My Self Worth is a Size ZERO Bee Andreen

Are you #strong-willed, unwilling to bend, move, negotiate or compromise? 

Does it benefit you? The answer to this question is IT, meaning this label, probably does. You will likely find that you "get" your way more times than not and you may have even learned tools to move people more and more your way over time. You may also be called #stubborn, unwavering, unwilling, narcissistic, gaslighting, manipulative and MANY other things. You may feel a continued and rewarding sense of control that helps you feel safe and secure. Though you may care deeply about the people around you, you may also not trust completely that those people will keep you as safe and you can keep yourself.

You might also recognize a pattern of people moving away from you as they begin to recognize that they "don't matter" to you, that they aren't getting their needs met or as they realize their deep dissatisfaction with you in your relationship. 

You may even have an attitude that thinks, "good riddance", as they leave your life and abandon your friendship or relationship. 

If you are a 10 out of 10 in strong-willed nature it's likely hurting you deeply but you also may feel too afraid to pull back and give other people a voice in your life. This is often rooted in a weakened state of self-worth as you are making every attempt to have control over your life and identity. 

If you have questions about today's episode email me at bee@embldnlabel.com 

#agreeable is 


1. enjoyable and pleasurable; pleasant
2. willing to agree to something

These definitions seem SO innocent. How in the word could they be seen as a bad thing? Have you ever heard someone say too much of a good thing isn't a good thing?! To be too-agreeable could lead to a system of people-pleasing or self-sacrificing. Today's episode will give you a fresh, unique perspective on this behavior or personality trait and how it may be showing up in your life. 

Do you think that being #agreeable is a positive, negative or both?

Do you think that you are #agreeable?

Does your agreeable nature often get labeled as #people-pleasing?

 

I'd love to hear from you, if you feel inclined to share a small part of your story with me email me at bee@embldnlabel.com

Cheering for you,

Bee

#people-pleasers are generally agreeable, compliant, willing, accommodating, complacent, obliging, accepting, etc. You may have an idea of some additional personality traits or behaviors that contribute to your self-proclaimed label of people-pleasing. People often will be attracted to you because of your habit or system of self-sacrificing in the name of serving or pleasing others. We can easily find ourselves surrounded by #takers, #narcissists, #bullies, #dominant people or a number of other "types" that we may not want to be IN relationship with. 

In fact, sometimes those "types" are the very individuals who created the #people-pleasing tendency in us. If we aren't agreeable to their demands then we are "in trouble" or "criticized". People-pleasing becomes a HUGE part of our identity AND the way that our typical relationships function. 

Did you know that if you are a #people-pleaser you are also likely suffering. You're feeling angry, resentful, frustrated, self-conscious, over-sympathetic or over-responsible. Unfortunately, pleasing others rarely actually serves us to the extent in which our needs are actually met. This can leave us yearning for more, accepting breadcrumbs from others and incredibly depleted and deprived of the basic things that we "think" will bring us joy. Why do I say "think"?! Because oftentimes when there's a system of people-pleasing we aren't even aware of what needs we have or how to begin expressing them. 

 

If you enjoyed this episode today, please shoot me an email at bee@embldnlabel.com

 

 

What do you get when you take a successful director in the medical industry turned multi-faceted business strategy specialist and a partner in a highly successful mortgage company turned speaker, executive coach and leadership guru together?! (WOW, that's hard to imagine, isn't it?) 

You get COLLABORATION that's off the charts. My special guests today share their individual stories that are rooted in success, with the relatable realization that something was missing, only to discover career paths that were much more rewarding and enjoyable for each of them. Once they landed in their new roles and talked about the deep struggles that people go through in the re-building process, they decided to lean into the component that their friendship was built on. #COLLABORATION!

Haley Westfall and Stephanie Hendrick added yet another business venture to their portfolios when they created Collab Culture, a community for women that is different and better than what is currently being offered. After pulling themselves out of their own, "yoga position, downward spiral," they are now using their skills to help the women in their community do the same. 

This episode is an inspiration to me as I relate SO much to the stories they share and the struggles that lie in them. If you are in the middle of a major life transition or wanting more for your life give this episode a listen. 

You can learn more about Collab Culture HERE and check them out on Instagram HERE. 

As always, email me at bee@embldnlabel.com with questions or comments about the show or how to get connected with The EMBLDN Community.

 

If you are craving a connected, encouraging community that actually supports you in your healing or goals email me at bee@embldnlabel.com for information to join the EMBLDN community. 

People often want to know how I crumbled to a place of zero self worth and deep rooted insecurity. The simple answer is that I cared too much what the WRONG people thought about me. The complex answer is that my human spirit is sensitive and I'm deeply impacted by disconnection and relationship breakdown. This kept me hanging on dearly to the people in my life who I knew needed to be loved the most. Guru's would call me a people pleaser or a master of self-sacrifice. Somehow, my greatest gift was turned into another negative after years of allowing people to knock me down, shoot arrows at me and make me feel like a nothing.

The MOST important part of what I said above is that I WAS ALLOWING IT. In fact, in most cases, I was inviting it. Choosing to surround myself with people who needed love and healing but weren't very kind to me in return. 

Old habits or personality traits aren't reconfigured overnight, we need to have a deep desire to change and really learn the art of showing up differently until we have mastered proper boundaries and new expectations for ourselves and our lives. So coming off of the holiday season, I can honestly say that my self worth is sore. 

Bad news... is that I spend too much time remembering how self conscious I was when my self worth was a size ZERO. 

Good news... I've mastered the tools and techniques to pull myself back to the moment and let go of the girl who allowed everyone to kick them when she was down. 

Is your self-worth sore today?

 

email me at bee@embldnlabel.com today to achieve a deeper sense of self worth in 2023!!