The Married to Doctors podcast pushes away the stereotypical "doctor-wife" image and is a space where people from all different backgrounds can find a community, explore solutions and share stories about the unique challenges that come from being in a relationship where medicine often feels like the extra partner. We discuss loneliness, debt, communication, romance, moving, parenting and more.
The host of Married to Doctors is Lara McElderry, a trauma surgeon's wife, who has been navigating the medical world for the last seventeen years as she’s supported her husband through medical school, residency, a specialty change, fellowship, as well as raising five boys. She hopes the podcast will inspire others to share and implement ideas for how to make successful homes happier.
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#210: Last Episode
In this last episode of the Married to Doctors Podcast, Lara shares her hopes for her listeners in what they have gained from her show. Lara has increased the dialogue for physician families and physician spouses and became a voice for the physician family community.
"I hope that throughout this podcast you have been able to go from pessimistic thinking, or a little bit more on the pessimistic side, to the optimistic side, as you have seen more possibilities for you and your physician marriage." -Lara McElderry
#209: Navigating IVF, Med School, and Residency
In this podcast episode, Lara chats with Michelle Streeter, an IVF Support Coach, about their fertility journey while on the medical journey. Michelle shares her experiences and tips from what she has learned while navigating IVF, med school, and residency.
"One of the things about being married to doctors is that you have to learn to navigate that uncertainty and the shifts and changes that come with all the things. It's not to say I didn't do it begrudgingly sometimes, but that is part of the thing we did or didn't sign up for, right?" -Michelle Streeter
#208: Intimacy and Connection in Medical Marriages
In this episode, Lara chats with Vanessa and Dr. Jeep Naum about intimacy and connection in medical marriages. The Naums help physicians save their marriage, family, and bank account.
"I think the big part was we needed to get to the place where we were talking with each other. And that he could connect with my feelings of, 'Hey, look. I need help. We're in this family life together. I know your job is extremely important, but I need help too.'" -Vanessa Naum
#207: Embracing the Realities of Being Married to a Doctor
In this flashback episode, Lara talks with Donna Rovito, editor of Physician Family Magazine. Donna shares some of her experiences being in a medical marriage for over 30 years and how the medical profession has evolved over time.
Lara and Donna also discuss the importance of support for physician spouses and the best marriage advice Donna says she ever received.
“As the spouse of a physician, there are so many ways that you can contribute to your community and to your own well-being that there’s no reason for anybody to sit at home and feel bad and feel lonely because there is a huge support group out here and how ever you find that, however you find us, we’re here.” -Donna Rovito
#206: Affairs in Physician Marriages
This replay episode jumps back to an earlier episode you may have missed if you are new here! Lara talks with marriage and family therapist Yasman Mostajeran about the relationship characteristics that often cause affairs, how to avoid attachment issues, and how to regain trust in a relationship that has suffered a betrayal.
"The affair is a symptom of something happening in the relationship, so this is your opportunity to either rewrite your marriage and create a whole new story together and make it so much better, so much stronger than you were before, or throw your hands up in the air and give up and just let the relationship die.” - Yasman Mostajeran
Surgeon Life and Family Life
Enjoy this episode on discussing the ways in which surgery life is and is not compatible with raising a family. For more on the membership, visit www.marriedtodoctors.com
A must listen for all physician familes
This is a must listen for all physician families!!! Lara has truly found the answer for any couples problems and the way she presents the solutions are clear, fun, and relatable!
My husband started medical school in his late twenties, and I felt very isolated because family members and friends couldn’t quite understand the experience but most of his cohort were in their early twenties and there wasn’t much support for spouses/significant others. Finding this podcast validated so many of my emotions and the episodes/topics have provided me with easy openings to discuss my feelings and our family’s experience with others.
I’m so grateful for Lara sharing her talents and putting herself out in the world. I started listening to her podcast around a year ago. I have cried, laughed, and most importantly have felt validated and understood as I’ve listened to the experiences shared by Lara and the guests she has interviewed. I look forward hearing more during season 2!