Masculine Psychology David Tian

There’s a certain problem that touches the core of men’s struggles, but it often flies under their radar. This problem sabotages intimacy, confidence, and connection, leaving only anxiety and depression in its wake.
I’m referring to sexual shame—and it’s something that happens to men both unconsciously and consciously. 
That’s why in this episode, I’m going to help you understand where sexual shame comes from, why it has persisted over centuries, and give you the roadmap to break free from these chains. 
Listen now. 
Show Highlights Include:
How sexual shame not only sabotages intimate moments, but also shatters your confidence, connection, and authenticity (2:00)  This quick mindset shift is the first step towards overcoming your sexual shame (3:00)  The weird way studying philosophy and ethical theory can wipe away the seeds of sexual shame inside you (8:29)  3 theories that explain why men feel sexual shame (and how understanding these theories helps you conquer your shame) (10:39)  How religiously-induced sexual shame lingers in your psyche long after you leave the religion (and how to root it out from your subconscious completely) (18:55) 4 ways sexual shame manifests in intimate relationships (24:58)   Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.
For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/
Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

One of the best ways to become more attractive to women, to feel more fulfilled in your life, and to generally boost your happiness is by building up your internal self-worth.
But this practice is easier said than done. And men today often make the mistake of trying to build their self-worth on external sources, like needing attractive women to be attracted to them. This not only backfires, but creates an unrelenting source of neediness that’s waiting to poison any relationship they get into. 
That’s the bad news. 
The good news?
Even if you rely on external validation for your self-worth today, it’s possible to fix this. I did this myself after building my persona on external validation, going through an existential crisis, and attempting suicide. 
But you don’t have to go through these same struggles if you listen to this episode. 
In today’s show, you’ll discover how you can cultivate a sense of value and self-worth that’s rooted in yourself. You’ll learn how shifting this mindset not only makes you more attractive as a person, but also leads to healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. And I’ll share some practical tips for starting your internal self-worth journey today. 
Listen now. 
Show Highlights Include:
The “world within” secret for building authentic, unshakeable self-worth that doesn’t hinge on anyone’s opinion of you (1:55)  Where does the need for external validation come from and how does it spoil a relationship from the inside out? (2:53)  Why “shame-based programming” from your childhood keeps you stuck in the friend zone (and how to avoid putting yourself in the friend zone) (9:13)  How pegging my own self-worth to how women viewed me led to me attempting suicide (and how to prevent making the same mistakes in your love life) (13:03)  The proven “AFR” method for creating your own source of validation instead of relying on external sources (16:42)  3 practical ways to start uncovering your emotional wounds that prevent you from building internal self-worth (and how to easily turn these into a daily routine) (20:28)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.
For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/
Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There’s a psychological condition that’s been flying under the radar for too long. It’s a form of PTSD that builds up from more minor-seeming traumas you experienced throughout your life. And it may be the saboteur of your dating life and relationship success.
Worst part? 
Most men have no idea it’s lurking in the shadows of their psyche.
So, what’s this condition? 
It’s something called Complex PTSD, or c-PTSD for short. It makes the work seem like an endlessly challenging place. But by understanding it, you can learn to lessen its grip and stop its control over you. 
In today’s episode, you’ll discover what Complex PTSD is, how it starts and grows, and how to overcome it—whether you find it lurking in your psyche or a friend’s or lover’s. 
Listen now. 
Show Highlights Include:
Is “Complex PTSD” haunting your relationships and dating life? Here’s how to find out and thwart it if it is (0:52)  Why c-PTSD happens in interpersonal relationships and how it can be triggered by simply swiping on dating apps (5:16)  2 real life examples of how c-PTSD plays out in careers, relationships, and life in general (7:10)  The insidious way “mundane traumas” can build up in your psyche that can sabotage promotions, engagements, and steal the joy from life (11:25)  3 simple ways to help a friend or girlfriend struggling with c-PTSD (without offending them) (16:04)  How group therapeutic coaching helps you navigate the choppy waters of c-PTSD without worrying about repercussions of your vulnerability (18:43)  How to develop coping mechanisms for c-PTSD so triggering events don’t throw you into chaos (21:06)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.


For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/
Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There’s often a fine line between love and neediness, especially for men. Women have a sixth sense to sniff out neediness, which can leave you confused and unconvinced unconditional love even exists. 
But when you look closely into the differences between love and neediness, you’ll see how diametrically opposed these two states are. 
Love comes from a place of abundance, neediness from lack. Love is based on internal validation, neediness on external validation. 
But if you can’t even tell the difference between the two, it’s impossible to bridge the gap from neediness to love. 
So, how can you bridge the gap and transform neediness into love? 
In today’s episode, you’ll discover the difference between love and neediness, practical steps to cultivate self-love and suffocate neediness, and how to nurture unconditional love in relationships (even if neediness rears its ugly head).
Listen now. 
Show Highlights Include:
How to spot the early signs of neediness before they wreck your chances of finding true love (1:43)  The subtle mindset shift that frees you from the toxic stranglehold of neediness and warps you into love (4:51)  Do you cringe when you find yourself becoming needy? Here’s how to bridge the gap between neediness and love (6:08)  Why people pleasers struggle the most at finding unconditional love (and how to avoid common mistakes people pleasers make—even if you are one) (8:29)  How healthy boundaries prevent unconditional love from morphing into unconditional neediness (10:54)  The indestructible two-step antidote to neediness (12:30)  This book will not only stop your neediness in its tracks but also helps you build unconditional self-love (18:50)  Practical “self-reflection” steps that steer you away from neediness and open the door to true, unconditional love (25:18)  How to transform neediness into an opportunity to deepen communication in relationships (28:52)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.
For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/
Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Many men don’t understand the difference between sadness and self-pity. And this lack of understanding comes with a big cost: You sacrifice joy and growth when you confuse sadness for self-pity. 
Now, this isn’t your fault, per se. Most modern men grew up believing toxic masculinity myths like that crying is a sign of weakness. Not only is this false, it’s objectively wrong and science has proved this. 
When you embrace and process sadness in a healthy way, it’s no longer an emotion to be feared but an opportunity for growth. But when you ignore, neglect, and repress your sadness, it can morph into self-pity, which, besides nuking your happiness, also leads to actual health problems. 
In today’s show, you’ll discover how to spot the crucial differences between sadness and self-pity, why self-pity is so detrimental to your emotional and physical health, and tools to navigate sadness in a way that opens doors not closes them.
Listen now. 
Show Highlights Include:
Why confusing sadness with self-pity sabotages your entire experience of life (0:22)  How to use gut-wrenching sadness to open doors to your higher self instead of letting it slam doors shut (2:04)   The “Self Pity Quicksand” that traps you in your own head, prevents you from growth, and spirals you into destructive actions (3:25)  How masculinity myths not only cause mental and emotional pain, but keep joy and fulfillment out of your reach (6:18)  Do you think it’s unmanly or weak to be sad? Here’s why this toxic thought process will block you from true love (9:39)  The scientific proof that sadness leads to profound self-growth while self-pity leads to high blood pressure, cortisol, and a weakened immune system (12:45)  How to embrace your emotions instead of shying away from them with the “signal” mindset shift (17:26)  4 tools that will help you embrace sadness without devolving into the quicksand of self pity (20:39)  A real-life example of how to turn self-pity into sadness and growth (26:44)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.


For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/
Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

A relationship is an investment from both parties. When these investments tip to one side or another, it plants the seeds of resentment and destruction. 
This is why nice guys and people pleasers who bend over backwards for their partner find themselves cheated on and heartbroken. While bad guys get the girl (even though it doesn’t blossom into true love).
The best way to ensure a relationship is growth-oriented and fulfilling is by balancing the investment scales. But how do you do this in a non-manipulative way? 
That’s what we discuss in today’s episode. Besides discovering how to balance a relationship’s investments, you’ll also learn common pitfalls men make that tank their attractiveness, how to improve your self-worth, and why setting boundaries allows love to blossom. 
Listen now. 
Show Highlights Include:
How men unknowingly plant seeds of resentment in their relationships when they commit this mistake… (1:15)  Why buying your girlfriend the most expensive ring in your budget may cause her to get cold feet (5:54)  The counterintuitive reason only aiming for sex in a relationship ensures you don’t have it or a deeper connection with women (17:17)  A few ways to increase your girlfriend’s investment in your relationship and strengthen your connection (17:47)  The “Trading Technique” to use on your first few dates that makes your date dream about you when she falls asleep (21:34)  Why endless pampering ruins almost as many relationships as cheating (24:51)  The single most effective “Attraction Amplifier” that most men are afraid to use (27:44)  How you plummet your perceived value after a date goes well (29:21)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.
For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/
Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery