It's An Official Dating Trend: More Older Women Are Dating Younger Men
Julie Spira America’s Top Online Dating Expert & Digital Matchmaker says yes it's a trend and it's because women have more independence and economic stability these days and because younger men like an older woman's confidence. 'Confidence' Julie says, is sexy at any age.
I love Julie Spira who I met back in college. When I saw she joined the TODAY show on this subject the other day I invited her to join me to talk more about what's going on in the 2021 dating world.
Julie was involved in the TODAY show segment with special anchor Maria Shriver and three couples with different age gaps talking about inter-age relationships. Julie knows this stuff better than anyone. She's an award-winning dating coach, internationally-known bestselling author and the go-to person in the media for online dating and mobile dating advice. Based in LA she has clients from NY to San Francisco and from London to Sydney. With over two decades of experience, she coaches singles from college-age to the large population of baby-boomers who are looking for a first or second chance at love. Many celebrities too!
Through a combination of online dating profiles, mobile dating apps, email etiquette, and social media sites such as Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram, Julie helps singles shorten their search to find their dream dates.
Oh and Julie said, "October is 'cuffing season"! (Who knew?) A time when even the most commitment phobic men decide they want to be in a committed relationship. She added, this seasons 'cuffing season' is gonna be off the charts because people are looking for meaningful connections after Covid to combat the loneliness they've all felt.
During Covid, online dating habits changed and the zip code and age range restrictions got tossed out the window, and she says there will be more of that moving forward. "People are working from home and people will move for love", and Julie knows a lot of guys who have moved across the world and across the country for women they love. She says, if you’re online dating don't get hung up on someone having to live in the same county or the right side of the freeway.
86% of singles Julie polled during Covid said ‘finding a meaningful connection’ was the most important thing, as compared to let's get back to hooking up like we used which only accounted for 3% of respondents.
Julie shared that the majority of people are really longing for that meaningful connection and a committed relationship and with the holidays around the corner you’re gonna see a lot of activity during 'cuffing season'.
Her advice for people getting back in the dating game right now?
-Cast a much wider net. If somebody writes to you and they’re far, so what, nobody stays in the same home forever
-Write a new profile whatever you wrote before is old news. Start from scratch get great new photos and post 6-8 photos. You’re only as good as your worst photo she says and don’t over filter them.
-Keep your profile short and brief. And no more playing the waiting game! If someone writes you write back same day, within the same hour or within the next 4 hour window.
-If you like someone when you meet them and it's mutual make a next date right then and there before you leave.
-Don’t think when you meet it's a 'connection'? Don't initiate a next message because you don’t want to send a rejection letter. But if the other person connects you should politely respond that you didn't feel the connection needed for the long term relationship you're seeking.
-And always remember… Hearts are fragile.
If you're in the dating pool or involved in online dating you'll enjoy listening to what Julie Spira has to say about it all in our warm conversation here.