339 episodes

Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

Mom and Dad Are Fighting | Slate's parenting show Slate Magazine

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.5 • 916 Ratings

Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

    Makeup-Obsessed Toddler Edition

    Makeup-Obsessed Toddler Edition

    On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Aymann and guest-host Michaela Smith discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 4 year old daughter has recently become obsessed with wearing makeup. Should her mother be worried about this new development or just let it play out naturally?

    Later, they have some advice for a parent whose toddler is dealing with some separation anxiety. What can she do to help support her daughter through these difficult feelings?

    In Slate Plus: It’s almost officially fall! So we’re discussing what we’re most looking forward to and some of our favorite fall activities to do with the family. 

    Recommendations:

    Elizabeth recommends reading Wet Cement: A Mix of Concrete Poems with your kids.  

    Aymann recommends giving out compliments more often! It’s been a saving grace for him and his wife during the stressful first few months of parenthood.  

    Michaela recommends getting ahead of your child’s anxiety or other big feelings by consulting your pediatrician about counseling. Learning coping skills early on can really help us later in life!


    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. 

    Hosts 

    Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.

    Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. 

    Michaela Smith is the mom to her three littles based out of Colorado Springs, CO. 


    Social

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    • 59 min
    Bored at School Edition

    Bored at School Edition

    On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose first grader is bored at school. Should her mother have a talk with her daughter’s teacher or wait and see if things change in a few weeks?  
    Later, they have some advice for a parent whose 11-almost-12-year-old son is campaigning hard for a cell phone. Would a phone serve as a helpful tool or a terrible distraction? 

    In Slate Plus: We’re getting into the “why’s” of it all! Why? Because it’s the favorite and sometimes very annoying question of many young children. What can parents do to answer their kids' endless “why’s” without losing their cool? 

    Recommendations:

    Elizabeth recommends Wise Owl Hammock & Straps for easy comfort when you’re camping with the family. 

    Aymann recommends the Self Cleaning LARQ Water Bottle for purifying water for you and your baby on the go. 

    Jamilah recommends making your own bootleg sangria! Using grand marnier and/or rum, wine (red or white), kids fruit cups, fresh fruit, sugar and orange juice. Cheers!

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. 

    Hosts 

    Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.

    Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.

    Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. 


    Social

    @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux

    @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/

    @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom

    Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.
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    • 50 min
    Playdate Etiquette Edition

    Playdate Etiquette Edition

    On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener who feels she’s being borderline ghosted by other parents after their children’s playdates. 
    Later, they have some advice for a parent whose 12 year old son is very set in his views as they pertain to religion but his mom worries that this may cause problems down the line for one of his new friendships. How can she help her son navigate this potential conflict? 

    In Slate Plus: Free-range parenting: what is it and is it for you?

    Recommendations:

    Elizabeth recommends Perler Bead Craft Bead Sweeper to help you clean up all of those pesky beads in one quick sweep. 

    Aymann recommends getting a Kodak Photo Printer so that you can join him in instantly printing out all of those adorable photos of your kids that you have stored on your iPhone. 

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. 

    Hosts 

    Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.

    Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.

    Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. 


    Social

    @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux

    @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/

    @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom


    Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 47 min
    Attention-Seeking Toddler Edition

    Attention-Seeking Toddler Edition

    On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 4-year-old daughter has developed some attention-seeking behaviors with the arrival of a newborn sibling.
    Later, they have some advice for someone whose 6-year-old is struggling to learn table manners. How long will mealtimes be a struggle before the constant and repetitive “chew with your mouth shut and sit at the table” bears fruit?
    In Slate Plus: What to do with keepsakes and mementos that cause physical and emotional clutter? The group discusses their strategies for preserving, or tossing, those letters, drawings, and awards that accumulate over childhood.

    Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.

    Podcast production by Jasmine Ellis and Asha Saluja.

    Recommendations
    Aymann recommends  the subreddit for Dads called Daddit.
    Jamilah recommends Shantrelle P. Lewis’ documentary, In Our Mothers’ Gardens on Netflix.
    Elizabeth recommends the book American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang.

    Hosts 
    Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.
    Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.
    Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. 


    Social
    @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux
    @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/
    @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom
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    • 47 min
    Morbidly Curious Edition

    Morbidly Curious Edition

    On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 6 year old daughter has become fixated on finding a cure for death. 
    Later, they have some advice for a parent whose own parents are excellent grandparents to her children but who often cross some boundary lines. 

    In Slate Plus: The latest UN report on climate change. How can we discuss this with our children without scaring the crap out of them? 

    Recommendations:

    Jamilah recommends AND8 Fitness for people who love to have fun during their workouts. 

    Elizabeth recommends Kids Quip -- an electric toothbrush for kids that will help you get them out the door a little faster in the mornings. 

    Aymann recommends buying an INSTAX Polaroid Camera to hand out polaroid pictures in place of party favors. 

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. 

    Hosts 

    Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.

    Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.

    Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. 


    Social

    @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux

    @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/

    @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom

    Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 56 min
    Bad Friends Edition

    Bad Friends Edition

    On this week’s episode: It’s Dan’s last show before book leave! Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener who is wondering how she should help her son navigate a friendship that’s not so friendly. Later, they have some advice for a mother who would like to avoid talking about her daughter right in front of her, but that’s hard to do when you’re a single parent.

    In Slate Plus: Summer jobs, entrepreneurial kids, and Dan’s crushing camp counselor file secrets are revealed! 

    Recommendations:

    Jamilah recommends the graphic novel Twins by Varian Johnson & Shannon Wright.

    Elizabeth recommends you pack your kids lunches using the PackIt Freezable Classic Lunchbox, the Yumbox and Bee's Wrap!

    Dan recommends watching Netflix’s teen show Never Have I Ever with your older kids. 

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. 

    Hosts 

    Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.

    Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.

    Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.


    Social

    @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux

    @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/

    @dankois on Twitter https://twitter.com/DanKois

    Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.
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    • 1 hr 4 min

Customer Reviews

4.5 out of 5
916 Ratings

916 Ratings

warrior possum ,

Great Podcast

Even if you don’t have kids.

510TFE ,

Terrible new host!

I used to love this podcast, listened every week. They replaced Dan, the only host with older kids, with a dad who has one newborn?? Seriously?? He’s totally clueless and I can’t listen. One of the best things about this show was that over the years it had parents of older kids and teenagers and their perspective. How can a first time dad of a newborn opine on anything? I really miss listening every week, but can’t do it until they have someone else.

orangesmiling ,

another child-free listener who loves this show more than most things

i have no children, and am unlikely to ever have children. i also listen to 4-5 hrs of podcasts per day, so i have some strong opinions and preferences when it comes to podcasts. and this show is one of my absolute faves. i've listened to every single episode, and it's fantastic. thanks, mom and dad hosts, for being hilarious and delightful.

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