No More Desire Addiction Recovery Become A Good Man

Today I want to talk about how to let go of shame and addiction and how living with more simplicity and presence can help us recover. 
Something I’ve witnessed in myself and others I’ve talked to is that those of us who get worked up over the details or are really hard on ourselves often struggle with addiction. 
I often see perfectionism and addiction go hand-in-hand - in other words a propensity to expect too much of ourselves and to feel very worried about mistakes - I know I’m that way and it drove much of the addiction in my life - maybe you can relate. 
So, I want to talk more about how this works - why we get so worked up over little things and how this leads to addiction. And then to talk about how we can stop doing this so we can start working out of addiction. 
Because addiction, at the end of the day, is not about stopping the behavior - it is about changing your mental state by working through emotional obstacles, feeling more peace, and becoming closer to God and those around us.

For more addiction help, learn the keys to quit porn with this Simple 8-Page Guidebook.
Or listen to my Addiction Recovery Story or check out my Calming Forgiveness Meditation. 
Much love.

Blog Article for this Episode
https://www.becomeagoodman.com

If you want to learn how to stop watching porn, you need to understand the addiction and recovery trinities.

Porn addiction has several causes that play off of each other. They are physical, mental, spiritual, and relational. If you want to quit porn, you need to know what each of these are, how they work, and why it is so hard to break free of porn addiction.

I learned how to stop watching porn 8 years ago. It doesn't mean that I never have challenging thoughts or that I don't still deal with cravings from time to time. The difference now is that I understand addiction, and I have the tools I need to work through mental illness and other difficult experiences. In this video, I will teach you how to do this too.

Guidebook for quitting porn (FREE DOWNLOAD): https://www.becomeagoodman.com/ 

Private Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomeagoodman

5-Month Program: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course

Other Courses for mental health and addiction recovery: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/courses   

Blog article: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/learn-how-to-stop-watching-porn-with-this-powerful-unique-approach-4-keys-to-quit-porn
https://www.becomeagoodman.com

What are the 2 root causes of porn addiction? Knowing these can help you quit porn, as you learn what leads to it in the first place. 

To learn how to break free of porn addiction, it's necessary to talk about stress. Our mental state is like a pressure gauge. When it's in the green,  we typically don't experience porn cravings.
When it's in the red, however, we can last for a while, depending on who we are, but when we are in a heightened state of unchecked stress long enough, we almost always begin experiencing cravings. 
This is why we need to know the root cause of porn addiction - the two emotions that drive negative feelings and trigger us to view porn. 
If we want to stop watching porn, we also need to know the root cause of porn recovery, right? 
Because it's not enough to simply know what causes addiction. We also need to know how people stay sober long-term. What is their secret?...  
In this video, I share the 2 emotions that underlie porn cravings, as well as 3 things that keep us clean and sober long-term...

Guidebook for quitting porn (FREE DOWNLOAD): https://www.becomeagoodman.com/  
Private Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomeagoodman 
5-Month Program: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course 
Other Courses for mental health and addiction recovery: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/courses   

BLOG: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/the-2-roots-of-porn-addiction-vs-the-3-elements-of-porn-recovery
https://www.becomeagoodman.com

This Christian meditation for mental health comes from years of my own meditation practice and integrates teachings from both eastern and western faiths - Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, and Taoism. This anxiety meditation is also helpful for depression, self-worth or self-esteem issues, or to simply calm the mind.

TO EXPERIENCE THE OTHER 4 MEDITATIONS IN THIS COURSE, CLICK HERE:
https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-anxiety-meditations

God bless.

Explore other addiction recovery and mental health meditation courses

Explore the 5-Month Recovery Program

Join the Private Facebook Group to help you quit porn
Download my free ebook & audiobook with tips on quitting porn

YouTube: https://youtu.be/wY_mvahrrdE
https://www.becomeagoodman.com

I’m going to tell you why I became addicted to porn, and what kept me addicted for 10 years. It had nothing to do with craving sex, or “manly urges.” 
Porn addiction has to do with your state of mind. Porn addiction recovery is about transforming that state of mind from one that is susceptible to addiction to one that isn’t. 
The answers may not be easy, but some of them are simple. And while I can’t wave my magic wand or tell you “3 secrets that get you sober permanently”, I do have some advice and information I hope will help you in your journey. 
Join the Private Facebook Group to help you quit porn
Download my free ebook & audiobook with tips on quitting porn
Explore the 5-Month Recovery Program
15 Tips for Porn Addiction Recovery
The Addiction/Fear Cycle | Where Pornography Addiction Comes From
To hear my full Porn Addiction Recovery Story, click here

Why People Become Addicted to Porn
If we are trying to stop watching porn, or seeking to understand a loved one who is addicted, we need to know that porn addiction has very little to do with the sexual act itself, and far more to do with getting a “fix”. 
Research shows that pornography physically changes the brain. We can’t get the same “dopamine hit” during normal sex that we can during a session with porn. 
Why? Think about the novelty that porn offers; the number of different partners and new experiences available at the click of the button. Think about how quickly someone can go from 0 to 100 with one of those “partners” in an instant… Is any of that like having sex in a real relationship? How can sex in real life possibly compete?
Porn addiction becomes addictive in part because it outdoes any sexual experience the human brain is meant to have. In addition, it is addictive because of the amount of shame that is often involved in the experience, which I’ll talk more about soon.


Why I Became Addicted to Porn
As a kid, I was high-strung, perfectionistic, and somewhat impulsive. I felt stressed out much of the time and had so much inner intensity that I simply didn’t have the skills or understanding to deal with. I also had low self-esteem, and, more importantly, a low sense of self-worth. I didn’t believe I was worthy of good things. I had negative self-talk and was worried others didn’t accept me. 
In my experience, this is quite common for those with addiction. Whether that be an addiction to porn, sex, cocaine, gambling, or some other “drug of choice”.
As a kid, I sought out video games and junk food as a way to cope with all of the stress I was facing. These helped me self-soothe, albeit ineffectively and temporarily. When I was 13, I then sought out porn as a way to cope. 
I didn’t know that I was high-strung or stressed out. To me, it was just normal life. These negative feelings fueled my need for a “fix”, just as they do for others I have worked with and observed. 


Shame and Porn Addiction
https://www.becomeagoodman.com

I'm going to tell you how to quit porn in 30 days using 15 tips for porn addiction recovery. You probably know I’m not a fan of big, bold claims, but…

After 8 years of sobriety, I’ve learned a few things about how to quit porn. Secrets for porn addiction recovery that have helped me out…and now I want to share them with you.

I know your “hype detector” is probably sounding the alarm right now. I’m not here to tell you that I have all of the answers, nor do I think that quitting porn in 30 days is a realistic endeavor.

BUT… I do believe that you (just like I did) can get a really excellent start for porn recovery in as little as 30 days.

A start that will help you get clean for months…and then years.

It’s hard to avoid porn these days. It is so easy to access, and there are so many things we face that don’t make it easy to avoid the temptation. I’ll give you 15 tips that are different from most of the buzz going around. Secrets that are genuinely helpful, some of which you may never have considered.

So, here are my 15 tips to help you stop watching porn…and start your recovery within 30 days…

5-MONTH PORN RECOVERY COURSE: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course

PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP FOR ADDICTION RECOVERY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1352257385317746/

FREE EBOOK & AUDIOBOOK WITH 3 SIMPLE METHODS FOR RECOVERY: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook

Blog: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/how-to-quit-porn-in-30-days-15-tips-for-porn-addiction-recovery
YouTube: https://youtu.be/3C2Px54PQDg


https://www.becomeagoodman.com