285 episodes

Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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    • 4.5 • 844 Ratings

Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

    There’s No Such Thing as a Polite 3-Year-Old

    There’s No Such Thing as a Polite 3-Year-Old

    On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Rebecca answer a question about a mother who “feels like less of a parent” now that she shares 50/50 custody of her daughter, post separation. They also answer a question about how to teach a “threenager” to be polite. 

    In Slate Plus: We reflect on Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s passing. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:

    Elizabeth recommends actually using your fancy dishes. 

    Rebecca recommends making the switch to cloth napkins. Bonus recommendation for adults: watch Borgen. 

    Jamilah recommends Celestial Seasonings’ Lemon Lavender Lane tea. 

    Additional Recommendations:
    The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT. 

    Ruth Bader Ginsburg Has Died at 87 by Mark Joseph Stern
    Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Champion Of Gender Equality, Dies At 87 by Nina Totenberg
    Ruth Bader Ginsburg Changed the World by Mark Joseph Stern
    What Ruth Bader Ginsburg Would Want America to Do Now by Dahlia Lithwick
    “She Stood for America. She Stood for Our Values.” by Joshua Keating
    The Quieter Reason RBG’s Death Is Such a Blow by Mary Harris
    A 5-Decade-Long Friendship That Began With A Phone Call by Nina Totenberg
    Amicus Presents: The Class of RBG

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    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. 
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    • 57 min
    Pandemic Friends

    Pandemic Friends

    On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question about a grandmother, who struggles with alcoholism, asking to take her grandkid on an overnight roadtrip. We also have a follow-up question about making friends with other parents during the pandemic. 

    In Slate Plus: We talk about the increase in mom shaming, online and among friends, during the pandemic. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:

    Elizabeth recommends Alphablocks, a Netflix show for younger kids.

    Jamilah recommends finding unique wallpaper and decor from Society6 and Spoonflower. 

    Dan recommends Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, a Netflix show that may be appropriate for teens. 

    Additional Recommendations:
    The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT. 

    Mom Shaming’s Running Rampant During the Pandemic by Rosemary Counter. 

    Mom and Dad Are Fighting: Whoops, a Baby Edition This episode has the original discussion on making friends with other parents. 

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    • 53 min
    Quitting Kindergarten

    Quitting Kindergarten

    On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan answer a question about a kindergartener getting fed up with attending school via screen. They also answer a question from a mom worried that her little one said he wanted to kill her. 

    In Slate Plus: We reminisce on the totally cute, not annoying, cartoons our kids loved. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:

    Dan recommends the Asterix comic series. 

    Jamilah recommends watching P-Valley after your kids go to bed. 

    Elizabeth recommends Write and Draw Your Own Comics for car entertainment perfect for 8 year olds. 

    Additional Recommendations:
    The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT. 

    The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld. 

    The Phineas and Ferb Movie Applies the Matur-inator by Dan Kois. Related, Emily Nussbaum’s twitter thread about Candace Against the Universe. 


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    • 53 min
    What's For Lunch?

    What's For Lunch?

    This episode is brought to you by Target. See how easy it is to get ready for school this year, with Target.

    On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by registered dietitian, Maya Feller, to discuss lunches for in-person and at-home learners. How can parents make sure their kids are eating nutritious meals that still taste good? What can parents do about kids that graze in the kitchen all day? And when should they start packing their own lunch? 

    Follow Maya Fuller on Instagram or her website. 

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    • 30 min
    Fluid Fashion

    Fluid Fashion

    On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a parent adjusting to her young son wanting to wear girls clothing. They also answer a question about a mom who just needs some space from her preteen who glommed on to her during quarantine. 

    In Slate Plus: We settle whether or not it’s ridiculous to share astrology with your kids. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:

    Elizabeth recommends the magnetic tangrams set from Chuckle & Roar. 

    Jamilah recommends Moesha and the Brandy vs Monica Verzuz Battle. 

    Dan recommends watching Lady Bird with your teen. 

    Additional Recommendations:
    The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT. 

    My Son Loves My Little Pony. At 7, He Already Knows That’s Not OK. by Sean Williams. 

    Ackerman Institute for the Family

    What’s Your Sign, Baby? by Heather Schwedel. 

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    • 1 hr 3 min
    Before Bullying Begins

    Before Bullying Begins

    This episode is brought to you by Target. See how easy it is to get ready for school this year, with Target.

    On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Emily Bazelon to discuss bullying. A lot of interactions are classified as bullying, but what instances should actually be classified as bullying? Can parents prevent bullying? When should parents step in? How should children respond if bullying occurs? 

    Mentioned on the show: Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy by Emily Bazelon. 

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    • 31 min

Customer Reviews

4.5 out of 5
844 Ratings

844 Ratings

gigera ,

Very good

I’ve been listening to this podcast for a while. I have to say that I’m not the biggest fan of the new host Elizabeth. She seems like a nice person, but if sometimes feels like she’s trying to portray her life in a way that is very idyllic. She’s a mommy blogger, So do it makes sense, but I find her input a little too “perfect,” especially considering how vulnerable the other hosts seem to be about their struggles as parents.

Sosloblue ,

Please bring back Carvell, Rebecca, and Gabe!

They had excellent chemistry, were super articulate, funny, fair, and although I naught not always agreed but I respected their perspectives. I looked forward to the podcast every week. Now I’d rather go back to older episodes with them on rather than listen to the boring and sometimes annoying new hosts. I appreciate the new hosts trying but they just don’t cut it.

BrookeBreatheHope ,

Out of touch

I recently started listening to the podcast. Honestly, I’ve only listened to 3 episodes and they were all ok. Then I listened to the episode titled “Bosslady in Crisis”. With respect, I could not disagree with their response or opinions more. Their response to a woman looking for solutions to running her business (and supporting employees who are parents) during the pandemic was to change the business model to not be focused on profits and ask less of employees. What?!?!? These people are out of touch with reality! Take this advice Bosslady, and your business will be gone. There is a reason why profits are the focus of businesses... because it supports a business’ operations. While they acknowledge that some businesses may not be able to sustain reduced profits, they blame lack of government support. Where in the world does the government get funding?!?? BUSINESSES THAT MAKE MONEY. While I can appreciate the entertainment qualities of the podcast, the opinions of the hosts are too far out there for me. This one is a firm ‘skip’!

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