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Parenting is messy and we're not afraid to talk about it. Each week Cynthia Yanof has honest conversations with her guests about raising our kids in biblical truth in a fast-changing world. It's funny, it's relatable, it's honest, and it's going to keep you coming back for more. Let's walk the parenting road together, because there are no perfect parents - just a perfect God who loves us in the middle of our mess.

Pardon the Mess with Cynthia Yanof Christian Parenting

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.9 • 601 Ratings

Parenting is messy and we're not afraid to talk about it. Each week Cynthia Yanof has honest conversations with her guests about raising our kids in biblical truth in a fast-changing world. It's funny, it's relatable, it's honest, and it's going to keep you coming back for more. Let's walk the parenting road together, because there are no perfect parents - just a perfect God who loves us in the middle of our mess.

    Raising Emotionally Strong Boys with David Thomas

    Raising Emotionally Strong Boys with David Thomas

    Boys… whatcha gonna do with them? Just kidding. 
     
    But they really are unique creatures and if you’re raising one or more, you know that finding ways to help them communicate and express their feelings in a healthy way can be challenging. 
     
    David Thomas is a Pardon the Mess favorite, and he’s with us today discussing the importance of raising emotionally strong boys. Don’t miss his insight into why our boys suffer from higher rates of suicide, addiction, and pornography abuse—oftentimes because they haven’t learned to deal with their emotions in a healthy way. 
     
    Here are a few highlights:
    Modeling healthy communication with our boys  The three “R’s” of emotional health  How anxiety and depression present in boys What healthy relationships look like for boys When pulling away is okay… and when it’s not   
    David’s new book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys is a must-read. Check it out and all the other great resources offered through Daystar Counseling!



    Resources from today's show: 
    Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build on for Life
    Raising Boys and Girls
    NIV Teen Study Bible
    A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids

    • 43 min
    Raising a rebel in today’s culture with Sean McDowell

    Raising a rebel in today’s culture with Sean McDowell

    I’m so happy to have Sean McDowell with us again today! We’re talking about practical ways to equip our kids to intellectually defend their faith. Sean is an author, speaker, and well-known apologist in today’s culture (just like his dad, Josh McDowell). 
     
    Sean and I talk about the confusing messages our kids are facing and how these messages are different from the ones in the past. We also talk about how to teach our kids to be bold in speaking up for their faith… with compassion and grace. 
     
    There’s so much you don’t want to miss on today’s show with Sean McDowell—he’s a big deal and you’ll love all he has to say about apologetics, preparing our kids intellectually, and his new book that is a great resource for our teens! 
     
    P.S. If you haven’t purchased our new prayer journal, now is a GREAT time to do that. We’re kicking off in September so grab your copy now! 
     
    Resources from today's show: 
    A Rebel’s Manifesto
    A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids

    • 34 min
    When you feel like “the worst person in the world” with Scarlet Hiltibidal

    When you feel like “the worst person in the world” with Scarlet Hiltibidal

    Is your face melting off from the heat? We used to just call this ridiculous weather “Texas in July.”  But the odds are if you’re in the United States or Europe, you’re doing a little bit of sweating right alongside us. Not to mention, if you have kids home this summer and you didn’t plan enough activities, there’s some sweating involved with that too. 
     
    Thankfully we have Scarlet Hiltibidal with us today. She’s an author, speaker, and mom who knows what it’s like when you’re trying to be everything to everyone. She found herself feeling like “the worst person in the world” after years of hustling, striving, and trying to prove to God and everyone else that she was good enough. 
     
    Today she shares with us how important it is to come to terms with our status as sinners, and how to pivot from striving to chasing after the right things—the eternal things. She also gives us practical ways to defeat the lies we struggle with and stand on the truth we find in Jesus. 
     
    Can’t wait for you to hear from Scarlet this week! And then stay tuned because we have some awesome shows coming your way to prepare us for back to school. Stay cool! 
     
    Resources from today's show: 
    You’re the worst person in the world
    Signals: How Brain Science and the Bible Help Parents Raise Resilient Children
    A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids

    • 31 min
    Sexuality: What your kids need to hear from you with Dr. Juli Slattery

    Sexuality: What your kids need to hear from you with Dr. Juli Slattery

    A friend recently mentioned to me a podcast, Java with Juli, that has completely changed how she approaches the topic of sexuality with her kids. Fast forward to today, and Juli Slattery is joining us to talk about sexuality as it relates to our marriages, parenting, and so much more.
     
    Now most of you know that talking about sex makes me squirm. So if for no other reason, you need to listen today because words are said in this show that have not been said in the 300+ podcasts I’ve released of Pardon the Mess. 😬
     
    Here’s a run down of what we’re covering:
    Developing a deeper intimacy with your spouse Discipling your kids on the subject of sex Must have conversations with your kids around sexuality Discussions for when your kids struggle with pornography Messaging our kids are hearing from the current culture I would say this is probably a podcast to listen to solo before throwing it out for the whole fam on the way to the beach. You’ll thank me later!
     
    Please, please take time to listen to this important podcast and then share it with others as we work to improve our conversations in our families around sexuality. 
     
    Resources from today's show: 
    Juli Slattery’s resources:
    Authentic Intimacy Ministry
    Java with Juli Podcast 
    God Sex and Your Marriage book
    Finding the hero in your husband
    A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids

    • 36 min
    When your kids trigger you with Sissy Goff

    When your kids trigger you with Sissy Goff

    I hope everyone had an amazing 4th of July! We spent the last week in Boston on vacation and it was amazing, exhausting, and everything you can imagine from spending a week with your kids in small spaces. That makes today’s podcast especially timely (for me at least).  
     
    Today we have the privilege of hearing from Sissy Goff, a fan favorite when it comes to understanding our kids. Sissy is the Director of Child and Adolescent Counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, Tennessee, and a dear friend to our show.
     
    Sissy is unpacking some important topics to consider during the summer months, and a few issues that are probably cropping up in your home as well as mine. 
     
    Here’s a few of the things we discuss:
    Why our kids trigger us and how to manage it What our kids need from us this summer How to instill confidence in our kids Ways to help our kids with friendships Teaching responsibility  Ideas on entitlement and discipline  
    I’m so grateful you’re with us this week. You’re going to love what Sissy has to offer.
     
    P.S. I’m so excited that our 2022-2023 prayer journal is out! Grab your copy now so you’re ready to hit the new school year running when it comes to praying for our kids. We will be praying the Psalms over our kids and it’s going to be amazing! 
     
    Resources from today's show: 
    More from Sissy Goff:
    Instagram 
    Raising Boys and Girls
    Raising Boys and Girls Podcast 
    A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids

    • 37 min
    “Best of” with David Thomas and tips for raising boys

    “Best of” with David Thomas and tips for raising boys

    This week as a part of our “best of” Pardon the Mess interviews, David Thomas is with us to talk about all things related to our boys. 
     
    Picture this: you’re picking up your son from the first day of school after waiting to hear all about his day. Even as he’s closing the car door you begin asking the most critical of questions like... How is your teacher? What friends are in your class? Who did you meet? Did you talk to any girls? What did you have for lunch? Are you tired? Why are you so quiet? Were the kids mean to you? 
     
    Apparently unaware of the millions of questions swirling in your mind, your son simply responds that his day was “good.” I feel your pain (like really feel your pain), and David Thomas from Daystar Counseling in Nashville does, too. 
     
    David talks with us about our boys’ developmental stages: explorer (0-4), lover (5-8), individual (9-12), wanderer (13-17), warrior (18-23). We also discuss the best ways to communicate and connect with our boys, which apparently does not involve barraging them with questions the second they get into the car (my bad). 
     
    So glad you’re with us today. 
     
    Resources from today’s show:
     
    Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas
    Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
    Every Home for Christ

    • 46 min

Customer Reviews

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601 Ratings

601 Ratings

AvedaBennett ,

Always a blessing

Came across Pardon the Mess about a year ago and have really enjoyed actively listening. As a mom of 3 young ones everything is always encouraging and insightful. They are a great length to listen to during errands or on a walk. Really appreciate all the resources and the hope that Cristina brings!

Nvshell ,

Love.

I love this, I love the guests, I have recently started listing to podcasts! I now follow a few that she has had on! Thank you for making my mess seem normal. Update I have now been listing to podcasts regularly! And this and “feeding the mouth that bites you” are hands down my favorites!

Tilleyd ,

Love Love Love this podcast

This is my favorite podcast! I always look forward to the weekly episodes. Cynthia is so encouraging and real. Godly parenting advise and truths is what you will find on here! Love it!!

Denise
Wife and mom to three 17, 16 and 8. ❤️

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