On Purpose with Jay Shetty

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Can You Be Friends with Your Ex?

    Are you open to just being friends with an ex? Do you think they want the same kind of friendship? Today, Jay’s diving into a question we've all probably wrestled with at some point: can you really stay friends with an ex? He kicks things off by laying down some ground rules, pointing out that not every ex is friendship material, especially if there was any toxicity or harm in the relationship. For those open to trying a platonic bond post-breakup, he highlights the real-life complexities and the level of emotional maturity it takes to make it work. Jay also brings in some interesting science, sharing that studies show people stay connected with their exes for reasons like security, convenience, keeping things civil, or even unresolved feelings. But each of these reasons can get messy, and Jay explains that often, the urge to stay friends might have more to do with wanting a sense of safety or familiarity than with genuine friendship. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Decide if an Ex Deserves Friendship How to Set Boundaries with an Ex How to Manage Shared Friends Post-Breakup How to Avoid Using Friendship to Win Them Back How to Avoid Hurting Your Ex Twice Sometimes, the boldest and most courageous thing you can do is to walk away, taking the lessons with you and leaving the rest behind. Focus on what makes you feel good and helps you build the life you truly want.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:52 Not Every Ex Deserves Friendship 04:36 Four Core Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes 09:30 Four Ways to Know Being Friends with an Ex Won’t Work 13:52 How to Start Being Friends with an Ex? 18:33 Friends and Family Can be Casualties of a Breakup 21:41 Establish New Rules of Engagement 22:50 Consider the Welfare of Children See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    25 min
  2. 5 DAYS AGO

    Dr. David Spiegel: 10-MINUTE Hypnosis Hack to Rewire Your Brain & Reduce Stress 80% Faster

    How do you usually handle stress? Have you tried hypnosis for stress? Today, Jay with Dr. David Spiegel, a leading expert in psychiatry and behavioral sciences, to explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy. Dr. Spiegel, with over 45 years of experience in clinical and research fields, shares profound insights into the science behind hypnosis, dispelling myths and misconceptions. He explains how hypnosis is a natural, self-directed process that allows individuals to tap into heightened focus, manage pain, reduce stress, and address deep-seated traumas. The conversation begins with Dr. Spiegel explaining the foundations of hypnosis, highlighting its ability to narrow one’s focus, similar to a telephoto lens, and create a dissociative state where one can temporarily suspend self-limiting beliefs. This unique focus enables users to challenge habitual thoughts and reframe experiences. Dr. Spiegel shares real-life success stories, such as a war veteran who found peace with traumatic memories and individuals overcoming chronic pain and stress using hypnosis. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Sleep Better Using Hypnosis How to Improve Focus by Narrowing Attention How to Process Trauma Safely with Hypnosis How to Use Visualization to Relieve Stress How to Focus Your Attention Deeply How to Filter Out Pain with Hypnosis By learning how to access a focused, relaxed state, you can reshape your response to pain, manage stress more effectively, and explore emotions or memories that might otherwise feel overwhelming.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:17 What is Hypnosis 05:08 How Beneficial Hypnosis is For You? 09:14 What Happens to Your Brain During Hypnosis 14:40 Can You Control Other People with Hypnosis? 16:13 Is It Possible to Hypnotize Anyone? 26:14 You’re Still in Control of Your Body 31:28 How Can Hypnotherapy After Memory Recall? 38:29 Guided Hypnotherapy at Home is Possible 40:59 Let Your Brain Heal Your Body  43:34 The Worst Mental Case Under Hypnosis 50:26 We Lose the Hypnotic Ability as We Age 55:39 How Hypnosis Can Help You Focus More 57:38 David on Final Five Episode Resources: Reveri | YouTube Reveri | Instagram Reveri | Facebook Reveri | LinkedIn Reveri | Website See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 3m
  3. NOV 1

    Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women?

    Have you ever felt like success affected your dating life? Have you ever felt judged for your level of ambition? Today, Jay addresses the insecurities some men may feel when partnered with highly driven women, shedding light on societal conditioning and personal growth. discusses how societal expectations traditionally placed men in provider roles, which can lead to an unease when faced with a partner who exemplifies drive and independence. Jay also delves into recent studies, such as the "Clooney Effect," showing that most men actually value intelligence and confidence in their partners. By examining these narratives, Jay dispels myths that successful women are inherently intimidating to men. Instead, he encourages ambitious women not to diminish their goals but to seek partners who celebrate and complement their journey. In this episode, you'll learn: How to embrace your ambition without guilt How to address insecurities in your relationship How to balance mutual respect and personal ambition How to seek partners who uplift, not compete How to identify and avoid unhealthy relationship roles True partnership means valuing each other's journey, working through insecurities together, and building a foundation where both people can grow freely and authentically. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:49 Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women? 05:15 Men Have Had to Play the Protective Role 06:48 The Negative Dating Mindset You Should Stop Having 13:04 Have an Understanding of What Both are Pursuing 14:29 Are You Making Your Partner Feel Insecure? 18:29 What Makes You a Healthy Partner? 21:04 Respect Each Other’s Ambitions See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    23 min
  4. OCT 28

    Tom Hanks: #1 Theory Tom Uses in Order to Live a Balanced and Fulfilled Life

    What does a balanced life look like for you? Are you getting enough time to recharge? Today, Jay engages in a deeply reflective conversation with legendary actor, filmmaker, and writer Tom Hanks. With a career spanning over four decades, Hanks is renowned for his roles in iconic films like Forrest Gump, Saving Private Ryan, Cast Away, and The Green Mile, earning him two Academy Awards. Tom opens up about his unconventional childhood, moving frequently and adjusting to new environments, which shaped his adaptability and taught him the art of letting go. As he reflects on his career, he discusses how he continues to find purpose and depth in his work, emphasizing the joy of collaboration and the importance of staying curious. Together, Jay and Tom discuss how certain locations hold emotional weight, becoming symbols of comfort or life-changing reflection. They also touch on generational wisdom, the role of luck, and finding joy in small, shared experiences. With his characteristic humor and humility, Tom offers listeners a glimpse into his contemplative nature and the lessons he's learned over the years, reminding us all of the power of presence and community. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Find Comfort in Solitude How to Embrace Life's Unexpected Changes How to Connect Across Generations How to Trust Your Instincts and Take Risks How to Stay Curious at Any Age How to Discover Purpose in Your Work How to Show Up Fully in Relationships How to Find Wisdom in Life’s Challenges How to Pursue Meaning over Perfection Life isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about embracing the unknown with openness, honoring the journey, and finding meaning in each moment, each experience, and each relationship.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:17 Early Life Lessons: Childhood, Change, and Resilience 05:37 Mastering the Art of Detachment 10:15 Discovering Theater and Passion in High School 18:56 Can We Create Our Own Luck?  21:35 Exploring the Sacred Sites of Jerusalem 27:03 Owning Your Mistakes and When to Take Personal Responsibility 30:52 The Third Space: Finding Balance Beyond Work and Home 37:03 Fathers and the Lasting Impact on Their Sons 38:42 Nurturing Kids’ Interests for Genuine Growth 42:59 The Value of Academic Ambition 45:21 Capturing the Present: Finding Magic in Every Moment 52:46 Reflections on Seeing Your Younger Self in the Movie  55:03 Finding Presence in Everyday Life 58:04 The Freedom of Following Your True Desires 01:04:25 Imagining the Dream Life: Building a Path to Fulfillment 01:07:29 Themes of Time and Place in the Film Here 01:09:01 The Fascination with Reaching the Moon 01:11:04 Unraveling a Deep Fascination with WWII 01:18:01 Becoming America’s Most Trusted Voice 01:21:07 Grateful for the Blessings of Family 01:22:04 Observing Life’s Passing Moments 01:27:42 Honored with Greek Citizenship 01:31:31 Tom on Final Five Episode Resources: Tom Hanks | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 43m
  5. OCT 25

    The Tell Them Method - How To Stop Holding On To Emotional Baggage and Regret

    Have you ever regretted not saying something sooner? Do you think holding in your emotions causes stress? Today, Jay takes us on a journey through the principles of the Tell Them Method, explaining that whether it's a simple decision like not wanting to attend an event or a deeper emotion like feeling unappreciated, the key is to directly communicate those feelings to the person involved. He highlights that most of us practice what he calls the "Tell Everyone But Them" method—where we vent to others but avoid speaking directly to the person who needs to hear it. This behavior, Jay argues, not only erodes trust and intimacy in relationships but also traps negative emotions within us, leading to stress and even physical discomfort. Jay uses relatable anecdotes and insights from research to underline the significance of expressing emotions in a healthy way. He discusses how bottled-up emotions can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, overreactions, and even health problems. By directly telling people how we feel—whether it’s disappointment, love, or frustration—Jay believes we open the door to deeper understanding and connection. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Use the Tell Them Method How to Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations How to Pick the Best Time to Talk How to Share Feelings Without Fighting How to Ask Instead of Accuse Practicing the "Tell Them Method" approach in everyday life not only improves our relationships but also enhances our emotional well-being, giving us the clarity and peace that comes from being truthful and intentional in our interactions. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:33 What is the Tell Them Method? 06:11 Why it’s Hard to Tell Someone How You Feel 09:29 Underestimate the Value of How Something is Said 16:06 The Three Things That Happen When Emotion is Experienced 18:26 How Trapped Emotions Can Create Trauma 22:52 Figure Out the Best Time to Talk About It 25:57 Don’t Wait for the Last Minute to Tell Them See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    28 min
  6. OCT 21

    Dr. Mindy Pelz: #1 Question to Ask Yourself if You Want to Get Rid of Your Belly Fat & The ONE ingredient to Add to Your Diet that Will Suppress Your Appetite

    Have you ever tried different ways to get rid of belly fat? Have you ever tried different ways to suppress your appetite? Today, Jay welcomes women’s health expert, bestselling author, and podcast host Dr. Mindy Pelz to discuss how women can optimize their health, particularly through fasting, hormones, and metabolic health. Dr. Pelz explains the biological differences between men and women and emphasizes the importance of understanding the female body's rhythms and cycles for maintaining health and hormonal balance. Dr. Pelz begins by discussing common fasting mistakes, highlighting how doing the same fast daily can slow down metabolism. She introduces the concept of "feast-famine cycling," stressing the need for variety in fasting durations and windows, particularly for women. According to her, fasting must be adapted to the individual’s lifestyle and, for women, their menstrual cycle. She also addresses Jay’s personal approach to fasting and offers tailored advice for him, including when to eat before and after workouts. The conversation then turns to the topic of belly fat and how stress and toxins contribute to weight gain, particularly around the belly area. Dr. Pelz explains that excess cortisol, which is heightened by stress, leads to belly fat, and she provides practical tips to manage cortisol levels, including movement, time in nature, and spending time with positive people. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Start Fasting Gradually How to Manage Stress with Movement How to Reduce Belly Fat Naturally How to Customize Your Eating Schedule How to Stabilize Blood Sugar with Timing How to Stay Full Longer with Healthy Fats How to Lose Weight with Fasting Cycles How to Align Fasting with Your Menstrual Cycle The message is clear: everyone has the ability to transform their well-being by taking small, intentional steps toward a healthier lifestyle. With the right mindset and commitment, a vibrant and balanced life is within reach for all.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:59 The Worst Mistake One Can Make While Fasting 04:38 How Do You Fast Properly? 06:22 What’s Your Intention for Your Health? 09:37 What’s the Fastest Way to Lose Belly Fat? 13:42 Common Toxins That Accumulate in the Body 18:00 The Chemicals that Turn Stems Cells to Fat Cells 19:43 Does Counting Calories Matter?   25:45 How to Have a Better Relationship with Food 29:16 How to Detox from Sugar Cravings 32:47 How Much Protein Should You Eat? 38:19 What is Toxic Fat? 39:50 When is the Best Time to Eat Fat? 43:38 Are You Getting Enough Nutrients for Your Hormones? 46:14 What is the Fasting Cycle? 49:08 The Female’s Hormonal System is Highly Complex 52:52 Should You Reconsider Hormone Replacement Therapy? 55:22 Positive LIfestyle Changes That Could Help You 58:40 Is There Anyone Who SHouldn’t Fast? 59:58 What is a Clean Protein? 01:03:25 How to Empower Your Body 01:04:40 How to Know Your Got Your Meal Right 01:09:09 How Do You Train Yourself to Fast? 01:12:44 Is the Female Body Meant to Have More Fat? 01:17:37 How Do You Manage Fasting and Working Out? 01:20:22 Mindy on Final Five Episode Resources: Dr. Mindy Pelz | Website Dr. Mindy Pelz | Instagram Dr. Mindy Pelz | Facebook Dr. Mindy Pelz | YouTube  Dr. Mindy Pelz | LinkedIn Eat Like a Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn Fat See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 30m
  7. OCT 18

    3 Things To Do If You're Still Not Over Your Ex

    Do you find yourself thinking about your ex often? What has been the hardest part of moving on for you? Today, Jay taps into the emotional complexities of getting over an ex and provides actionable steps to move forward. Drawing on insights from neuroscience and psychology, Jay explains why it's entirely normal to struggle with letting go of a past relationship, even if it's been months or years. The emotional pain we experience after a breakup, he explains, is comparable to drug withdrawal, highlighting the deep biological connections we form with our partners. One of the most impactful ideas Jay shares is that clinging to the past steals energy and time from the future. By ruminating over what could have been, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to build new experiences and relationships. Ultimately, Jay’s message is clear: while it's natural to struggle with letting go, the key to healing lies in breaking old patterns, embracing new habits, and shifting our focus toward growth. If you or someone you know is struggling to move on from a past relationship, this episode offers practical tools and compassionate advice to help start the journey toward healing. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Heal by Changing Your Environment How to Replace Emotional Attachment After a Breakup How to Shift Focus from the Past to the Present How to Build Confidence Without External Validation How to Move On by Breaking Old Patterns Trust that with patience and self-compassion, you will find the strength to not only move on, but to thrive in ways you never imagined. You deserve the love and happiness that comes from within—keep moving forward, you're stronger than you know. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 What to Do If You’re Still Not Over Your Ex? 04:11 What Research Shows About Breakups 07:20 #1: Change Your Environment 13:26 #2: Identify What You’re Missing: Habit or Emotion 17:18 #5: Focus on Building Your Life See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    24 min
  8. OCT 14

    Jelly Roll: 5 Powerful Ways to Overcome Guilt and Shame & How to Finally Forgive Yourself

    Have you ever struggled with guilt or shame? Why do you think self-forgiveness is so hard? Today, Jay sits down with the incredibly talented and resilient Jelly Roll, a Grammy-nominated Nashville native who has captured hearts with his raw, soulful music. Rising from a troubled past marked by addiction, incarceration, and personal struggles, Jelly Roll has turned his life around through music, earning widespread acclaim for his deeply emotional lyrics and raw storytelling. With a top-three debut on the Billboard 200 and multiple awards to his name, His music resonates with those facing hardship, offering a message of hope, redemption, and healing. Jelly Roll shares his powerful journey from a turbulent past—marked by addiction, incarceration, and emotional struggles—to becoming one of the most celebrated figures in country music today. Together, they explore topics like the impact of childhood trauma, battling demons, overcoming addiction, and the importance of love and healing in personal transformation. Jelly Roll opens up about his rise to success, reflecting on how music has been a healing force not only for him but for the countless fans who resonate with his lyrics. From finding solace in Jay Shetty’s book Think Like a Monk during a dark time in his life to creating music that speaks directly to those who feel unseen, Jelly Roll's story is one of redemption, hope, and purpose. In this interview, you'll learn How to find purpose in your struggles How to forgive yourself for past mistakes How to overcome addiction through accountability How to turn negative experiences into positive impact How to create emotional resilience in tough times How to find peace in moments of darkness No matter where you are right now, it’s never too late to rewrite your story and create a life filled with meaning and growth. Keep pushing forward, and believe in your ability to rise.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:24 Rediscovering Purpose After Struggles 07:26 Coping with the Loss of a Father 10:34 How His Mother Sparked His Musical Journey 14:48 The Impact of Deep-Rooted Insecurities 17:25 Embracing Accountability for Personal Growth 19:51 The Barriers to Self-Forgiveness 21:08 Reflections on His Fifteen-Year-Old Self 24:26 Life Behind Bars as a Juvenile 28:47 The Fine Line Between Accountability and Self-Sabotage 32:56 Developing Emotional Awareness and Growth 37:21 The Reality of Food Addiction 40:34 Breaking the Chains of Addiction 42:22 Finding Someone Who Sees Your True Worth 49:45 Why Asking for Help Shows Strength, Not Weakness 54:12 Bringing Hope and Uplifting Spirits Through Prison Performances 01:02:13 Addressing Drug Addiction in His Congressional Speech 01:08:50 Understanding the True Victims of Drug Abuse 01:11:31 Breaking Free from Generational Curses 01:18:23 The Profound Impact of Music on His Life 01:25:57 Healing the Inner Child Through Faith 01:31:14 A Heartfelt Letter from His Brother  01:35:36 Fast Five with Jelly Roll   Episode Resources: Jelly Roll | Website Jelly Roll | Instagram Jelly Roll | Facebook Jelly Roll | YouTube Jelly Roll | TikTok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 39m
4.8
out of 5
23,946 Ratings

About

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

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