Reboundy Rules (for Single Men‪)‬ Jimmy Nickel

In this episode, I talk about getting rejected and how to do that the right way. 

This is important to think about because on dating apps (and in real life), rejection is part of the process for meeting someone great. Listen now to learn the smart way to navigate those inevitable crash and burn failures with new women.

Episode Notes:

RR40. Treat rejections like a test. If you can stay cool and upbeat afterward, you’ve passed. 


Women always have to worry about their safety. So giving a polite and believable rejection reason is sometimes a safety thing.
A “dating defense” is just an answer to this question: “What’s my next move if things with this woman don’t work out?” 
Not all rejections mean the same thing. Rejections can be hard, soft, or used simply to buy more time.
Rejection is part of the world of dating and part of the process for meeting someone great.
Keeping you attitude up and your chin up after a rejection sets you up for success with new women (or the same woman, if it was not a “hard” rejection).

-----------

Quote to Remember:

 

“Some rejections are just 'filler rejections,’ done to fill time, because the woman does like you…but she’s nervous.”

Learn more about the Reboundy Program: https://reboundy.com/


---

Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/reboundyrules/message

In this episode, I discuss why you never try to sell yourself to new women you hope to date. I also talk about the right way to impress new women in a way that does not make you look desperate (like most guys might do).

This is important because the better she looks and the more you think you have a chance, the more likely you are to sell yourself or try to impress her (the wrong way). Listen now for more on all of this.

Episode Notes:

RR39. Don’t sell yourself. Sell the experience of being around you. 


Don’t be one of those guys who tries to impress someone with facts and details about who you are and what you have.
Most women don’t care about facts and details about a guy until they start feeling attracted to that guy.
Most women are ONLY impressed and attracted to a new guy once they start enjoying the experience of being around him. 
When you’re charming, fun, and easy to be around, you’re selling the experience of being around you. 
New people who you like quickly are people who are cool and fun and easy to be around (not the most “impressive” ones or the people who “sold” themselves to you).

-----------Quote to Remember:

 

“If you’re saying something about yourself to share information about who you are, that’s great. If you’re about to say something to make yourself sound like a good partner to her or because you think you’ll impress her and she’ll like you, STOP. Just, don’t do that!”

 

Learn more about the Reboundy Program: https://reboundy.com/


---

Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/reboundyrules/message

In this episode, I talk about how your mood effects the vibes women feel around you (for better or worse). I also talk about some ways to get your mood up before going out so that you’re showing up with your most attractive you.

Why care about any of this? Because, most guys who are good with women “prepare” before even leaving the house. Their prep work is not just about hair, clothes, or cologne…but also about their mood. Check out this episode to learn more. 

Episode Notes:

RR38. Manage your mood from beginning to end because mood is everything. 


When you’re in a good mood, you’re using the creative part of your brain - which makes you more attractive to women.
When you’re in a bad mood, you’re using the analytical part of your brain - which makes you less attractive to women.
Do whatever it takes to get yourself in a great mood before going out.
Try to keep up this good mood throughout the night, even if you have setbacks or there are no women there.
Use this reminder in social situations: “When my mood slips, my sex appeal dips.”

-----------

Quote to Remember:

 

“When my mood slips, my sex appeal dips.”

Learn more about the Reboundy Program: https://reboundy.com/


---

Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/reboundyrules/message

In this podcast, I talk about how showing vulnerability makes you relatable and “real” if you talk about yourself the right way.

More importantly, I discuss why talking about yourself the wrong way can make you annoying to men and unattractive to women. Listen now for more about this. 

Episode Notes:

RR37. Showing confident vulnerability is fine. Showing weakness is bad, bad, bad!


Visible weakness has the body language and vibe that communicates this: “I’m screwed and there’s nothing I can do to fix it.” 
Visible weakness is unattractive to men and women alike.
Confident vulnerability is just you…being honest without making yourself look bad.
Confident vulnerability makes you more relatable without coming across as a sad sack.
If you share things about yourself with a slight smile, chin up, and an unapologetic tone, you can show confidence while being vulnerable.

-----------

Quote to Remember:

 

“Be ashamed of nothing, apologize for nothing. If you’re cool with yourself (or at least appear to be cool with yourself) everyone else will be cool with you too, and that includes women you might wanna date.”

Learn more about the Reboundy Program: https://reboundy.com/


---

Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/reboundyrules/message

In this episode, I discuss why it’s okay to be a nice person as long as you’re not a classic “Nice Guy” with women. I also talk about how most guys who are good with women are neither “Nice Guys” nor jerks with women. They are somewhere in between.

If you’re a good guy who treats women with kindness and respect…but you also complain that “Nice Guys finish last,” this episode is for you.

Episode Notes:

RR36. It’s okay to be a Nice Guy as long as you don’t give to get. 


Most attractive women are suspicious of guys who are too nice to them in the beginning.
Most attractive women have had experiences with a guy who was nice, then became mean or weird after his romantic advances were rejected.
Avoiding classic Nice Guy behaviors does not mean you should be mistreat women.
Never, ever, ever think that buying her a drink, doing her a favor, or buying her expensive dinners, means she should want you sexually. 
Attraction is not bought or “earned.” Attraction is what happens when two people like each other - independent of any transfer of value.

-----------Quote to Remember:

 

“People like being helped and people like being treated nicely. They like the helper. They like the nice person but that kind of ‘like’ typically has nothing to do with physical attraction or sexual attraction of any kind. This is something most Nice Guys don’t fully understand.”

Learn more about the Reboundy Program: https://reboundy.com/


---

Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/reboundyrules/message

In this episode, I discuss the idea of dating prep and education as a competition. Sure, this may be annoying to think about, but if a woman is attractive and single, there might be other guys competing for her (besides you).

If this rule bothers you or seems cringey, listen now to learn why you are already “training to win” with this podcast or if you’re in the program.

Episode Notes:

RR35. Train to meet and date women like it’s a competition, because that’s exactly what it is. 


With any single, attractive female you meet, you may not be her only dating option.
To a new woman, you don’t have the be the best-looking guy in her world, just the one to whom she’s most attracted.
If you don’t feel good about yourself, look for things you admire in other people and do those things yourself. 
Most men don’t need radical make-overs to improve their appeal to the opposite sex. 
Most men just need more confidence, awareness, and some basic “know-how” to boost their appeal to women.

-----------

Quote to Remember:

“For those of you listening who are cringing or rolling your eyes at the idea of ‘training to date women like it’s a competition,’ if that’s you, I get it. I get that feeling…but the truth is, your training has already started - especially if you’re subscribed to this podcast or you’re in the program.”

Learn more about the Reboundy Program: https://reboundy.com/


---

Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/reboundyrules/message