Ciao my friends!
Benvenuti al Podcast Non e Colpa Mia, condotto da me, Lilly.
Sono una fotografa e un'imprenditrice, ma prima di questo ero una ragazza di provincia che non si sentiva per niente soddisfatta della sua vita. Ma un giorno ho trovato il coraggio di uscire fuori dalla mia comfort zone e sono stata in grado di rivoluzionare completamente la mia vita per diventare una persona più forte e migliore.
Questo è lo show per tutte le persone che sanno che le loro vite possono essere cambiate, lascia che la mia mentalità Americana possa unirsi alla tua. Sei pronto a smettere di sentirti una vittima? Sei pronto a diventare un vincitore?
Piú lenticchie, piú successo
Da brava Italiana all’estero avevo rispettato la tradizione di mangiare le lenticchie il primo giorno dell'anno per portarci fortuna, o soldi non ricordo. Perche l’unica cosa che vuoi sentire il primo giorno dell’anno e’" andrà tutto alla grande".
Siamo onesti..È DIFFICILE! Cambiare le nostra quotidianita in una nuova direzione. È facile ascoltare questo podcast…ascoltare tutti i consigli della vostra Lilly, per poi tornare alla nostra vita reale, ai nostri problemi reali e dimentica tutti i nostri sogni, obiettivi e aspirazioni.
È difficile fare questi primi passi perché non sappiamo esattamente cosa dobbiamo fare.
E’ difficile se siamo da soli, se non crediamo in noi stessi o le persone intonro a noi non ci incoraggiano.
Ma ricorda il fatto che e’ difficile non vuol dire che non sia impossibile, e’ solo che non e’ una cosa per tutti. Le difficolta spaventano, ma fanno anche crescere.
E’ normale avere paura ma questo sentimento non ci deve fermare, anzi deve essere uno stimolo per cambiare.
Possiamo iniziare il processo di trasformazione in qualcosa di nuovo e considerare l'anno passato l'inizio del nostro successo personale. Che sia andato bene o male c’e sempre qualcosa da imparare soprattutto non da ripetere.
Se riesci a pensare a una cosa, che vuoi realizzare, cos'è questa? Quanto tempo e fatica ci vorrà per arrivare a questo obbiettivo?
Immagina di fermarti per 3 giorni e dedicare tutta la tua attenzione a pianificare e capire come realizzare questo obiettivo… non pensi che stai facendo qualcosa di positivo per il tuo futuro?
Non aver paura di reinventarsi
At some point in our lives, we each come across a path or opportunity that can take us somewhere new. We can continue to go down the path we already know or we can pursue that other road that has presented itself to us. It's ok to change paths in life, it's what allows ourselves to grow and continuously feel fulfilled and challenged.
Investi In te Stesso
Our Biggest Asset
What’s our biggest asset that we have? What’s always going to be there for us when times are good and when times are tough? The answer is….ourselves :)
We have such a unique ability to adapt and learn. All of our experiences that we go through transform us in one way or another. So why don’t we take charge and transform ourselves in a way that we want? It’s because sometimes we don’t see ourselves as a worthwhile investment or we don’t realize that we can improve ourselves.
I really like to keep myself as an example of investing in yourself. Check out my first podcast episode if you didn’t get a chance to listen to it. It’s where I started to tell the story of myself, living surrounded by an open minded mentality and how I was able to change myself too.
Today, I am here to tell you how hard it is to convince your mind to invest money especially in something that isn't tangible and requires a lot of work: ourselves
I know what you are going to say...“Sure, everybody says that” or “Yeah, easy for you to because you have money…”
Our relationship with Money
What’s your idea of “a lot of money” or something “that costs too much”?
What does your definition of a “rich” life mean to you?
Most people think about happiness and buying things like handbags, clothes, vacations, etc. But being rich isn’t always about the money. Having a “rich” life can mean whatever you want it to mean. For me, “rich” means having the freedom and time to spend with people I love and do whatever I want.
But being “rich” seems like a dream that only other people can have. I think that’s a lie we tell ourselves when we fail and are too scared to move forward. Instead of learning from our mistakes, we give up. That’s when failure happens, when we stop trying. Failure also happens when we haven’t planned and prepared and learned the necessary skills to move forward. We often try to imitate or copy something else we’ve seen without realizing how it actually works or understanding the reasons behind it.
It’s a reality that some people are born more privileged than others and their journeys to success are shorter or easier to get to than ours. We don’t get to determine our starting positions in life, there really isn’t anything that we can do about that. And it’s certainly not your fault where you are starting out at. The point isn’t to focus on what someone else may have and get stuck in the comparison game. But it’s our choice to whether we remain where we are or choose to move forward with our life and goals. That decision is entirely up to us. Yes, we will have our difficulties and struggles, that is always guaranteed in life. It may take lots of study, work, hustle, and being more tough than we ever thought. But our human spirit, our grit and determination can overcome a lot more than we think.
You have to ask yourself, what are you trying to do? What do you want in your life? And then set up your big goals.
It’s hard to get outside of your comfort zone, your safe area of stability to follow a dream where not only is it insecure but you also have to invest money for something that is only up to you to get.
You can do and be anything you want in this life. It’s never easy and no one realizes what struggles we will face along the way. But having the right mindset and determination is going to keep us moving forward. I know it seems like an unreachable goal because it’s hard, but believe me, I would never think I was able to become a photographer for work and live a good life with the money I’ve made.
I wasn’t born with a camera in my hands. And as far as I know, no one else was either.
I wasn’t born knowing exactly what I wanted in this life. Everything I have is because I had to go through my experiences to arrive at where I am. I failed and made a lot of mistakes along the way. But from each misstep I took, I learned something that allowed me to grow an
La Forza della Mentalità
What is mindset?
When I first arrived in the United States, I kept hearing this word, “mindset”.
Mindset here, mindset there, all of the self-help gurus, entrepreneurs, and photographers were talking about it as part of their growth and learning. I wasn’t quite sure what it was so I did what any normal person who is looking for information does, I asked Google. “What is the mindset?”
And the answer I got:
The established set of attitudes held by someone.
A person’s way of thinking and their opinions. Their attitudes, dispositions, or moods.
How a person approaches a situation.
Your mindset is what gives you your worldview or philosophy of life.
Let’s take two simple sentences that clarify the concept of mindset:
Failures are bad experiences = fixed mindset
Failures can be positive experiences = growth mindset
Where does your mindset come from?
Our mindset comes from how we are raised, the environment we grow up in, the experiences and situations we have in our lives that shape who we become. Yes, of course, each of us has a unique character but let’s focus on the other parts for a moment.
When we are younger, we (usually) conform to what society expects for us, it’s what most of us are taught from an early age. Our families want us to be safe in life. But that often means we live sheltered lives, not fully experiencing life with all of its challenges, failures, successes and accomplishments. Not trying something because we might have the chance to fail.
Because of being sheltered, we think that we are safe and don’t have to worry about difficulties in life. But in reality, we think we have safety but what we have really done is given away our freedom, independence and ability to create and grow. We are taught to be afraid of trying and failing. And in the process, learning and growing which gives us the seeds of success for the future. Being able to take a risk and not fearing failure is part of the process of becoming successful. Because your success is built on top of past failures and experiences. Opportunity has risks but it also brings the rewards of a rich and fulfilled life. The “safe” life can sometimes turn into a life lived unfulfilled and full of regrets and not really safe at all.
We always assume that we live our lives as it should be, based on the advice of our parents, our friends or just by looking around us and seeing at what most people do and thinking that will be right for us too.
I remember that feeling of not being happy and feeling like something is wrong. It’s like finding yourself in a limbo when the people around you think you’re going through a phase that will pass. But in reality, your head is telling you something isn’t right but everyone around you is telling you that it’s you that is wrong for questioning yourself and your situation.
You have to work in an office. You have to have a boyfriend. You have to go to the gym everyday to have a perfect body. Who are you to have a different opinion? You have to do this, you have to do that, you need to buy this. It’s never ending, there is always someone who has an expectation of what you need to do.
I started to realize that I was responsible for myself. I listened to myself and that little voice in my head that was telling me the truth, that if I wasn’t happy with something in my life, that I was the one that needed to change. And I followed that voice because I was afraid. I was afraid of change but I was more afraid of being stuck in the same unhappy situation forever.
At school, we learn languages, history, mathematics but where do we get our lessons in how to approach and be successful and confident in life? How do we prepare for dealing with a life full of challenges? Where do we go when we get lost along the way? How do you know what you don’t know?
That’s why it’s important to take guidance from people you look up to and feel like you can learn from. Do you really want to take l
Di chi è la colpa?
Take responsibility for your life.
Hai mai detto a qualcuno "non è colpa mia"? Hai mai usato quelle quattro paroline per uscire da situazioni che ti mettono a disagio?
Hai mai provato a dare colpa agli altri per la situazione in cui ti trovi?
È più facile dire "non è colpa mia” invece che assumersi le proprie responsabilità.
Ma una volta che ti assumi questa responsabilità e inizi a cercare la soluzione piuttosto che focalizzarti sul problema, accade la magia.
Una volta che riuscirai ad ottenere una mentalità orientata alla risoluzione dei problemi, combinata ad un piccolo aiuto e supporto da parte degli altri e un atteggiamento pronto a spingere la paura al limite, puoi ottenere quasi tutto.
Il viaggio non deve essere fatto da soli.
Being a winner
Love that an Italian is finally speaking up about this…as an American living it Italy, I’ve seen this first hand. Lots of complaining about the situation you are in but then not taking the steps and action to get out of it. Being a victim is not a badge of honor, take control of your life and go do it.