Online Dating 103: Messaging, Swiping, Filters, and Etiquette I Love You, Too

Hey there, Dear Listener! Ready for the third and final chapter in our online dating series? This episode is brimming with all you need to know about filters, messaging, flirtation, and online dating etiquette.
Wondering what filters to set on your dating app? Josh does a deep dive into how you can use filters to get higher-quality matches, including pointers on how to set filters for age and distance. We also touch on whether paying for online dating premium features, such as the ability to set filters, is worthwhile.
If you’re uncertain who to swipe right on, Jessica offers five great strategies.  Next, Josh reviews what to do once you’ve matched with someone – message!  We talk about crafting a compelling first message that gives you the best chance of getting off the app and onto a date, including practical tips for flirting and getting past small talk.
We answer common questions about online dating timing, such as how long to message before requesting a date and timeframes for responding to messages. Plus, we’re chatting about juggling convos – how many people should you talk to at once on a dating app?
Lastly, Jessica reviews the essentials of online dating etiquette, such as how to gently let someone down, the best ways to cancel a date, and how many messages to send if you don’t get a response from a match.
Key Takeaways
00:00 - Intro
01:28 - What filters should I set on my online dating apps?
07:40 - Is it worth paying for dating apps?
10:03 - What strategy should I use to swipe?
15:08 - What do you say when sending a message in online dating?
24:00 - How long should I message before meeting with someone in person?
26:17 - What is a reasonable response time for messaging on a dating app?
30:01 - How do people flirt on dating apps?
36:29 - What is proper etiquette for online dating?
Resources and links
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