Many Minds on the Issue The Crisses

Sometimes things happen, and we get shame-triggered. This week, when something happened, we realized almost immediately that it was an attempt to exile us from community and that we were feeling shame and where it originally came from. We were able to work on it and heal it. We share a post-mortem of that exploration and journey as an example of memory reconsolidation. We wrote & recorded that section of this post on Monday (May 22, 2023) & Tuesday (May 23, 2023), respectively. Saturday — we're positive this bit of healing really took. We're good on this issue. It's been put to bed. Start a new chapter.

Trigger warning: This episode contains 2 sound effects, talk of bullying, fighting, our ex-husband is in the hospital. We cry a bit (about him), sorry about that. He's doing OK — but that was where we were at that moment. More warnings in the episode. As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

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Episode Transcript
Understanding Memory Reconsolidation

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Onboarding is what we call helping stuck residents become more present in the Here & Now, and work on coconsciousness.

What does it generally take to help system members who are stuck in PTSD loops or trapped in the There & Then to get free, or become more present in the Here & Now? We give a little history for how we figured it out, and an overview and big picture of the process we use in the United Front Boot Camp and the book United Front: Recruits, with hints on how you can work on freeing your lost headmates.

Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

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Rescue Missions - https://kinhost.org/Main/RescueMissions

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The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

To subscribe to our podcast, please see our page on Anchor.fm.

The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

To subscribe to our podcast, please see our page on Anchor.fm.

Everyone needs an anchor or a base for exploring life. Some get it from family or friends, and if something shakes it, it can be devastating. Join us for an episode exploring how to have a reliable way to depend on your own internal system for structure, support, and safety so that you limit your reliance on externals for your deepest and most dependent needs.

Content Warning: our young folk front, discussing the topic, and we dissociate through a large portion of the episode. We do not consider this content to be appropriate for young folk to listen to and work on. There are mentions of how external folk may be unreliable, or even dangerous, and even when children are speaking, none of this is child's' play.

Recorded May 21, 2019, and we finally got housing March 2020. This episode is finally being published July 6, 2020.

There will be a related session at the Plural Positivity World Conference called "Building a Reparenting-Focused Community".

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https://youtu.be/1lObwvgwkMc -  Building a Reparenting-Focused Community from the Plural Positivity World Conference - on YouTube
https://youtube.com/pluralevents  - Plural Positivity World Conference on YouTube
https://PluralEvents.org - Conference website

Boundaries and Empathy (011)
Important concept for our System Trust Issues series. Do other people's emotions overshadow your own? Do you have a hard time protecting yourself from emotional outbursts? Do you know where you end and other people begin? More on what is separate, and what ought to be.

When the world pushes up against us, it can penetrate our defenses and leave us defenseless, or with unmanageable boundaries and leaks inside and out. What are boundaries? How do boundaries relate to empathy and what do we need to fix them?

This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues. And this will also tie in to a later episode on Cording & Decording.

Trigger warning: Panic attack, crowded subway car. Mentions of anger, emotional manipulation and blackmail. Someone theoretically punching a wall. This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.


episode transcript New
As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa) (010) New - the boundary between internal and external reality
How to Re-Associate with Your Body (007) New - the boundary between ourselves and our body
Trigger Topics: Conformity (004) New - our social boundaries
Welcome to DID: We Are Not Your Enemy (009) New - inappropriate internal boundaries
Getting a Feel for Empathy
United Front Boot Camp: Barbed Wire or White Picket Fence?
United Front Boot Camp: Home Renovations: Intercom or Holodeck?
United Front Boot Camp: What are you letting in?
United Front Boot Camp (blog)]
The Crissing Link Series (books) New
The Crissing Link Series (books) New

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We happily interrupt our regular podcast to say it's DID Awareness Day! And as such, we're giving you all a special episode — the January 13th recording of our lecture Beyond the Movies: Debunking myths about DID & plural systems.

This is long. Just over 1 hour and 20 minutes. You may have heard it before. Feel free to skip it if you don't need it!

The original recording is available for download, there's a script/transcript, and a call-in playback phone number which are all here:

https://liberatedlifecoaching.com/Events/20190113-BeyondTheMovies-DebunkingMythsDIDPluralSystems

Please spread this recording around to your singular contacts, or slip the phone number on their desk, or anything you can to get them to listen in and debunk those awful myths that keep getting foisted about whenever a new movie about someone with DID or who is plural comes out.

If you're a singular ally — or are considering becoming one after listening to this — welcome aboard! We are so glad to have you.

Keep on spreading the truth about plurality & DID!  Thank you!!

A discussion of how important names and re-naming can be for individuals, both external and within a plural system.

Names have power, and what we name our headmates can create harmony or friction within the plural system. Buck of Crisses takes us through several types of hurt we can commit from mis-naming, labeling, and dead-naming.

Trigger warning: If you have a problem with a certain nickname of `Richard`, this episode may bother you. As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

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NamingNames — a mostly-unrelated manual entry that may be expanded.

The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

To subscribe to our podcast, please see our page on Anchor.fm.