Pardon the Mess with Courtney DeFeo

Pardon the Mess with Courtney DeFeo Podcast

As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess. Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

  1. Are my kids on track? with Sissy Goff and David Thomas

    2 DAYS AGO

    Are my kids on track? with Sissy Goff and David Thomas

    I didn’t know “swap” was a thing in podcasting. Who knew? It was an immediate YES when we got the opportunity to swap episodes with my dear friends Sissy Goff and David Thomas. You will get to hear one of their actual episodes from the Raising Boys and Girls podcast - to get a glimpse of how they support parents across the world.  These two have helped raise my kids in some ways. I have read every book they have written and listened to every episode of their podcast. Sissy and David, with Raising Boys and Girls, offer clinical experience and grace-filled encouragement for every stage of our parenting. You will see a glimpse of their practical parenting support and tender encouragement in this episode.  When you were growing up, did your parents pass a feelings chart around the dinner table? Or did you have healthy conversations around emotions? We’re guessing, for most of us, that’s a no—but we’d love to hear in the comments! In case you didn’t or are just wondering what a healthy emotional vocabulary looks like for your family, this episode is the one for you! In it, Sissy and David discuss what it looks like to fold an emotional vocabulary into the life of your family, plus stumbling blocks and building blocks that are often more specific to girls and boys (and maybe mom’s and dad’s, too). We hope it helps and that you’re HAPPY and ENCOURAGED once you have a chance to listen! Grab a copy of Are My Kids on Track? to follow along with us through the season over on our podcast, Raising Boys and Girls. And be sure to listen for Pardon The Mess as we appear on their podcast in the next couple weeks! Enjoy! Courtney  Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Celebrating around the Table Politics Simplified Resources from today’s show: Sign up for Raising Boys & Girls monthly newsletter to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Tune into more of this series on the Raising Boys & Girls podcast Go behind the scenes and watch Sissy & David’s podcast on YouTube! Download a copy of the Raising Boys and Girls Feelings Chart. Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at raisingboysandgirls.com. Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    40 min
  2. Mother-Daughter Relationships with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney

    AUG 29

    Mother-Daughter Relationships with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney

    The mother-daughter relationship can be the most special bond out there. However, it can also be tough in many seasons. The mother-daughter duo of Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney are on the podcast today to give us very practical tips on ways to build, maintain and strengthen our relationships with our daughters. As we think about the mother-daughter relationship, we can often jump to the things we need to add to our plate. We feel guilty that we aren’t doing enough. Sandra shares that we may need to actually eliminate things. We may need to limit what we do - to make room for this important relationship.  As a mom of daughters, I absolutely loved this chat and it gave me so many great ideas I can still implement in my own home. However, if you have sons, you will still gain some great thoughts on connecting with all of your children. My favorite part of the episode is when Allie shares about her college experience and how she made her faith her own. Her insight was really helpful to me about our kids finding their identity and how they can change from “I have to love Jesus” to “I want to love Jesus.” So many powerful moments from two of my favorite people. In this episode: Creating a safe and loving environment for daughtersHow to pass on an authentic faithHow to show interest in your child’s life Enjoy! Courtney 00:00 Introduction and Mother-Daughter Similarities 03:50 Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Daughters 07:16 Passing on Faith: Modeling and Encouraging a Personal Relationship with God 16:14 Modeling Authentic Faith 18:36 Personal Faith Journey 22:11 Staying Stable in Parenting 24:12 Being Available and Humble 28:30 Showing Interest in Your Child's Life 30:23 Adjusting Parenting Approaches Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Resources from today’s show: SandraStanley.com Allie Stanley Instagram Meet Me In The Middle - their new book I Said This, You Heard That - temperament book Parenting book by Andy and Sandra Stanley Allie & Courtney - previous podcast episode Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    35 min
  3. Finding direction when you feel lost with Cari Trotter and Terri Flannagan

    AUG 22

    Finding direction when you feel lost with Cari Trotter and Terri Flannagan

    Have you ever had a season where you question everything about yourself? Have you found yourself in an insecure spot and wonder if you’re too late or too old? Do you wonder if you have anything to offer the world? I have been in this place more times than I can count. Being a mom and balancing career and purpose and raising kids can be very complicated and very discouraging. It’s so very hard to discern what to do when God feels quiet and sometimes the path feels uncertain or vulnerable. My guests today, Cari Trotter and Terri Flannagan, share their own stories about why it’s so hard to discern around career and calling. I believe their honest feelings and practical advice will encourage you in your own journey. Please don’t miss this entire episode. It’s a little long, so you may need to listen in two parts. My favorite part is at the end when we start tackling the practical stuff. What do we do with a complicated situation? How can we take a step? How can we discern what to do in the next season? I pray this episode meets you in such a special way. That you feel like we opened your heart and soul and spoke to a place that needs encouragement. I am insanely thankful for authentic and honest friends that love me and love Jesus. It’s a true gift. In this episode, we discuss: Handling a midlife crisis, work and reinventing ourselvesBalancing careers and raising kidsHow to discern what God has for us How to fight the very loud lies that want us silent and frozen 00:00 Introduction and Entertaining Start 04:02 Talking About Fashion and Passion Projects 05:50 Midlife Crisis, Work, and Reinventing Ourselves 08:51 Introductions and Current Life Situations 11:54 Why Balancing Work and Personal Life is Hard 16:38 Discerning What's Next and Dealing with Lies 22:13 Navigating Transitions and Evaluating Priorities 25:20 Dealing with Comparison and Seeking Authenticity 27:13 Being True to Yourself and Finding Support 31:48 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 34:46 Staying Rooted and Grounded 37:13 Embracing Silence and Growth 44:34 The Journey of Faith 50:56 Redefining Success 57:45 Embracing Struggles and Failure Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Resources from today’s show: CariTrotter.com Party On Purpose - Cari’s business with girls Cari’s Instagram TerriFlannagan.com The Unreal Reel - Terri’s Instagram Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    58 min
  4. How to honor God with your family with Priscilla Shirer

    AUG 15

    How to honor God with your family with Priscilla Shirer

    You can imagine, I have been quite excited to share this episode with you all. Priscilla Shirer is one of the gifted preachers that has inspired me and challenged me so much over the years. I was so thrilled to get a chance to interview her about her latest movie and book. The Forge, produced by The Kendrick Brothers, is set to release next week. I Surrender All, her latest book, just came out last week.  Both of those new projects are all about surrender. How can we surrender our lives and go from being a believer to a disciple? I loved how she teaches us about that difference and how the idea of surrendering all can truly impact our faith (and our families). Although Priscilla is a world-renowned teacher, preacher, actor and writer - she’s also a mom, just like us, giving it her very best. I love hearing about the ways her amazing parents instilled the practices of faith. She shares about their consistency and what she remembered about growing up in a house that honored God. Don’t forget to grab your Prayer Journal! We will be starting to pray through that together on Pardon The Mess on September 9. Grab a friend or your small group and let’s commit to pray for our kids this entire school year. In this episode, we chat about: The difference between being a believer and a disciple How to walk through grief and hold onto your faithHow to instill faith in our kids when they aren’t into itHow to stay consistent with honoring God with your kids Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Resources from today’s show: Priscilla Shirer - Priscilla’s ministry, Going Beyond The Forge - Her latest movie I Surrender All - Her latest book Evans Family on Death & Loss Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    28 min
  5. Infertility, miscarriage & finding joy again with Nicole Zasowski - Story 10

    AUG 8

    Infertility, miscarriage & finding joy again with Nicole Zasowski - Story 10

    We are finishing our Summer of Stories with Nicole Zasowski. She is a counselor, author and speaker that shares her painful story of infertility and miscarriage. Many of you know too well what it’s like to embrace joy when you’ve walked through so much loss and disappointment. Nicole bravely encourages us all that it’s possible. It’s possible to find joy and practice thanksgiving even when mourning and grief is very present. Make sure you follow along this week on Pardon The Mess Instagram page. I will share the picture of all of her kids that stopped me in my tracks. The photo was edited to feature her 3 kids on earth and her 5 kids in heaven all walking together on the beach. This photo so beautifully depicted the reality that Nicole is a mom of eight children, not just three. If you have been through loss like Nicole, I believe you will be so encouraged by her honesty about the emotions she feels and her journey with God through it all. My favorite part is when she shares about the brain science behind negativity and joy. She shares practical ideas on how we can lean towards and practice savoring joyful moments. We can store these memories in a part of our brain that helps us recall them again and again. Praying for each of you now, that you feel seen and heard through this episode. I pray that God meets you in the tender, broken and disappointed places of your heart.  Much love, Courtney  In this episode, we chat about: Nicole’s journey with infertility and miscarriageLeaning into God with all of your emotionsHow sadness can help us find the joyHow to practically celebrate and savor moments when life is hard Timestamps: 0:00 Introduction and Background 03:48 Struggling with Infertility and Miscarriage 08:09 Feeling Alone and Finding Support 11:35 Journey Between Children 16:01 The Vulnerability of Joy 22:24 Holding Both Pain and Joy 24:17 The Power of Celebration 27:56 Savoring Everyday Moments 30:21 Celebration as a Rhythm 35:40 Engaging God in Joy and Pain Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Resources from today’s show: NicoleZasowski.com Lost to Found What If It’s Wonderful  NLT Student Thinline Reference Bible Hope for your Homeschool Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    42 min
  6. Parenting alone & isolated with Karen Stubbs - Story 9

    AUG 1

    Parenting alone & isolated with Karen Stubbs - Story 9

    Welcome to Week 9 of our Summer of Stories series! This Summer we have been featuring stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.  In this week’s story, you will hear from the hilarious and wise Karen Stubbs. How many people can say they married a Top Gun fighter pilot? Well, Karen married that guy we saw in the movies. However, she very quickly realized that the cute uniform wasn't that cute when he was away most days of the month. Karen’s story is one of raising her young four kids without support. So many of you know this road - whether you are a single mom, have a husband that travels or works often or even if you live from friends and community. Karen shares the very honest truth of what God did when she felt completely alone and isolated in motherhood. Make sure you get to the end when Karen shares about parenting very different personalities. She explains why it’s so important that we really know how our kids operate and the benefits of parenting them with strengths in mind.  I am praying Karen’s story reaches so many moms that feel in over their heads and you find reassurance that God is with you every step of the way. Karen is now a grandmother and runs a global ministry for moms. She has mounds of wisdom and truth that you will enjoy! In this episode, we discuss: How to parent alone from single parenting to a traveling husbandHow to practically survive in a world with little support and communityWhen you realize your husband cannot meet your needsHow to parent kids with unique personalitiesWhen your child questions their faith Love, Courtney 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:53 Challenges of Military Life 08:01 Relying on God to Meet Needs 11:03 Impact on Children and Marriage 14:25 Understanding and Parenting According to Temperaments 20:13 Navigating the Challenges of Raising Kids in the Church 24:16 Finding Hope in Difficult Circumstances 31:49 Practical Parenting Advice from 'The Survival Guide to Motherhood' Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Resources from today’s show: Birds On A Wire Moms Wire Talk Podcast Survival Guide to Motherhood by Karen Stubbs Pinc Ministries with Ashley Hicks Temperament & Personality Quiz Parenting Together NLT Student Thinline Reference Bible Hope for your Homeschool Pardon the Mess is part of The Christian Parenting Podcast Network. As a donor funded ministry, we rely on generous supporters like you to keep this show going. If you enjoy this podcast, please consider giving a gift today. Join the Christian Parenting Legacy Builders community Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    45 min
  7. When your child suffers with Cleere Cherry Reaves - Story 8

    JUL 25

    When your child suffers with Cleere Cherry Reaves - Story 8

    Welcome to Week 8 of our Summer of Stories series! This summer we have been featuring stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.  In this week’s story, you will hear from the extraordinary Cleere Cherry Reaves. It’s very likely that you have one of her beautiful products and didn’t even know it. Her massive heart for Jesus pours right into her beautiful company. I have enjoyed so many of her books, devotions and gifts for years.  In the first part of our chat, we talked about her business and entrepreneurial spirit. So many of us moms have a creative stirring from God and we often aren’t sure what to do with that. How do we pursue a creative idea while raising kids? We often get overwhelmed and just put it aside. I’m praying that there’s a few moms listening that need to regain confidence and motivation to explore the creative ideas God put inside your heart. The second part of our talk was my favorite! Cleere shares her story of going into labor prematurely and the miracle story that follows. Cleere’s son, Sledge, has faced so many uphill battles and has suffered more than any mom wishes on their child. Maybe you have a child with a tough diagnosis? Or you know of another mom with a motherhood journey that went differently than expected? This episode is for us all. We can all learn from Cleere’s undeniable faith and perseverance as she raises one strong and mighty boy. Love, Courtney Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Small Talk 04:48 Creating Products that Serve a Purpose 09:36 The Challenges and Rewards of Entrepreneurship 13:03 Starting a Business with a Specific Person in Mind 16:11 Supporting and Celebrating Others in the Entrepreneurial Journey 28:12 From Challenges to Miracles: Trusting God's Plan 35:45 The Impact of Perspective on Others 37:37 Embracing Authenticity and Finding Joy 46:01 Trusting in the Character of God 49:59 The Power of Community and Support Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Resources from today’s show: Cleerely Stated Promises from the Psalms - card set I bought Ella Unfiltered - Cleere’s new devotional StrongHeart Pardon the Mess is part of The Christian Parenting Podcast Network. As a donor funded ministry, we rely on generous supporters like you to keep this show going. If you enjoy this podcast, please consider giving a gift today. Join the Christian Parenting Legacy Builders community Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    51 min
  8. Adopting kids & traveling the world with Erin Burchik - Story 7

    JUL 18

    Adopting kids & traveling the world with Erin Burchik - Story 7

    Welcome to Week 7 of our Summer of Stories series! This Summer we have been featuring stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.  In this week’s story, you will hear from the delightful, creative and intentional Erin Burchik. She is a family friend and I have long-admired her approach to parenting. She desperately wants to enjoy each of her kids and embrace the “good ole days” of kids in the home. She will share how traveling and taking trips became a passion of hers. And she will share some super practical ways to make trips doable and affordable when you’re on a budget. Before we get to the scoop on traveling for less, she shares her story about becoming a mom. Through many trials and some devastating financial loss, Erin has fought through doubt and frustration with God. She felt called to adopt and then it didn’t go as smoothly as she had hoped. It’s so fun to see her on the other side of this battle and see the family that God designed from the very beginning.  My favorite part is when she explains the WHY behind their family adventures. She’s not traveling to flex on Instagram or show off or waste money. She’s traveling because she wants to create memories with her kids, to carve out time to adventure together and to get out of their comfort zone. I love her approach! In this episode, we discuss: Erin’s journey to motherhood - foster care and adoptionHow to find community with other adopted familiesHow to exchange gifts for experiences at ChristmasHow to find creative ways to do big trips on a little budget Enjoy!! Courtney Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 04:02 The Journey of Adoption 08:57 Building a Supportive Community 18:13 Creating Lasting Memories 20:05 Santa Bringing Christmas Trips 22:10 Maximizing Credit Card Points 25:29 Saving Thousands on Family Trips 28:21 Benefits of Traveling with Kids 30:15 Building Independence and Confidence 33:31 Enjoying Motherhood and Savoring the Moments Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess  Courtney DeFeo Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith Resources from today’s show: StrongHeart Erin’s Instagram Erin’s travel site - Points For Families Erin’s book - Animals of the Nativity Erin’s book - The Bear Hug TBRI for families that have adopted Pardon the Mess is part of The Christian Parenting Podcast Network. As a donor funded ministry, we rely on generous supporters like you to keep this show going. If you enjoy this podcast, please consider giving a gift today. Join the Christian Parenting Legacy Builders community Our Sponsors: * Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: www.ixl.com/TODAY * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    38 min

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As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess. Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

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