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Jamilah Lemieux and Dan Kois share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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Jamilah Lemieux and Dan Kois share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

    The Cross Country Conundrum Edition

    The Cross Country Conundrum Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth discuss parenting anxiety. Is it OK for a letter writer not to be overprotective? Or does parenting anxiety keep children safe? They also answer a letter from a woman whose stepdaughter is struggling on the other side of the country. How can you help when you’re so far apart? For Slate Plus: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth turn their host mics over to THEIR KIDS! The mini-hosts tell us what they like and don’t like about staying home with their parents.
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    Recommendations:

    Jamilah recommends requests that you stay in the house and pay attention to the news. Please, please, stay in the house.

    Elizabeth recommends A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood: The Poetry of Mister Rogers by Fred Rogers and Luke Flowers. Perfect for poetry tea time in your house.

    Dan recommends reading to your kids, even if they may seem a smidge too old. He’s reading The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams.
     
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    • 55 min
    We Are All Homeschoolers Now Edition

    We Are All Homeschoolers Now Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by official third host of Mom and Dad are Fighting… Elizabeth Newcamp! They discuss their new homeschool schedules and Elizabeth gives Dan and Jamilah tips on how to make their plans attainable, especially since they are also working from home. For Slate Plus: TV shows and movies for quarantine entertainment that will entertain kids and parents alike.
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    Recommendations:
    Elizabeth recommends practicing gratitude within the home by writing notes to your partner or writing down a few moments at the end of the day with your kids.
    Dan recommends a label maker. Great for when your milk really needs to be labeled COW JUICE. 
    Jamilah recommends reading “America Is a Sham” by Dan Kois.
     
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    • 1 hr
    The Quarantine’s a-Comin’ Edition

    The Quarantine’s a-Comin’ Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Carvell Wallace to discuss how the Coronavirus has been impacting their areas and what they are going to do if their schools resort to online learning. We also ask Carvell YOUR catch-up questions, as posted on the Slate Parenting Facebook page! For Slate Plus: a listener question from a parent worried about her teenage son and stepson’s not-so-friendly competition for her affection.

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    Recommendations:

    Carvell recommends family time, which we seem to be well on our way to, because we only really have each other.

    Dan recommends wallpaper. Not the wallpaper that requires messy paste. No, we’re talking the wallpaper that’s essentially a glorified sticker. Patterns everywhere!  
     
    Jamilah recommends getting your children involved in politics.
     
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    • 1 hr 5 min
    The All Kids, All the Time Edition

    The All Kids, All the Time Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Emily Farranto to answer a question from a listener who works with kids and is thinking about having her own. Is constant contact with kids overwhelming? We also have a question from a mom whose son was hospitalized at 4 months after getting sick. But now her husband’s germaphobia is making daily life difficult. For Slate Plus: what forgotten historical figures would make the best costumes? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:

    Jamilah recommends preordering the picture book Who Will You Be? by Andrea Pippins.

    Dan recommends Love Letter, a fun, fast card game great for two to four people.
     
    Emily recommends Cowboy Magic, a concentrated hair detangler great for horses...and HUMANS!
     
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    • 49 min
    The Hyphenation Headache Edition

    The Hyphenation Headache Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan is joined by Elizabeth Newcamp and Gabriel Roth to answer a question from a mom debating whether her son should take her last name or her husband’s last name. Or they could hyphenate, but will that burden her son later in life? We also have a question from a dad whose son plays travel hockey, even though he sucks at hockey. For Slate Plus, Elizabeth tells us the truth about homeschooling. Sign up for Slate Plus.

    Recommendations:
    Dan recommends the graphic novel Snapdragon by Kat Leyh, which is about a girl in a small town who finds a witch in her neighborhood.

    Elizabeth recommends “Paint by Sticker” books, a great on-the-go activity.

    Gabriel recommends Music Is My Life: Soundtrack Your Mood With 80 Artists for Every Occasion by Myles Tanzer and Ali Mac. A book that introduces kids to different musical artists.

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    • 48 min
    The Trampled on the Playground Edition

    The Trampled on the Playground Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Elizabeth Newcamp to answer a question from a mom worried about her young kids’ safety at the park. Is it okay to tell off older kids for not playing nicely? We also have a question from a listener who is looking to have a child and wants to set healthy boundaries with her mother when it comes to discipline tactics and alcohol consumption. Plus, a BONUS question from a mother who doesn’t know if she can accept the money her parents set aside for her twins’ college fund. For Slate Plus: a discussion about the division of household labor. Have changing views toward gender equality actually affected who does what in the home? Sign up for Slate Plus.

    Recommendations:
    Jamilah recommends buying a journal to take with you on trips when children aren’t tagging along. During the trip write notes to them and get others you see to write notes. Then when you get back you have a lovely trip memento that they can read.

    Dan recommends Street Angel: Deadliest Girl Alive by Jim Rugg, an action comic about a “homeless ninja girl on a skateboard” perfect for 13-year-olds who like a bit of (but not too much) violence.
     
    Elizabeth recommends installing a Swedish wall gym, which is especially useful for getting the wiggles out on inclement days.
     
    Additional Reading:
    “Young Men Embrace Gender Equality, but They Still Don’t Vacuum” by Claire Cain Miller
    “All the Single Mothers” by Lara Bazelon
    Shopping With Dad by Matt Harvey and Miriam Latimer
     
    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.
     
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    • 58 min

Customer Reviews

Meribethcakes ,

Gross host loves to talk about poop

I used to love this podcast, but I really don’t like the new host, Jamila. Her description of being in the bathroom with her 6(!) year old actually made me gag. She described the stink and how her daughter’s bowel movement was half in and half out.
OMG.
To be clear, this was not a medical situation, she was “keeping her daughter company” on the toilet and describing it in detail to the public.
First, no one wants to hear that.
Second, respect your child’s privacy.
I tuned out for a few weeks only to come back to a description of Jamila taking a dump on the living room floor when she was a child. This host clearly has some scatalogical boundary issues. It’s gross.

pkyama ,

Most informative and entertaining parenting podcast!

This podcast offers different views and parenting tips while making you laugh all the while! Dan is the best but other hosts are tolerable.

Janis34 ,

Parenting is Tough

Parenting is tough, this pod helps get me through. Jamilah’s perspective is refreshing and needed.

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