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Paradise Reclaimed is a podcast for people who want to take back their personal power. A place where we want you to take a bite out of that apple. To think like an individual. A place where we ask questions about how we can reach our highest potential as thinkers, seekers, lovers, leaders, advocates, and innovators. Paradise Reclaimed is for entertainment purposes only. Hosted by Achmad Chadran, a marketing specialist, and featuring Dr. Teri Baydar, a consultant who works with high-achieving leaders who seek their personal pathways to self-actualizing growth.

Paradise Reclaimed Podcast Dr. Teri Baydar and Achmad Chadran

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Paradise Reclaimed is a podcast for people who want to take back their personal power. A place where we want you to take a bite out of that apple. To think like an individual. A place where we ask questions about how we can reach our highest potential as thinkers, seekers, lovers, leaders, advocates, and innovators. Paradise Reclaimed is for entertainment purposes only. Hosted by Achmad Chadran, a marketing specialist, and featuring Dr. Teri Baydar, a consultant who works with high-achieving leaders who seek their personal pathways to self-actualizing growth.

    Episode 20: The Embarrassment of Being Human

    Episode 20: The Embarrassment of Being Human

    Originally recorded in mid-January of 2021, we've decided to make this episode our final installment for Paradise Reclaimed Podcast Season 1, for reasons of circumstance and...let's call it editorial convenience. And in that it works quite well, actually, in that it ends the season with unusual spirit and some unexpected twists and turns. These twists and turns may well, we hope, hint at what's to come in Season 2, which we hope to bring to light after a short hiatus.

    But more on that later.

    For now, take a listen to what starts out as a free Dr. Teri coaching session for Achmad, but then transforms quickly into...well you decide. However you describe what follows, there's inarguably more interplay between Achmad and Dr. Teri than on prior podcasts. There's more of a side-by-side comparison of their views of normative and non-normative states and behaviors.

    Responding to Dr. Teri's prompts, Achmad observes, "Knowing myself as well as I feel I do now...entering a new situation, a new context...with a discipline to keep my freak flag furled at the outset, and then to gradually unfurl it over time...the joy comes from realizing that I've reached a point where I can fully wave that doggone freak flag."

    Achmad compares the process of transcending human embarrassment to writing poetry, in that both require a certain mastery of existing groundrules, conventions, and grammars to do effectively.

    For her part, Dr. Teri sees the stakes and the outcome of getting past human embarrassment in different terms altogether.

    "Be who you're going to be, wherever you can, safely," she counsels. "I hear in what you're saying that there's  a lot about the objective of being able to wave your freak flag. And I find that true, but there's something different in the way you're approaching that I don't 100% identify with.  I identify with a much softer, much more inner-journey acceptance of self-acceptance and self-love, and I get the sense that you have this belonging in the community aspect that's much stronger about showing who you are, and I'm more like, 'no, I'm going to be who I am even if it means not being in the world."

    So do yourself a favor and listen to Episode 20: The Embarrassment of Being Human. It's for entertainment purposes, so we hope there's some vaudeville value in if for you. And do take us up on our invitation to send us your responses to the question, "How do YOU wave YOUR freak flag?" Send those to paradisereclaimedpodcast@gmail.com.

    Now, to our hiatus: given the net-positive developments that Dr. Teri now finds herself penning two books and designing two new web sites, and that Achmad's contributions at work have led to a surge in demand for his involvement across a growing range of projects, we feel the time has come to press pause for a few months while we review what we do well as a podcast series and redefine the way we do that in a way that satisfies all the requisite gods and goddesses.

    In the meantime, please be sure to subscribe, bookmark, or favorite Paradise Reclaimed Podcast. That way, you'll be among the first to know when we're back. And we'll have a great big, freaking reunion party.

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    • 52 min
    Episode 19: Letting Go

    Episode 19: Letting Go

    Dr. Teri embraces the spirit of the new year by breaking free from the shackles of our past and embracing the now.

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    Episode 18: Choosing Happiness

    Episode 18: Choosing Happiness

    As we welcome the hope and relief promised by the start of 2021, Dr. Teri and I discuss happiness: what it is and isn't, different strategies – effective and futile – for finding it, and some tips for keeping to the healthiest course for you.

    We all know what happiness is, don't we? Can't we at least say that we recognize happiness when we see it? Feel it?

    Not necessarily, says Dr. Teri.

    "There's something that I call 'The Happiness Formula,' which is a lie. It's a social and adopted psychological construct that says that once you accumulate the right ingredients, and line them up in just the right way, you'll finally be happy," she explains.

    The right education from the right Ivy League school. The right job. The right spouse. The right kids. The right body shape. These are some of the many Happiness Formula checklist items we all carry around with us, often despite our own best intentions.

    The Happiness Formula is at the root of the constant ache and longing that smolders stubbornly in our subconscious. It prevents us from enjoying the joy and fulfillment we've already earned. It's the value template that marketers and advertisers prey upon to compel us to spend money we don't have for things we don't need.

    So on the occasion of the new year, let's choose happiness. Instead of trying vainly to tally up points on the irrational and unfulfilling Happiness Formula, let's work on ourselves – that is, our selves – work that can deliver the sense of belonging and inclusion we all thirst for as human beings. Let's take on meaningful challenges, challenges that promise positive transformation, that promise growth, and that foster an expansion of our minds and our hearts.

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    “The happiness we seek is already here and it will be found through letting go rather than through struggle.”
    – Pema Chödrön
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    Let's seek happiness in a way that brings healing to our troubled lives, our vital relationships, and our fragile universe. Let's rechart our life journeys to take us to destinations that are virtuous, life-affirming, and selfless.

    Listen to your inner leader, your inner parent, your inner child. Each of them loves you and looks to you to set the example – the standard, the ethos – that they can aspire to in turn. Don't let yourself get distracted or derailed as you forge your path to self-actualization and enlightenment. Do take that class you wish you'd taken back in college.  Take another look at your personal mission statement, or draft one from scratch if necessary. Find that nonprofit organization that advances your personal vision for the future; found it if there isn't one already.

    Your happiness lies in manifesting the changes that make the world a better place, and manifesting those invariably requires an act of self-transformation. Take things step by step. This is your unfolding. This is your personal path.

    "Choosing happiness means making a really good choice," Dr. Teri succinctly summarizes, "about which direction to go in. That has to come from the inside."

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    • 33 min
    Episode 17: Effective Leadership in a Lockdown World

    Episode 17: Effective Leadership in a Lockdown World

    What constitutes effective leadership in a world defined by a pandemic, a tectonic pivot, and a near-crippling uncertainty about what tomorrow may bring?

    The very fabric of society is transforming before our eyes. The stakes for decisions we make every day – Do I wear a mask? Must I go into that store? Should I sanitize my hands again? – seem momentous, at times absurd. For many of us, our work modes have morphed too, shifting nearly overnight from desks in offices to video meetings at our dining tables.

    Yet while isolating from work colleagues and neighbors, we're in extremely tight quarters with our partners and family members, running Zoom meetings in parallel, stealing time from our jobs to help our distance-learning children prove a Geometry theorem or to give the sourdough one last knead.

    "These are conditions that were always there, but everything has more gravitas because we're being confronted," Dr. Teri observes. "We're now seeing how we fit into this life as individuals, as organic beings, or as humans."

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    “Effective leadership has a core of love.”
    – Dr. Teri Baydar
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    Dr. Teri points out that we've all been lulled into accepting a status quo without due reflection or discernment. While nobody should neglect or disavow the suffering endured by many people and groups in the years before COVID-19 struck, certain of us have willingly surrendered our right to question convention, seduced by the sense of security – real or imagined – promised by the status quo.

    "Now," she observes, "we're pivoting on every single front."

    Dr. Teri believes that we're on the verge of a larger global shift, within which COVID is but one of many catalyzing events. Post-lockdown leadership requires balance: yin and yang, left-brain and right-brain, thinking and feeling.

    Listen to Episode 17: Effective Leadership in a Lockdown World now on:
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    • 55 min
    Episode 16: Judging You, Judging Me

    Episode 16: Judging You, Judging Me

    Election Day is near at hand in the United States, and our judging faculties are working overtime.
    Given the high stakes, it's worthwhile to ask: how does this process work? How can we judge – ourselves, others, ideas, and institutions – more effectively? Is judging even a healthy process?
    "Really good judgment is discernment," offers Dr. Teri, "You've got to step away from  the linear right-wrong, black-white, good-bad...that binary thing. Discernment comes from a different place." 
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    "He who knows others is clever; He who knows himself has discernment."
    Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
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    What's the difference between judgment and discernment? 
    Judgment, first of all, draws from our more primal faculties, the fight-flight-freeze impulses we once relied upon for our survival. In other words, when we judge, we draw conclusions hastily, with little to no processing. Second, the act of judging assumes a power differential: courtroom judges and magistrates sit on a bench, stationed above the prosecutor, defendant, and jury. Finally, when we judge the actions and character of others, we really judge ourselves.
    And we deserve better than that, don't we?
    Discernment, on the other hand, is a process we use to distinguish among different degrees of appropriate and inappropriate. When we practice discernment, we're not sorting behaviors, decisions, statements, or – least of all – people into "good" and "bad" boxes. Discernment is about reflecting on varying shades of virtue: good, better, best. We can't truly discern without developing a holistic understanding of the context involved. It necessarily involves our brain's higher cognitive functions. 
    Let's be clear, however: we all judge.
    "Let's talk about how the judge inside us works," counsels Dr. Teri. "The judge's intention is to give us a sense of security even where there is none, to control the world in ways that it cannot be controlled. It's wired into us as a survival mechanism, but then it gets out of hand."
    To reach our highest potential, we need to break out of the judging mindset and embrace the practice of discernment.
    Listen to Episode 16: Judging Me, Judging You now on:
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    • 38 min
    Episode 15: Fake News - Why We're Complicit

    Episode 15: Fake News - Why We're Complicit

    We have the right to expect more from our news sources and outlets, but we also need to process news, not simply consume it.

    • 37 min

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Kardog43 ,

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Love this podcast! The energy, experience and perspective Dr. T brings to every episode guarantees the listener a positive and thought-provoking experience. This podcast is for anyone who is on their journey, putting in the work and committed to leveling up in life. Happiness is a choice!

aw-ocean ,

Be presence, and how.

Thanks for sharing Dr.Teri! I’m sure that a lot of audiences felt related like I did.

And quite a coincidence, just the week after your podcast, I attended a book reading session for local entrepreneurs, and one of the guest speakers shared the book “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. I did not read the book yet, but during the session, the speaker shared his experience of Anxiety Disorder because the lost of his dad, and he kind of also echoed what you shared in the podcast, which is quite often experienced by people everywhere during this pandemic situation, I suppose.

Be presence. I tell myself a lot. But still I can not help worrying about what’s coming next, or what if nothing I wished for would happen. Life is full of uncertainty when I feel like taking control of nothing. So for sure, it will take a lot of practice and patience.

It’s not always like that, luckily. However, I’m sure a lot of people felt the same, especially at this special time.

Will listen to your other sessions too, and thanks for sharing and always being inspiring!

Warmest regards,
Athena :)

Aurorahart ,

Fascinating

Enjoying these episodes. Dr Teri and Achmad ’s conversational style is calming yet educational. Especially like the discussion “running/working on minimum”

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