Overcoming Mediocrity is a podcast for success-driven women who want to empower their thoughts, design their dream businesses, and build beautiful lives that are aligned with their destinies—hosted by Bestselling Author and Business Strategist Christie Ruffino. This show is for every woman on the edge of change who’s ready to rise up, overcome mediocrity, reinvent herself, elevate her thinking, and transform her life.
Each episode features today's top influencers and entrepreneurs on the rise as they share empowering stories and ninja tips meant to become the FUEL that will ignite a positive change in YOUR life and the lives of others.
Our guests didn’t simply coast through life, they didn't let difficult situations stop them; they set big goals, kept their eyes on the prize and they’re joining us today to share insider secrets and valuable resources you can use RIGHT NOW to step into your power and fulfill your purpose in life.
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OM16: Christie Ruffino|Goals to Fruition - Part 2 of 2
Goals to Fruition: Part 2 of 2 I’m happy to have you here for Episode Number 16, which is episode number two in our miniseries on goal setting and bringing your goals to fruition. We have already gone through the first four steps. And today we only have one step left. Today we are going to jump right in and we’re going to be talking about implementation. We can’t set a goal without putting in place the right steps to make those goals happen. I know we want to dream big, and I know we want to get out of our comfort zone. At this point, you’ve already identified goals in eight areas of your life that you want to focus on. Now, you may have cheated a little bit and maybe you have two or three goals in one category, and you’re missing one or another. I encourage you to not do that. We need to make sure there’s balance. I encourage you to have at least one in each one of these categories. We’re going to take that list, and we’re going to make sure that they become a part of our DNA. We’re not just writing them down one time a year and forgetting about them or writing them down one time a year and expecting magic to happen. Here are the steps to follow to make sure they happen.
#1 – We went over our goals and our limiting beliefs, but I want you to take each one of those goals and write each one in the present tense and be very specific. Make sure they’re measurable. Internalize those and accept that they are going to happen.
#2 – Take that list, put it on a specific paper that you can print out, and carry it with you every single day. Don’t leave it on your desk. Fold it up and stick it in your pocket or your purse. Read them out every morning when you wake up, and before you go to bed. Be sure you say them, and you believe them.
#3 – Make a recording. When you’re driving, you can listen to that recording. Most phones have an app that will allow you to record something, and it can become one of your files on your phone. Take that recording, and you can have it transcribed.
#4 – Make a vision board. We must be using all of our senses. Having a vision board with pictures allows you to also see something from a creative space that will represent that specific goal. If you have 12 goals, make a vision board with an image for each one of those 12 areas. You can even use the back of your paper for your vision board.
#5 – Now we are going to reverse engineer how we’re going to make these things happen. If one of your goals is to lose 10 pounds in three months, then you need to write down the steps that you are going to take to make this happen. Use the same document, but I like to take the first page and have it be a table of contents. Then I take that same list, and copy and paste it on page three, because on page two are my images, and then for each one of those, they become its own piece of paper. Then do a brain dump for that specific goal. Use one goal per sheet of paper. So if you have 12 goals, then you should have 14 pieces of paper on your document that you have filled, because you’ve got your table of contents, page one, page two is all your images. And then pages three through 14 is each goal with the title of what that goal is, and then all of the steps that need to happen to make that goal come to fruition.
#6 – Schedule your goals. If you are going to say one of your goals is to get up every single morning and ride your stationary bike, then put that on your calendar. Without putting these items on your calendar, it allows you to cheat and not necessarily follow through. Make sure you take the extra step to schedule in your steps to accomplish your goals.
#7 – Make a celebration list. So now if we’ve got 12 steps, we’re on page 15. Make a list of all of the different things you are going to do to celebrate your successes and reward and victories. Maybe it’s going
OM15: Christie Ruffino|Goals to Fruition - Part 1 of 2
Goals to Fruition Part 1
Today we are having our very first episode of 2021. And since you're with me, I want to share something that I heard recently on another podcast. I believe it was the Driven Entrepreneur podcast which is an amazing resource from one of my friends, Matt Brauning. He mentioned in one of his episodes, that as humans, we are meaning making machines. We make meaning out of everything. Think about our stories, think about our lives. I'm sure, I'm not the only one that's experienced this. If something happens to you, and you interpret it a certain way, and you get your feelings hurt, or you get upset, or you tell yourself a story about that situation, which is completely different or completely not the situation that the other person intended. And in their story they're telling themselves something completely different. Now there is a divide in what you believe, in what they believe. And unless you communicate about it, and figure out what the real story is, you both go on your merry way. We make meaning out of things that don't necessarily need to happen. That is the same thing with our life.
Think about where you are right now. We want to live every day as humans, of course, believing that there is a purpose to our life that we were created for a reason. This time of the year, as the new year is just rolling in. We tend to take stock in our lives and think about what we've accomplished in the previous year. I know I do that. I've been doing that for years. Every year I take a piece of paper and jot down my business and personal goals for the next year. As I look upon my previous years, I really see that there is a pattern of success where I have created goals that I wanted to accomplish for the year to come. I love having this intention. I love being able to take stock of what we've done because we can't just coast through life. People do coast through life, but then we lose our passion, we lose our motivation, and we lose our drive. I have had the very great fortune of being able to build a lot of relationships and meet a lot of people throughout the years, specifically women who have connected with me because they had an amazing story. Their story is what led them to discover their purpose. They then took that purpose and created a business around it and were able step into their power and get on a trajectory that they thought was in perfect alignment with what they were excited about and what they believe they were created to pursue.
We all have different seasons in our life. At one point, one of the seasons I had was to become the best mom ever in my purpose. I loved being a mom. I loved having the freedom to spend a lot of time with my kids. I was a stay at home for many years. I always had some other work outside of the home that I was able to do. That honestly, for me, allowed me to keep my sanity. But during that period, my goal was never to pursue creating another business. I was happy. More importantly, for me, my personal purpose was to be the best mom I could be. That was perfect for that season of my life. Then things happened, and my life pattern or my life trajectory changed which brought me to a different season. I realized I could make my own goals, and I could discover my own purpose. But I didn't know what that was, and I was lost.
My purpose became making money, which isn't really a life purpose. I got lost in what my purpose was. I got caught up in the day-to-day task, and I got busy pursuing actions that would allow me to meet my needs and the needs of my family as a single mom. But then I lost touch with what I wanted to do and who I was and what my purpose was. Over the years, as I've been able to talk to other women and help them discover their purpose and get more in touch with my purpose at the same time. As I planned our schedule of podcast episodes for our 12 Days of Christ
OM14: Jean Kadkhodaian|Couples Synergy - Spiritual Development Through Relationships
anything that's alive is either growing or dying, in an array of relationship with alive.
Meet Today’s Guest: Jean Kadkhodaian
Jean Kadkhodaian and her husband, Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian, have been counseling thousands of couples since 2002. They work with couples as a couple. Their experience inspired them to create the Couples Synergy Method, a proven system to develop strong, resilient and empowered relationships. Join their online community called, Connections, and listen to live weekly webinars. Learn how to work on your relationship through their #1 podcast for couples called, "Couples Synergy - Real Couples, Real Stories". Treat you and your partner to a fun-filled relationship boosting Weekend Intensive, or work with Dr. Ray & Jean personally through their premiere Couple 2 Couple coaching program. Dr. Ray & Jean were married on February 14, 1998, and have 2 adult sons, a daughter-in-law and 2 pet stingrays. They enjoy riding motorcycles, scuba diving, hiking and traveling.
Tell the audience a little bit about your story.
I have eight siblings. And I grew up in a home that had a lot of a lot of chaos. I coped with that by working full time when I was in high school, so I would work and go to school, and I was pretty lonely. Early on, I got into a relationship with someone that ended up being a fairly toxic relationship. I was a mess. About a year after that, he decided to go away to college, and I didn't have a plan. I decided to join the army. When I got on the plane to go to basic training, I thought, you know, I'm going to reinvent myself.
The whole town where we lived knew who we were because were such a big family. There was always like a label that I couldn't get out from under. I was the youngest girl, and I was really shy, and I got on the plane, I'm like, I'm not going to be that anymore. I remember getting off the plane and shaking people's hands and introducing myself and having this false confidence which basic training really reinforced. I learned a lot about self-care and self-esteem and self-worth and discipline. And that really changed my life.
I came back home and got lost again and got pregnant at 20 years old. That was such a life changing event of mine. I joined a single mom support group, and I decided that was the work that I want to do. At the time I found out I was dyslexic, and it was the beginning of the word processor. I don't think I could have gone to school unless I had that to correct my spelling. I muscled my way through school with my son. I think I started when he was three and finished my bachelor's when he was eight. I continued to work really hard on myself during that entire time and I was in another toxic relationship.
Relationships became something that was a really strong passion of mine to figure out. And at some point, once I finished my bachelor's, I bought my own condo, which was a huge accomplishment for me. I was actually going to plan on being single the rest of my life because I was so bad at being in relationships and they were so painful. I spent three years and what I would say is you have to become the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, in order to be in a relationship where you have something to offer another person. And of course, once I got into that three-year mark where I really knew myself, I had all these wonderful ways of getting my needs met through family, friends, work kids, and pets. That's when I met my husband.
At the time, we were both working on our master's degree in clinical psychology. We started working in community mental health where there's very little training. We decided we could do it better. We started working together as a couple with couples. The incredible part of that journey is that when I was 30 years old, and my son was nine years old, I fell in love with a guy who was 24. Ray and I had this big ag
OM13: Amy Fritz |Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep
Meet Today’s Guest: Amy Fritz
What is the journey you went on to be the expert you are now?
I am a 20-year breast cancer survivor. I didn't just get diagnosed once but I had to two separate diagnosis. I was really hit hard with cancer when I was in my early 20s. And that's a real difficult time for people in their lives. You're becoming an adult, you're finding your footing, you're trying to either finish up education as I was or getting started with a career. And so to suddenly have your life come to a complete halt and have to fight cancer. That's a real challenge. And not everyone has the opportunity and privilege to be able to survive from that. Some people do live past cancer, but it hits them hard, and it really changes their life. Knowing this, I really wanted to make sure that I really had the opportunity to build a life I love and not to be stuck in survivor mentality and feeling sorry for myself asking myself, why did this happen? I wanted to make sure that I went from a survivor to a thriver really loving life and living it to its fullest.
My story in the book is about my journey with cancer, some of the details that I went through while I was fighting cancer and the surgeries that followed. And then what I did with my life afterwards. I was an undergraduate at the University of Washington, finishing up my Bachelor of Science in atmospheric sciences. I'm a little bit of a book nerd. And I love math. If anyone wants to know math and science, I love them both. Once I was free and clear of cancer, I went on to graduate school at both Penn State University, where I earned a Master of Science in meteorology. And then I went on to NC State University, where I received a Master of Science in physical oceanography.
When I was fighting cancer, one of the things that my doctor encouraged me was to set big goals, things that would excite me, things that would motivate me. And for me, really getting the opportunity to go to graduate school was worth it. For me, when I was fighting cancer, it was putting that goal out in front of me. In fact, while I was fighting, I was filling out applications for graduate school. I took the graduate required exam even during chemo. I was just doing everything I could to keep my life moving forward, because it's so important not to get stuck in your battle. Once I was done with doctor's appointments and the follow ups and the x rays and the surgeries. I had something else in my future. So that's a little bit about my story.
Now you're probably wondering, where does laughter come into this? Why is laughter so important? Where laughter comes in is it's been shown that as we laugh, we release positive endorphins throughout our body which could actually help your immune system. It's a great way to bring your mind back to being centered and focused. Laughter is wonderful. It has so many incredible benefits I can't even begin to explain, but it's also good exercise, which is another piece of my life.
You were faced at one point with a grim diagnosis, and you were physically drained and just weak. And you decided to go somewhere. Tell us more.
As I was taking rounds of chemotherapy, there came a time when my body wasn't bouncing back, my white blood cell count wasn't recovering. I was like borderline hospitalization for weeks. At one point in time, my doctors looked at me, held my hand, and shook their heads and said, you really need to get your affairs in order. It's very difficult to listen to a doctor not really know how much time you have left. I wanted to see if I could make one last memory in my life. If I could have one last really exciting thing to do, what would that be?
I asked my doctors if I could go to Disneyland. I lived in Washington state at the time. I know this is a real huge ask because we were worried about my immune system. If I pick up anything, it could be the end of
OM12: Christie Ruffino | Your Signature Story: Elevate Your Brand and Attract Clients with Your Message
Christie believes that mastering our stories is the key to everything we want in life. Our stories can either hold us back, or they can propel us to great heights. Once we master our story, we can identify our real purpose, step into our power, and help other people change their story by sharing our wisdom and guiding them to accomplish their goals.
In today’s episode, Christie shares 3-Key Principles to help you master your story so that you, too, can enjoy a business and life of true significance.
Let's get this party started...
When I interview our guests, the first thing I asked them is, what is your story? How did you become the expert at what you do right now? And what's funny is many of them look at me and say, Well, I'm not an expert, but they don't realize that they are I mean, we kind of don't necessarily give us enough ourselves enough credit. But what I see with so many of my guests and the clients I work with that the challenges that they face in their life in their journey, set them up perfectly to be where they are now.
I am like some of our guests where I went through something really traumatic. And I'm not going to go through the traumatic part of my journey in detail. But I will say that I went through a pretty difficult divorce. I came out on the other side broke, and not knowing how I was going to be able to feed my family. I didn't know I was going to be able to support my children. But I did, I was able to find a great job in the mortgage industry which set me on the path to start the Dynamic Professional Women's Network as the means or a tool or resource for me to get clients. Then 17 years later we have a thriving organization, and then on that journey, I was asked to share my story.
Now I was five or six years out of it, and I did not really see how my story was relevant. I hear that all the time with the women that I talk to or interview, that their story isn’t important. We don't really see how sharing our journey could help other people. Sometimes our stories are difficult stories and are pretty fresh. We don't want to necessarily go back there. We want to keep moving forward. I like to learn from my mistakes. I like to learn from the past, but then I like to find solutions to move forward. And I think that's very true of successful people as we learn from our mistakes. We realize that we can make a decision to stay stuck in our problem, and to wallow in our misery, and to just use that challenge as an excuse, instead of using it as the fuel to go to that next place.
I was in that situation where I had to make a decision to move forward. Once I decided to move forward, and it was very challenging to navigate through, I had many times on that journey where I didn't think I was going to get out. I didn't think I was going to ever get out of my financial situation or dealing with the divorce or managing my children. We have many obstacles on our journeys, and I had to figure it out on my own.
When I was asked to share my story, my first response was no. I had to take a step back. The person that invited me to share my story was our guest on day two, Michelle Prince. And that book, Dare to be a Difference Maker was my first step into this journey. So many great things came out of my messy divorce, and the Overcoming Mediocrity Project is one of those blessings. Michelle asked me a simple question, she asked me, if your story could just help one person, wouldn't it be worth it? I had to step out of my own shoes and think about it from that perspective. I was so wrapped up in my problem. I was in depression, very deep depression, where I wasn't getting out of bed for days. When my mom took my kids away that woke me up. I made a decision to do something about my situation. It was a slow journey. But I did. I was able to share my story. Not only was that experience transformational for my busi
OM11. Pat Mussieux | Pivot on Purpose: It's Never Too Late and You're Never Too Old!
Meet Today’s Guest: Pat Mussieux
Pat Mussieux is an internationally acclaimed speaker, award-winning business coach, TV host and author located in Edmonton, Canada.
Her newest book, ‘Business Gets Better When YOU Get Better! How to Change Yourself to Change Your Results” will be released in the summer of 2021. She has also co-written ‘Leadership Gurus Speak Out!” contributing her wisdom and expertise in the fields of Human Resources, Sales, Marketing and Training.
She has appeared regularly in media and print publications. Pat won the (New York based) STEVIE Award – Female Entrepreneur of the Year in Canada (4x), the STEVIE Award for Women in Business – Female Executive of the Year in Canada. Pat has been named as one of the “Top 100 Women Entrepreneur Experts to follow on Twitter”. She has also been nominated for Chatelaine magazine’s ‘Woman of the Year’.
Having transformed her life at age 57 from trash bag to travel in a private plane around the world, as well as taking her business from zero to close to a million dollars in less than 6 years are a direct result of her expertise in the area of mindset, marketing and money. She works with entrepreneurs around the world, including a mentoring project in both Johannesburg and Zimbabwe.
Pat regularly hosted a TV show, ‘Wealthy Women Leaders’ – where she interviewed successful, mature women entrepreneurs discussing the ‘good, the bad and the ugly’ of being in business and leadership. The intention of the show is to spark and inspire budding entrepreneurs when it comes to mindset, leadership and success.
She is very well known for her skills and expertise in the areas of networking, marketing, time/energy management, life balance ……and her mantra is ‘it’s never too late’! Her presentations are timely and relevant when it comes to productivity, motivation and inspiration.
Pat is well known in the world of association management having been involved, over a period of 30 years, as a board member, committee member, strategic planning facilitator and speaker at the local, Provincial and National levels. She has been a keynote speaker at national conferences for the CSAE and the Alzheimer society.
And while she loves all of that, her most important role and commitment is that of grandmother to 3 amazing young adults!!
How did you get to be the expert you’re in right now?
I am on a mission to share my story. Because if we were to sum it up my message to individuals to professionals to women is it's never too late. And you're never too old. My story is long, because I'm old. I'm going to start with a 10-year period in the 90s. That really was the foundation for who I am now, how I think, what I do, how I create my life, and many of your listeners may be familiar with Lou Tice and the Pacific Institute. I worked with Lou, I mentored with Lou, I was part of the institute's faculty, I was part of the International Speaker's Bureau, and the Pacific Institute is an international educational institute. And the focus of all the programs is around mindset, critical thinking skills. So I had the good fortune over a 10 year period of going on out into the world delivering this information, public sector, private sector, nonprofit. I became who I am now, because as I learned from Lou and all of the research psychologists that we worked with. There's certain ways of thinking to create the life that you do want.
My mother-in-law had Alzheimer's disease, my father-in-law had terminal cancer, my best friend was dying of breast cancer, my infant grandson was taken off life support and passed away. All of those life things that typically would happen over a period of time, for me, happened in a very condensed period of time. And had it not been for the incredible mentoring and training from Lou Tice, I don't know
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