Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain Karlee Fain

Most days, you have a to-do list that’s brimming with responsibilities and errands, all begging for a checkmark. 
But here’s a question…
Where is your name on that list? 
Cultivating strength through your own thought leadership is a BIG component of boundary-building. 
But in order to get there and start to pave your path towards your best living and your most meaningful work, you’ve got to be on your list, too.
This week, Karlee explains why, in order to create the boundaries that will sustain you, you’ve got to trust yourself. And in order to built that trust, you have to become your own trusted thought leader. 
In this episode, we’ll revisit the definition of a healthy boundary and learn why boundaries and thought leadership go hand in hand. You’ll hear stories from thought leaders who bounced back from the boundary deep end and found themselves in much calmer waters. You’ll also learn why boundaries become easier with time, and why creating them doesn’t have to equal drama.  

If you’re ready to be the more nourished, steady, and enlivened version of yourself (that you know is hiding in there somewhere) then this episode is for you. 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
The importance of authentic thought leadership (1:26)How to keep moving in the direction of fulfillment (3:11)The definition of a healthy boundary (5:14)3 relatable thoughts around boundaries (6:52)Creating strategic reminders to include yourself (12:20)
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Course Info: Better Boundaries, Finally
Episode 147: Up For a Game of Boundary Tic-Tac-Toe?| 9 Indicators that Your Ready To Upgrade Boundary Game
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media.

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Did you snap at someone you care about recently, and immediately you felt like a terrible person? 
Does it feel like every time you try to “relax”, your mind can’t help but switch to auto-pilot and process the events of the day?
Do you have a time-sucking habit of acting out imaginary conversations in your head?
While the outcomes might look a little different for everyone, the symptom is the same.
Broken boundaries.
It’s time to write yourself a permission slip so you can mend what’s been breached and connect with what’s real. 
This week, Karlee shares wisdom from the most recent session of Better Boundaries, Finally that will help you shore up what’s been broken and invite healthy boundaries back into your life.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize the gaps between the person you are now and the more rested, balanced version of you that you want to become. You’ll hear how truth and vulnerability can offer you dignity in times of trouble. You’ll come away with practical questions to contemplate when you sense a boundary has been breached that will help you start navigating every aspect of your life from a singular, more authentic, sense of self. 
If you’re ready to shore up the broken boundaries in your life and find more ease and authenticity, then this episode is for you. 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
The important thing that happens when you embrace vulnerability (2:16)Nuggets of wisdom from Better Boundariess, Finally (4:50)Playing the game of Boundary Tic Tac Toe (7:46)What symptoms of stress and tiredness really mean (12:30)Two practical questions to consider about your boundaries (13:24)
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
The Boundary Academy
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media.

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Is it time to give yourself a break? 
For high-achievers, the answer is probably a resounding, “yes”. 
But when we’re not used to breaking and delegating and resting as a normal practice, sometimes the universe steps in and decides for us. 
And then we scramble. 
Whether it’s a worldwide pandemic, a painful divorce, or even a broken foot, the path forward offers opportunities for growth and, most importantly, a chance to demonstrate vulnerability. 
This week, Karlee shares how an unexpected shift in mobility and independence has reminded her to take a deeper look at the opportunities within this circumstance.
In this episode, you’ll hear why it’s so important to demonstrate vulnerability as a leader, and how these moments of true sharing can improve company culture for the better. You’ll explore real-life examples of turning perceived crises into unique opportunities. You’ll also discover how to turn your next unexpected upheaval into an asset that also allows you to give yourself a little more grace. 
If you’re ready to let go of the hero myth and start giving yourself a little more grace, then this episode is for you. 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Showing truth and  vulnerability in leadership (1:37)Debunking the myth of the solo hero (2:06)The sentence you need to hear when a shift is taking place (5:26)How challenges offer opportunities to change perspective (7:45)Turning defects into assets (11:32)
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 57: Trying To Do It All Yourself? How smart leaders stop being the hero and start building emotional integrity with Tom Steding
Book: Real Teams Win: What Smart Leaders Need to Know Now about Achieving Peak Performance by Thomas L. Steding
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Tom Steding
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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media.

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The concept of enough is a loaded one.
It’s full of our own high expectations. And then, it’s weighed down further by the expectations of a society that’s built around the rungs of achievement.
Do more. Be more. Repeat.
But when we take a step back and reflect upon what has been done already, the shift in perspective can be quite sobering.
Who decides when you’ve done enough?
You do. You decide where the finish line is. And when you get there, you acknowledge it.
It’s time to flip the script on the concept of ‘enough’.
This week, Karlee invites you to culminate on everything you have done, and to celebrate those accomplishments. Because ‘enough’ isn’t achieved through the perspective of anyone else. It’s your choice where you lay down that finish line.
In this episode, you’ll learn why it feels like you’re accomplishing a lot from the outside, but it still doesn’t feel like ‘enough’ on the inside. You’ll discover a check-in practice that will help you change your concept of what’s possible in a day, and celebrate when you’ve reached your self-imposed finish line. You’ll also learn why it’s so important to fortify this method of living and being alongside a community that thrives on nourishment, not punishment. 
If you’re ready to embrace your enoughness and bolster your community with supportive voices, then this season is for you. 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How appearances of enough can be deceiving (4:01)The check-in practice that will help you escape the guilt of not enough (8:17)Drawing a finish line and celebrating what has been done (13:31)Gathering a team where ‘enough’ is actually, enough (15:07)The lonely world of popular isolation (16:42)
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
The Boundary Academy
Episode 102: Feel Like You Don’t Belong? How to invite authentic community through confidence, vulnerability, and self-connection
Episode 137: My Community Runneth Over | Why “self-care” isn’t only about you with Tanika Ray
Episode 141: Feel Like You're Never Doing Enough? | How to hack the comparison complex and find more joy
Ep. 142- Can’t Find Your Finish Line? | How to decide when you truly have done enough
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Maria Sirois
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When it comes to focusing on our mental and physical well-being, the common cure always seems to be to do….something. 
Buy a book, take a class, get a gym membership, whatever it is, it asks for a time commitment. 
When time is already stretched to capacity, adding anything else just puts more pressure on us to do it all. 
So what if instead of adding, we subtracted?
This week, Karlee explains why all of those self-help books and gym memberships are collecting dust. The cure to overwhelm isn’t tacking on more when we’re already chronically busy. If we believe we always have to be doing more, we can’t be present and enjoy what’s already good. 
In this episode, you’ll learn why the idea of self-help can be flawed at its core. You’ll hear powerful methods for feeling the way you want to feel before you reach your goals so that reaching them becomes inevitable and more enjoyable in the process.  You’ll also get the go-ahead to accept that what you’re doing is already enough. 
If you’re ready to flip the script on self-help and tap into a more meaningful way to be well, then this is the episode for you.  
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
A softer method of communicating (3:56)The sticky trap of the self-help industry (6:15)How to align your energy with your intentions (8:53)Proven ways to bolster your well-being (11:38)The permission slip you’ve been waiting for (12:59)
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 141
Episode 142
Episode 143
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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media.

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You make time for the people in your life. You’re the one they call on, and they know they can depend on you to come through when it matters. 
And yet….
In your own moments of need, it doesn’t quite feel like you have the same resources to call upon.
Not only does being the ‘available one’ put a constant draw upon your time and energy, but it leaves you tapped dry when you’re in need of nourishment yourself. 
This week, Karlee shares what happens when you give and give to everyone, but you don’t get back in return. Relationships that cause us to overextend ourselves aren’t sustainable. But there is a way to recalibrate them, or close the door on them if need be, and it doesn’t have to hurt. 
In this episode, you’ll learn to identify emotionally taxing relationships that are leaving you feeling overextended and determine which ones lack the crucial element of reciprocity. You’ll learn how to step back with a steady kindness. And you’ll hear how you can start to seek out deeper, more meaningful, and more reciprocal connections that will fill your cup. 
If you’re ready to close the door for good on one-sided relationships, then this is the episode for you. 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
When relationships aren’t reciprocal (1:39)Finding sustainability in how much you give to others (5:21)Being capable and caring toward yourself (6:25)The Crowd’Em Out Approach (7:16)Being intentional and standing with yourself (9:15)
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 141
Episode 142
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Connect With Karlee: 
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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media.

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