Mommying While Muslim is a one of a kind podcast where two American born and bred Muslim moms share their experiences to raise second generation kids. Having experienced both pre and post 9/11 America, they're acutely aware of the unique challenges their families face on top of the regular messes that all moms share. Mommying While Muslim is a space to take back their stories, and tell those no one will air on the news or portray fully or fairly in the media.Zaiba Hasan and Uzma Jafri are moms first, careerwomen second, and global citizens at heart. They meet taboo topics head on because they weren't allowed to do it growing up, not at home or at school and work. They aim to better their immediate households, communities, and their momsisterhood the world over by telling the truths sometimes people don't want to face or to hear. Not everyone has the privileges they have, and they are eager to learn more than they are to share their own experiences. Always looking to give back, they find women and families who need a mic because no one needs a voice; they just need an opportunity to speak. Besides tough social issues, they also tackle political ones because when laws affect their kids, they're coming for them as well as the ones who make them! There's no lane that doesn't get taken here.Along the way, they recruit momallies for Muslim Americans who have been inordinately targeted for the last 20 years. True moms know that ALL our children deserve to be safe, loved, and happy, and we bust every yellow brick on the Islamaphobic road to make sure they all are. If you like good trouble, this one's for you!
Holding Us Back from Naming & Treating Addiction: Muslim Barriers Study
We have a BONUS episode for you this week! There’s explicit content so please be mindful of tiny ears within listening range.
Salah Abu Muna shares his research study that seeks to determine the need for Muslim-centered substance abuse recovery. He needs 10 more Muslim subjects by May 31st and it’s a paid study to boot! Twelve steps isn’t the only way; find out why! We pray this episode will get him the data set he needs to provide a critical resource to Muslim Americans in crisis. Ameen.
Hear about Salah’s personal experience with addiction, the near death experience that fueled his spiritual and physical recovery, as well as his passion for Addiction Studies. His will be the first of many surveys to inform the foundation for Muslim American substance abuse treatment insha’Allah.
Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, ask Alexa, or click on the link in our bio. Share this episode with a friend who may be contemplating an end to their substance use or abuse, or a mom whose loved one may be in crisis.
Note: In this episode, it’s “carotid,” not “cathartic” artery.
Learn about Better Conduct and participate in the Barriers to Muslim Addiction study TODAY deadline 5/31: https://betterconduct.org/Dr. Malik Badri bio: https://www.trtworld.com/opinion/the-father-of-modern-islamic-psychology-dr-malik-badri-s-legacy-44255 Institute for Social Policy & Understanding: https://www.ispu.org/substance-abuse-and-addiction-in-the-muslim-community/ Learn about Millati Islami: https://www.millatiislami.org/Get 24/7 help finding addiction recovery help at SAMHSA: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline or call 1-800-662-HELPWeb: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: firstname.lastname@example.orgFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w
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Sex, Drugs, Porn and Other Addictions
Like almost every episode this month, there’s explicit content so please be mindful of tiny ears within listening range.
Dr. Madiha Tahseen from The Family & Youth Institute joins us today to discuss what The FYI research has learned about porn consumption in the Muslim American community, its effects, and how to prevent it. There are some super surprising facts to learn today, not the least of which is a spike in Muslim porn viewership during the pandemic, but shocking to us: religious kids watch porn, too.
This is neurological issue as well as a behavioral issue, so please listen in to find out how to help Muslim children and family members avoid the path to porn addiction. The first step is to listen to this episode, and the second, per Dr. Tahseen is DON’T FREAK OUT (loosely translated). No Kitty Catty about it ;).
What are porn consumption tells, resources if porn is a problem in your Muslim household, treatments, and prevention? It’s all in this episode and the Shownotes on your podcast app.
Dropping at 6pm EST tonight on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, ask Alexa, or click on our link in bio. Share this episode with your momcrew to add to their mommying toolkit!
TheFYI Website: www.fyi.orgTheFYI Porn Addiction Toolkit: https://www.thefyi.org/toolkits/porn/ TheFYI Digital Parenting Toolkit: https://www.thefyi.org/toolkits/the-fyi-digital-parenting-toolkit/ Dr. Tahseen’s book recc: The Wheel of Time series by Robert Jordan TheFYI on IG: https://www.instagram.com/thefyi_org/?hl=enTheFYI on FB: https://www.facebook.com/TheFYI.org/ TheFYI on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheFYIdotOrg?app=desktop TheFYI on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheFYI_org?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: email@example.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w
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Watering Burning Buildings: My Muslim Kid & Drugs
Tina Khan joins us today to discuss her experience watching her son’s spiral into drugs and mental health crises and what it did to their family. This is definitely an episode you want to hear before you choose to let your kids listen in, but it really does merit a listen by young people to hear what drug addiction does, not just to an individual, but a family and community.
Where are we as a Muslim community in terms of supporting our young Muslims struggling with drug addiction, and just as importantly to our momcrew, are we there for our moms who have a child in crisis like this? If not now, WHY NOT. If not now, WHEN?
Tune in at 6pm EST tonight on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, ask Alexa or click on our link in bio and SHARE this episode link with 2 moms you know so THEY know they’ve got allies and ears with us. Make sure you use your podcast app to look up the links on this one.
Ten years of substance use research in Muslim populations: Where do we go from here?: https://quod.lib.umich.edu/j/jmmh/10381607.0010.103/--ten-years-of-substance-use-research-in-muslim-populations?rgn=main;view=fulltext Substance Abuse and Addiction in the Muslim Community: Facing Stigma and Seeking Support: https://www.ispu.org/substance-abuse-and-addiction-in-the-muslim-community/ Participate in Muslim drug treatment research study: https://betterconduct.org/ Teena’s email: firstname.lastname@example.orgListen to Teena on King of the World podcast: https://www.rifelion.com/shows/kingoftheworld Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: email@example.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w
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Hasan V Jafri on Roe v Wade
Due to the mind-numbing circumstances of this week’s Supreme Court decision, we decided to re-release our abortion episode. Right, critics, we know if our moms got abortions, we would not be born to tell the tale. Your fallacy of logic is too exhausting to even address.
As women, moreover as mothers, we are consumed with grief and anger over what is happening on the daily to threaten our children, but now, even the bodies of our female children? While we regroup and figure out how to take action, we want to reshare our thoughts and some facts about Islam and abortion. Check our shownotes on this one for sure to get the links.
For all these years, the cockroaches have been warning the world about Sharia Law when their own religious laws are SO MUCH more dangerous to women. The irony is maddening. Tell us what you think about Roe v Wade being overturned in comments, but if you identify as male, you should observe and remain silent. As owners of the only set of organs to have laws created to control them, we are hypervigilant right now and have given fair warning to tread lightly or not at all.
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Islam and the Abortion Debate from Yaqeen Institute: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/omar-suleiman/islam-and-the-abortion-debate
Abortion in Islami animated information from Yaqeen Institute: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/omar-suleiman/abortion-in-islam-animated-video
For parenting courses on how to talk to Muslim kids about sex: @thehalalsexpert
State by state restrictions on abortion at Planned Parenthood: https://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/issues/abortion
Muslim Kids and Sexual Activity:https://muslimmentalhealth.com/lets-talk-about-sex-and-muslim-mental-health/
Sex Education Reduces Unplanned Pregnancy:https://www.aclu.org/blog/reproductive-freedom/study-finds-comprehensive-sex-education-reduces-teen-pregnancy
Who is Alex P. Keaton?https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alex_P._Keaton
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Join Zaiba and Uzma with their Eid reflections, prep, and favorite resources. We appreciate our audience following along these last two months during our episodes to prepare for Ramadan, stay strong with our worship in Ramadan as moms spread so very thin, and now we are more than happy to share our holiday with our momsisters.
Learn about easy family-friendly sadaqa projects that can be done the day of Eid. Keep up the good work and see what Zaiba is doing with the sadaqa jar money her kids have collected. Check out the shownotes for awesome links we aren’t paid for, but are happy to share for your Eid prep as well.
Uzma’s recommendations for Eid clothing:Urban Modesty dresses and abayas: https://www.urbanmodesty.com/?gclid=CjwKCAjw9qiTBhBbEiwAp-GE0T9pGcj1GAXVhoPThDat6Abfa0jbIKQIzDJHY3kAahXfbIT0VbPx0RoCIfMQAvD_BwE Aab dresses and abayas: https://us.aabcollection.com/?utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=USA_EN_Search_Brand_EXT&utm_medium=adwords&utm_campaign=&utm_source=&utm_content=modest_clothing_branded&gclid=CjwKCAjw9qiTBhBbEiwAp-GE0Qm-1rXte8zEyp2Tyso7TtxJFxRyP73XMt13NweViU9UvV5esu8mBRoCq7UQAvD_BwE Brands Just Pret South Asian fashion: (832) 886-4084Poshak Houston South Asian Fashion: (713)532-3232 Ask for Anas and say Uzma sent you! MWM does not get any compensation for any of these recommendations.BTS box: https://www.amazon.com/Include-Postcards-Stickers%EF%BC%8CGift-Daughter-Granddaughter/dp/B081DJ19SZ/ref=sr_1_52?keywords=bts+mystery+box&qid=1651174847&sr=8-52 Duck Donuts Virginia: https://www.duckdonuts.com/locations/ Zair Zabr Play for the Names of Allah game: https://zairzabrplay.com/ or contact her on IG @zairzabrplay Hen Khan books for representative literature: https://henakhan.com/my-books/ Iftar boxes Google doc with product links: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IMO5MbNAYziXydmbNqjB--Lf0SibVKGP_vj6ax9FyWE/edit?usp=sharing Uzma’s book recommendation: Zen Parenting by Cathy Cassani AdamsZaiba’s book recommendation: The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary and Sapiens by Yuval Noah HarariWeb: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com Email: firstname.lastname@example.orgFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w
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Muslim Moms' Spiritual Fortitude
Ustadha Safiya Ravat of Suhbah Institute reminds us how to focus on our Ramadan as moms–beyond the food, the rat race, the decor, and all the things we have to continue doing–to build our safe spiritual spaces with Allah SWT.
Uzma sniffs a lot in this episode after Ustadha shares the tafseer of a commonly misquoted and misused hadith. We couldn’t cut out all that helpful audio from our guest. This one’s for all the girls who grew up being told they didn’t belong in the masjid.
Share this episode with 2 moms you know to remind them how amazing they are and how loved they are by Allah SWT. Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Suhbah Institute Website: https://suhbah.com/Suhbah Institute IG: @suhbah_instituteUstadha Safiya’s book recommendations
The Character of the Muslim Woman: Women's Emancipation during the Prophet's Lifetime (Islamic Economics) by Abd Al-Halim Abu Shuqqah Secrets of Divine Love by A. Helwa Ustadha Safiya’s YouTube recommendations:
Prophet Yusuf series on YouTube: https://youtu.be/t2CpKjogBT8
People of the Cave “Men of Angelos”: https://youtu.be/tdnJCaMPzyI
Ustadha Safiya’s podcast recommendation
The Quantum Chronicles: https://thequantumchronicles.com/
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The friends I wish I had
Love hearing the conversations of the cohosts. The sisters are the friends I wish I had at my mosque. Being a convert/ revert and be very isolating and with these ladies I feel like I belong, thank you.
Vital + non-judgmental conversations about hard topics for Muslim moms
Thoroughly love the deep dive into difficult topics through the lens of Islam but done in a ground-breaking earnest, kind and non-preachy way. These beautiful mamas are having hard conversations that we’re all grappling with!
Mashallah!!! May Allah bless you both. Love it!!
I’ve watched this podcast grow from its beginning days to where it is now and I just continue to be impressed. Uzma and Zaiba both put their heart and soul into making a great podcast show which is much needed It feels like I am listening to my elders. Good job!!!
Keep it up.