Moms of Tweens and Teens Sheryl Gould

On today's episode, we're joined by the incredible Dayna Abraham. Dayna Abraham has become a trusted and proven leader in the parenting community. An award-winning, national board-certified educator who has spent over ten years in the classroom, she is the founder of the popular parenting site Lemon Lime Adventures.
She is also the CEO of Calm the Chaos, a seven-figure company that offers support to thousands of parents worldwide. Today we discuss Dayna’s recent book, Calm The Chaos and we talk about parenting a challenging kid and Dayna shares the importance of how we can shift our perspective of how we view our kids and their challenging behaviors AND she shares some great nuggets from her book that will help to ground us in the heat of the challenging moments while finding calm in the chaos.  

Here are some key talking points from the interview:
As an educator, she noticed that kids with behavioral issues often had more going on beneath the surface, and she wanted to find ways to support them.Dana shares her personal journey of dealing with her eldest son's challenging behavior, including being kicked out of preschool and frequent suspensions.Dana discusses the shift in mindset needed when dealing with challenging behaviors in children. Instead of seeing the behavior as attacks or violence, she emphasizes the importance of understanding that the child is struggling and needs support.Dana introduces four key ingredients for addressing challenges: connection, understanding, empowerment, and the parent being grounded. These ingredients provide a framework that can be adapted to each unique family and child, acknowledging that there is no one-size-fits-all solution.Anchors are tools or phrases that ground parents in the heat of challenging moments. Examples include using a memory anchor, such as picturing the child as a baby, or simple phrases like "there is no bear" to signal safety to the brain.Dana shares a powerful example of a conversation with her son highlighting the importance of empowering discussions rather than enforcing strict boundaries.Where to find Dayna:
Calm the Chaos: A Fail-Proof Road Map for Parenting Even the Most Challenging KidsSupport the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERE

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Welcome to the show today. 
When our kids leave for college, it can be an exciting time but also a scary time. When our kids are in our home, we may have an illusion of control or at least some influence on their decisions and keeping them safe and now we can’t make sure that they are okay.


Then they leave, and we worry - will they make good decisions? Will they be okay? What if they are sick and don’t tell me or go to the doctor if it’s serious? Will they make friends? What if they are feeling homesick or anxious or depressed, or what if they go to a party and binge drink?


 It can be a really helpless feeling AND we know that it’s a necessary part of growing up to give them the space and opportunity to make their own decisions, figure things out, and not to be calling them all the time.


Well Dr. Jill Grimes is here to help us. She is an award-winning author of the the humorous and evidence-based “The ULTIMATE College Student Health Handbook: Your Guide for Everything from Hangovers to Homesickness” She is passionate about prevention.


We talk a lot about some of the bigger things that we worry about like alcohol and drugs in their episode and how we can talk to our kids.


As a proud Fellow of the American Academy of Family Physicians, her practical and evidence-based advice covers all ages, genders and body parts. Dr. Grimes has always enjoyed educating, in and out of the exam rooms. Her message is shared across all media platforms, from print magazines and online forums, to radio talk shows and television.


As a parent of freshly graduated college students herself, Dr. Grimes is especially empathetic to the medical challenges these young people experience.
Let’s dive in! 
What you will learn:
What do teen parents need to know about today’s party culture (that is different from what we experienced)?Is “weed” a big deal or not? Isn’t it less dangerous than alcohol?What is “blackout drinking”? (Lots of risks here that both parents & kids don’t realize, including legal risks with consent)Fentanyl use and Narcan availability in college students.Weed's effects on mental health and genetics.
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Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen’s unique needs during these pivotal years.
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Welcome, friend, to the show.
Who is listening and has a strong-willed tween or teen?
If you’re raising your hand - I know how exhausting, frustrating, and overwhelming it can be. 
Wendy Snyder is a Certified Positive Parenting Educator and Family Life Coach known for her work through Fresh Start Family.
I absolutely loved my conversation with Wendy. We talk about the challenges, the feelings of despair and exhaustion you can experience, and the healing journey our strong-willed kids can take us on like no other. 
Let’s dive in! 
What you will learn:
Is there really a way to get strong-willed tweens or teens to comply without nagging, yelling, threatening, or punishing them?What are some steps to increase cooperation and decrease pushback?What is the difference between responsive and reactive parenting? When it comes to discipline, what messages do our kids need to come away with?What connection over correction means.Where to find Wendy:
WebsitePodcastInstagramSupport the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERE

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Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen’s unique needs during these pivotal years.
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I'm thrilled to have Brooke Romney with us today. Brooke is a best-selling author and a book '52 Modern Manners for Teens: Part I & II,' and '52 Modern Manners for Kids'. Brooke brings a wealth of knowledge and practical advice to the table.

In our conversation, Brooke shares invaluable nuggets of wisdom on fostering connection and supporting our kids to excel in relationships, school, work, and life. She doesn’t just focus on teaching skills and manners; Brooke offers fantastic ideas for building traditions and meaningful connections with our kids, especially during Thanksgiving and the holiday season. Her approach is not only educational but also incredibly fun and engaging.

And there's more. For those struggling with gift ideas for tween and teen boys, stay tuned until the end of the episode. Brooke has some great suggestions that you won't want to miss.

So, let's dive in and discover how we can better connect with our teens, teach them valuable life skills, and create lasting family traditions.
Let’s dive in! 

Let’s dive in! 
What you will learn:
What inspired a book on manners, especially with teens?What are the challenges that our kids and teens are facing today regarding manners?You are passionate about the power of connection when it comes to the parent-child relationship - what threatens that connection - how can parents get it back?Ideas for Thanksgiving and Christmas - can you share some ideas to build a connection with our teens?Hot gift ideas this year?
Where to find Brooke:
Books: 
52 Modern Manners For Today's Teens Volume 152 Modern Manners For Today's Teens Volume 252 Modern Manners for KidsWebsiteInstagramFacebookSupport the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERE

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Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources:
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Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen’s unique needs during these pivotal years.
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I think one of the hardest things to figure out as a parent of a tween or teen is when to step in and when to step back, especially when you see them struggling or they aren’t making the choice that you want them to make. 
And when we do step in or offer our advice, it falls on deaf ears or, worse results in an argument.  
Well, my special guest today is Dr. Emily Kline.
She’s here today to talk about her new book, The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids.
In this interview, Emily shares her research-backed approach that prevents power struggles and pushback and builds stronger relationships through better conversations about any topic: curfews, sex, drugs, rock ‘n’ roll, college applications, and beyond. 
Let’s dive in! 
What you will learn: 
What is motivational interviewing, and what are the benefits?When does it make sense to use rewards and punishments to motivate kids, and when does that not make sense?Why do parents get on their older kids’ nerves, and why do our teens and tweens dismiss parents’ input? Understand how to suppress your parental “righting reflex” – the almost irresistible urge to help by offering reassurance and advice.How can we help our tweens and teens navigate their decisions and dilemmas competently?What are some ways to handle conflict that are productive and nurture the relationship?Where to find Dr. Emily Kline:
WebsiteBook: The School of Hard TalksInstagramSupport the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERE

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Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources:
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Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen’s unique needs during these pivotal years.
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As parents, we want our children to take responsibility for their schoolwork, chores, and choices. We want them to grow into independent adults, but when we see them struggling, we sometimes step in and problem-solve, telling them exactly what to do or even doing things ourselves. The problem is the more controlling we are with our kids, the more we can get in the way of them becoming confident, resilient, self-motivated, and independent. 
How do we shift gears to supporting our children’s independence and confidence? How can we do less so they do more?
My special guest, Dr. Emily Edlynn, is here to share her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting, Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children.
This is a great conversation about our struggle with letting go and allowing our kids to be independent and how we can get out of the way and support our tween's and teen’s independence, confidence, and motivation.
Let’s dive in! 
What you will learn:
What does it mean to move from full-service to self-service with our kids? The importance of having a chore routine. Supportive parenting is about increasing internal motivation and how we do this with teens and tweens. The three fundamental human needs of autonomy. The importance of asking open-ended questions instead of lectures. The power of emotional connection with our teens and tweens. Controlling vs. autonomy-supportive parenting. What it means to be a good-enough parent. How we should aim for influence but not control. Where to find Dr. Emily Edlynn:
WebsiteSubstackInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERE

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Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources:
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Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen’s unique needs during these pivotal years.
Get on the waitlist to get all the details and to be the first to know when it opens! https://momsoftweensandteens.lpages.co/waiting-list-for-membe...