catfished or deceived or that they've mischaracterized themselves?We discuss talking with/dating multiple people at the same time.First date ideas/opinions on where to go and how much time and money to invest.I had so much fun having these conversations with my friends.  I hope you enjoyed listening!
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    • 58 min
    Bonus Ep8 ~ Dirty Details of When You Meet Your Person You Will Know

    Bonus Ep8 ~ Dirty Details of When You Meet Your Person You Will Know

    When I started planning this episode, I started thinking back on how I was able to come up with such a long, clear description of the qualities I hope to find in a future partner in the original Ep16. As I reflected, I decided that it was because of two things - 1. I've examined my past relationships and learned from them. 2. I've experienced a tremendous amount of self-discovery in the past couple of years.

    In this episode, I begin by taking you back in time to 1993. I share the story of my first love and the evolution of our relationship. I draw comparisons between my very first boyfriend and the two men who I married. In examining these relationships, it's easy to see tendencies I have to want to control, nurture, and provide emotional support for my significant others.

    Then, I discuss dealbreakers and red flags. I talk about my personal dealbreakers (babies, young children, difficult exes) and encourage you to know what yours are and avoid them. I also talk about red flags and how I have a tendency to recognize them but a harder time avoiding them.

    Lastly, I talk about the idea of settling. Settling and compromising are two different things. I discuss how it pains me to hear of divorced people settling for a relationship where they are mistreated or unhappy simply because they would rather be in a mediocre relationship than be alone. I caution that if you do settle for a relationship you know is not fulfilling you are not only compromising your happiness but you're denying yourself the opportunity to meet someone who could potentially be a better partner.

    Ep21~ Single Mom Travels

    Ep21~ Single Mom Travels

    In this episode, I explain why travel has been a priority to me since separation and how it has impacted my relationship with my daughter, Lanie.   I share my motivation and rationale for trips that my daughter we  went on in 2019 and 2020.  Also, I encourage you to consider sharing travel experiences with your child(ren).

    If you thought this was going to be an episode of me glamorizing galavanting around the country with my daughter in the first year after my divorce, you'd be wrong.  I begin by talking about how I tacked Lanie onto a work trip to Chicago before we had even moved out of our house. 
    On Day1 we shopped the Miracle Mile, rode the Ferris Wheel at Navy Pier, ate at Chicago Pizza and Oven Grinders in Lincoln ParkOn Day2 we went to the Hancock Building and hung out at their observation deck, did Tilt and sky deck at Willis Tower, saw the Bean, ate Stan's donuts, Garret's popcorn, rode the LOn Day 3 we hung out with my boss and co-workers.  We ate a fancy brunch at Maple and Ash, and went to Soho House.Our 2nd trip together, was in June 2020 to Seaside, FL.  We went on this trip to escape our apartment.
    We relaxed at the beach, went to the Great Southern, Bud & Ally's, and Modica Market.We found our rhythm of how we travel together as a pair... I get up early to walk and explore, we eat and adventure during the day, we call it a night pretty early.Our third trip of 2020 was in late July/early August to Colorado.  We took this trip to continue with tradition and to avoid a massive water leak in our apartment. We had already  packed to move into our townhouse.   
    We started by staying a couple of nights at Cheyenne Mountain Resort in Colorado Springs.  It was a beautiful spot.  We went to Garden of the Gods, and explored the area.  We ate at Urban Egg, Denver Biscuit Co. , and Dos Santos Tacos. I met a Bumble date I had been talking to while we were there. The drive from Colorado Springs to Vail was incredibly beautiful and we had never done that before.In Vail, we stayed at Lions Head. We rode the gondola up to the top of Vail Mountain and did the mountain coaster.  I hiked down by myself.We went river rafting and horseback riding. We ate at  Blue Moose Pizza, La Nonna, Fall Line, and Vintage Vail.Our fourth trip of 2020 was in early November.  This was Lanie's dream come true. We flew to San Francisco and drove the wondrous Hwy1 down to Los Angelos.
    On Day 1 we explored San Francisco. We ate at Boudin at Fisherman's Wharf, went to Ghiradelli Square, drove Lombard St, saw the Full House house, drove the Golden Gate Bridge, and stayed the night in Half Moon Bay.On Day 2, we had lunch at La Bicyclette at Carmel-By-The-Sea, drove 17 mile drive, and stayed in Monterey. We stopped at all of the beautiful spots, including Spanish Bay, Lone Cypress, and Pebble Beach.  We even had a snack and drink at the Pebble Beach Lodge.On Day 3, we drove directly to the Bixby Bridge and followed the incredible twisty-turns drive through the redwoods down the coast of Big Sur. We stopped in Paso Robles in beautiful wine country and landed at the famous Madonna Inn in San Luis Obispo.On Day 4, we drove further south to Santa Barbara, ate In and Out in Ventura, and fell in love in Manhattan Beach. Lanie did schoolwork while  I met a Bumble date I had been talking to for months!I encourage you to consider some sort of travel with your children.  It has been an incredible way for Lanie and I to bond and to share experiences.  










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    • 57 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
138 Ratings

138 Ratings

DexcomJenn ,

So genuine, fun and relatable!

I love this podcast so much! Thanks for talking about the good, the bad and the ugly while staying upbeat. Keep it up girl!

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Fun. You’re so cute!

Thanks for sharing. Your voice is easy to listen to. Just a fun listen ❤️❤️❤️

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Such a fun & relatable podcast!

Thank you so much for sharing!! I am loving the podcast! It is relatable, honest & it’s so nice to hear from a divorced mom about dating. Love this!!

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