Marriage Puzzle

Juli and Thomas Hobby
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Marriage is a lot like putting together a brand new puzzle. You see the picture on the box and think "I can do that!" or "That would be fun to put together." But once you open the box you realize how much work is involved in turning over all the pieces, finding the edges and what fits in the middle. In marriage, you are constantly turning over new pieces to find out where they go. We'll be talking about our marriage in an attempt to pass along any wisdom we can to others. We hope you'll join us on the journey where together we'll work on marriage, one puzzle piece at a time. 

  1. 1d ago

    Episode 111 | Commitment #1: Confession and Forgiveness in Marriage

    Marriage doesn't expose your spouse — it exposes you. We kick off a new series through Paul David Tripp's book Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make, starting with Commitment #1: a lifestyle of confession and forgiveness. We unpack why "I'm sorry, but..." isn't a real apology, why sex should never substitute for reconciliation, and why forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling. Get a copy of the book at: https://www.marriagepuzzle.com/books Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

  2. Aug 10

    Episode 110 | Healthy Communication: Why You Shouldn't Make Your Spouse Read Your Mind

    Healthy communication is such an integral part of marriage. In this episode, we break down some differences between healthy and unhealthy communication. Practical, honest, and rooted in scripture — real tools for healthy marriage communication. Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

  3. Aug 3

    Episode 109 | Money Q&A: Stay-at-Home Value, Spending Permission & When She Out-Earns You

    We're answering your real marriage money questions: how to value a stay-at-home spouse's contribution, whether you need "permission" to spend money you earned, and what to do when your wife makes more than you. Plus, the life insurance number most one-income families never think to calculate. Honest, practical, faith-filled money talk for married couples. Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

  4. Jul 27

    Episode 108 | Money Tensions in Marriage: Why 'My Money vs. Your Money' Is Wrecking Couples

    In this episode, we dig into one of the most common (and most avoidable) wedges in marriage: finances. If money has ever been a source of tension in your marriage, this episode is for you — and your spouse. Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠

  5. Jul 20

    Ep. 107 | Forgiveness 101

    Our 7-year-old daughter taught us more about forgiveness in one bedtime meltdown than any marriage book ever has. In this episode, we unpack the difference between apologizing and forgiving, why pride turns "I'm sorry" into a standoff, and how to set a boundary without creating conditional forgiveness. If this episode helped you, share it with another couple and be sure to follow Marriage Puzzle wherever you listen to podcasts. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com

  6. Jul 13

    Ep. 106 | Part 2 - Pornography, Solo Intimacy, and Marriage

    In episode 106, the second installment of our Q&A series on pornography and solo intimacy, we dig into some of the toughest questions couples wrestle with but rarely say out loud. Does adult content quietly reshape what we expect from sex with our spouse — and can it chip away at attraction over time? Is pornography a bridge that draws a couple closer, or a wall that keeps them apart? And when it comes to toys or adult content in the marriage bed, are we adding something that enhances intimacy, or inviting an invisible third party into the relationship? We explore the tension between a healthy and unhealthy marriage bed, grounded by Jesus' words in Matthew 5:28 — "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." For a safe, no nudity, environment to check out ways to spice up the intimacy in your marriage, check out our partners Romantic Blessings. Use this affiliate link to receive a special discount on anything you buy. And for more ways to keep your intimacy spicy, check out our partnership with the Intimately Us app via this affiliate link. This app lets you connect directly with your spouse and only your spouse to answer questions, or send spicy messages to one another without the fear of accidentally sending it to the wrong person. If this episode helped you, share it with another couple and be sure to follow Marriage Puzzle wherever you listen to podcasts. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com

  7. Jul 6

    Ep. 105 | Pornography, Solo Intimacy, and Marriage

    Is watching pornography cheating, a harmless outlet, or a destructive addiction? In this episode, we tackle one of the most polarizing topics in marriage: solo intimacy vs. shared intimacy, and what happens when one spouse initiates and the other rejects. We ask (and debate) the hard questions: Is it healthy to choose solo satisfaction over your spouse when you're in the mood?Does one spouse's rejection of intimacy justify the other turning to solo intimacy or pornography?Why do men and women often experience desire so differently — and what can couples do about the gap?Is there a double standard between how we view male consumption of pornography vs. female consumption of romance novels/media? We also talk through practical alternatives couples can turn to instead — like how you can still spice up your intimacy through a partnership we have with a safe no nudity website (see info below) — and look at what Scripture says about intimacy and self-control in marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 ESV “But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” For a safe, no nudity, environment to check out ways to spice up the intimacy in your marriage, check out our partners Romantic Blessings. Use this affiliate link to receive a special discount on anything you buy. If this episode helped you, share it with another couple and be sure to follow Marriage Puzzle wherever you listen to podcasts. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com

  8. Jun 29

    Ep. 104 | Attachment Styles in Marriage: Connection vs. Space

    When your spouse gets home after work, what do they need most: connection or space? One of the most common marriage conflicts doesn't happen during a major disagreement—it happens during the first few minutes after one spouse walks through the door. In episode 104 of the Marriage Puzzle podcast, we're discussing attachment styles, emotional needs, and why some people recharge through connection while others recharge through solitude. We'll explore how these differences can create misunderstandings, feelings of rejection, and unnecessary conflict when couples assume the worst about each other's needs. You'll learn how to interpret your spouse's behavior through grace instead of fear, create healthy "coming home" rhythms, and build a plan that helps both spouses feel loved and understood. Key Takeaways: • Why some people need connection while others need space after a long day • How attachment styles impact marriage communication • Common assumptions that create unnecessary conflict • How to stop interpreting your spouse's needs as rejection • Practical ways to create a healthy after-work routine • Simple conversations that help both spouses feel valued This Week's Challenge:Talk with your spouse about what helps each of you transition from work mode to home mode. Create a simple plan that honors both of your needs and commit to following through. "Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others."— Philippians 2:4 If this episode helped you, share it with another couple and be sure to follow Marriage Puzzle wherever you listen to podcasts. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠ Threads: https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com

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Marriage is a lot like putting together a brand new puzzle. You see the picture on the box and think "I can do that!" or "That would be fun to put together." But once you open the box you realize how much work is involved in turning over all the pieces, finding the edges and what fits in the middle. In marriage, you are constantly turning over new pieces to find out where they go. We'll be talking about our marriage in an attempt to pass along any wisdom we can to others. We hope you'll join us on the journey where together we'll work on marriage, one puzzle piece at a time. 

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  • Creator
    Juli and Thomas Hobby
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    111
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Juli and Thomas Hobby
  • Show Website
    Marriage Puzzle