45 episodes

Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial.
Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot.
Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves.
We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks.
Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.
And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!

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    • Technology
    • 5.0, 5 Ratings

Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial.
Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot.
Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves.
We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks.
Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.
And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!

    045: Miriam Tocino: Zerus and Ona

    045: Miriam Tocino: Zerus and Ona

    Parent Driven Development

    Sponsored by: The Preschool Box

    Episode 045: Miriam Tocino - Zerus and Ona

    01:56 Welcome Miriam!

    Zerus & Ona were born from Miriam's own circumstances as a mom. By the time she had her baby, Miriam was the coordinator and teacher of a Development Bootcamp in Amsterdam. So, when the time came to go back to work (her son was 3 months old), she jumped back. After some weeks in the job, Miriam realised she couldn't do it. She was constantly sleep deprived and with no help around from family (we're expats). Miriam quit her job and stayed at home with her baby. She then started to use his naps to draw and write Zerus & Ona.


    **FREE PDF from Zerus and Ona on the ABCs of Computers


    03:29 Orgins of Zerus and Ona


    Miriam was leading tech bootcamps, then got pregnant
    Her baby was more work than expected ;)
    Miriam returns to work, but quit after a few weeks after returning
    Sleep deprived evenings inspired new ideas!


    08:40 Finding more intention as a new mom


    Thriving through a creative outlet
    Craving more information for her child in the future, specifically around TECH
    Motherhood and creativity are interconnected
    2 year journey to build Zerus and Ona


    15:05 Switching from architecture to tech to creative children’s books


    Binge learning and career switching
    No regrets


    19:05 Zerus and Ona “bits”


    Breaking down complex topics to make them easily understandable
    Miriam switches from thinking with her head, to listening with her heart.
    Unlocking creativity through The Artist's Way
    Intuitive writing, journaling and play!


    28:15 Zerus and Ona 2.0


    Evolution of creating the books
    If you’re thinking of making a move, do it!
    Learning to move on from perfectionism


    32:20 Genius / Fail moments


    Miriam allows her son a device while she finishes a project (unheard of in her house), only to discover all her original drawings of Zerus and Ona are GONE afterwards. #fail
    Allison’s son acts out more than usual during a super busy week for the family and realizes that maybe their communication could have been clearer with him from the start #fail
    Chris commits to structuring a new art piece with his daughter by watching YouTube videos. He ends up paying someone else, but instills a solid mindset in his daughter during the process #genius


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    Panel

    Allison McMillan
    Chris Sexton
    Special Guest: Miriam Tocino.
    Sponsored By:
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    • 43 min
    044: Recipe Swap

    044: Recipe Swap

    Parent Driven Development

    Sponsored by: Nurture Life

    Episode 043: Recipe Swap

    01:15 Welcome!

    02:04 Feeding kids is a full time job


    What are your meal time rules?
    Home delivery meal service
    Personal chef for the kids?? No…
    Meal time is meal time, and if the kids don’t eat, tough nuggets.


    08:59 Dinner table time


    Phone vs no phone?
    Are you a fast eater or slow eater?
    Time to share conversations with the family
    Limiting or monitoring the amount of food for kids, do you do this? Sometimes the doctors have given us parents too much to mull over...


    13:12 Food as restriction or reward?


    Dessert time - it’s a thing that is to be enjoyed
    Keto desserts… YUM
    Keto cake
    Chocolate chip cookies


    19:25 Cook at home vs. ordering out


    Meal prepping during the weekend to prepare for the week. This makes it quicker and easier. Less work too ;)
    No meat preschools - managing meals around kids school food programs.
    Therapeutic time in the kitchen
    Leftovers are best and easiest!
    Ever hear of module dinner architecture? KWu and her family utilize this magic.
    Meal deliveries for the win - Home Chef, Green Chef, Nurture Life
    Keto household
    Kosher household


    27:05 Household hacks


    Breakfast for dinner on Friday nights. What’s your favorite??
    Kids Eat in Color - tips on how to present food to your kids
    Parents determine when and what to eat, kids decide on how much - Ellyn Satter, Division of Responsibility
    Smitten Kitchen
    Maximizing on slow cookers and insta pots
    Cook’s Illustrated - for stews, slow cookers, and more!
    What is Mirepoix?
    Parenting trade off - you can choose cooking or the kids


    40:18 Making the kitchen as your sanctuary


    Football season - perfectly steamed shrimp and cheese boards for the win
    Dinner time is a celebration!
    Bringing coding into meal prepping ;)
    How to manage the recipe system. What are your tips?!


    45:40 Genius / Fail moments


    Mandy has an awesome win when she hears her daughter is totally comfortable with her, including asking her sex-ed questions. You too for older girls #genius
    Allison’s son chose to wear a bowtie for picture day and it turned out way better than expected! #genius
    KWu bakes it up with her toddler that he helped make! #genius and delicious muffins for the win.


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    Panel

    Allison McMillan
    Mandy Moore
    KWu
    Sponsored By:
    Nurture Life: The kids are home, you’re at home, and everybody has to eat.

    Nurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for the whole family delivered fresh right to your door each week. Meals are portioned by age and designed specifically to meet the nutrient-needs of your child, so everyone from your 10 month old to your 18 year old can continue to eat well and stay healthy as we stay inside.

    With a focus on organic veggies, lean antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, Nurture Life meals offer balanced nutrition that kids actually like. From Mac & Cheese with Cauliflower to Teriyaki Salmon with Rainbow Veggie Rice, each meal sets a new standard for what kids food should be.

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    • 52 min
    043: Managing Parents on Your Team

    043: Managing Parents on Your Team

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 043: Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.

    Welcome, Nick Means!
    Nickolas Means loves nothing more than a story of engineering triumph (except maybe a story of engineering disaster). When he's not stuck in a Wikipedia loop reading about plane crashes, he spends his days as a Senior Engineering Manager at GitHub working on Security and Compliance tooling for our users. He's also a co-host of the Managing Up podcast, a show about leading and managing in the world of technology. He works remotely from Austin, TX, and spends most of his spare time hanging out with his wife and kids, going for runs, or trying to brew the perfect cup of coffee.


    01:54 How do you approach management with parents on your team?


    Treating your team as you would want to be treated as a parent
    Setting examples to your team as a manager
    Evaluate the job performance on the work actually done, and not clock a few hours taken off for kid responsibilities
    Flexibility and trust in team members and manager


    07:12 Work life balance and work life integration


    Work sometimes becomes an escape from parenting life
    Self care for parents! No kids included, you need you


    11:35 How do you encourage your team members to take time for themselves


    Ask the right questions to figure out what will fill their cup?
    As a manager, you’re more aware of the state of your team members and can identify things quicker
    Applaud team members when you see them take the effort for PTO


    17:18 When you’re the only parent on the team.. How to make others understand


    Speak with kindness, set boundaries, have trust
    Time zone issues
    Setting boundaries with your team members
    How to structure workflow with team members in different zones


    26:20 Managers making it explicit that it is OK to be done when you leave your workstation

    28:02 Managing for non-remote teams


    Inflexibility when have to go into office
    Complexity for parents when they are totally out of the convo when working in an office


    31:40 Moms vs. Dads double standard


    Putting family time on calendar
    Single parenting, the lack of help


    33:40 How can managers support parental leave


    Encouraging more time for first time parents
    The job to support parents starts when they decide to have kids, not just during the leave
    Twins


    37:50 Genius // fail


    Chris Sexton, how do you spell drop? #fail
    Josh had the sex talk…. but bombed on the timing with his daughter #geniusfail
    Allison has a nice turkey day with kids and neighbors, building her more positive memories! #genius
    Chris Arcand makes his nanny wait on her scheduled time off #fail
    Mandy gets a puppy… and it's a beautiful new experiences to share with her daughter
    Nick and his wife forget about homework… his son gets it done, but they all struggle the next day #fail


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    Panel

    Allison McMillan
    Chris Arcand
    Josh Puetz
    Mandy Moore
    Chris Sexton
    Special Guest: Nick Means.

    • 48 min
    042: Career Switching

    042: Career Switching

    Sponsored by




    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 042: Career Switching and Learning to Code After Babies.

    Welcome, Bekah!
    A content-creator by nature. Bekah is working on websites, coding-related projects, and her blog, but she has also written three screenplays, three pilots, and is finishing up a memoir. Bekah is all about getting creative!


    A mom to four young kids (3-10), Bekah has spent the last ten years of her life adjuncting in various university English departments. She is practically doing a 180 learning to code, and is sharing her failures, successes, and everything that falls in between.


    Bekah graduated from Flatiron School Software Engineering program, in May 2019. She been working at Sprokets as a frontend dev since July 1, 2019.


    01:15 Bekah’s journey in career switching


    Trauma after 4th kid
    Husband encouraged her to code, and it helped with her PTSD
    She realized her passion and continued to tackled the challenges
    Bekah was a teacher prior to coding


    02:40 Coding became therapeutic


    Learning a new skill requires intense focus, gave Bekah excitement and a break from past trauma, because coding required her FULL focus
    Constant learning with code
    Flow state when you sync into your work
    Code provides structure to balance a chaotic life with children


    06:28 How to get through the lows of learning to code?


    Imposter syndrome
    Setting goals week-by-week, month-by-month, quarter-by-quarter
    Embracing the learning curve


    11:23 How to manage coding and kids?


    Community and mentorship
    Momscan.co, online co-working, sharing experiences
    Embracing natural flow, Bekah codes in the morning, because she’s a morning person


    16:08 Conquering difficult births and moving past trauma


    Finding a mentor with similar experiences


    17:51 Bringing coding methods into the house routine


    Sunday ritual for planning for the week ahead
    Bekah’s partner codes as well, built in mentor, and key communication


    23:10 Experience in women in tech community highlights


    Being open and willing for meetups!
    Alex Tate - aligned interested to support moms in tech
    Moms need more support, especially with younger kids
    Childcare at meetups


    29:20 Any surprises of the moms in tech community?


    The true vulnerability moms offer in support groups


    31:47 Genius // fail


    Adarsh hired a babysitter for the morning after his wife's birthday bash! #genius
    Allison empowers her son's creativity and gives him all the extra boxes and he makes rocketships and more! #genius
    Mandy bonds with her daughter watching a classic favorite, Full House #genius
    Bekah’s daughter wants to go to Harry Potter land, and is reading all the books to prove it! #genius ...but maybe #fail when Bekah’s daughter decides to cash in on a promise
    JC’s bird watching community is growing and growing! But his family lacks consistency to join… #fail


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    Panel

    Allison McMillan
    Adarsh Pandit
    JC Avena
    Mandy Moore
    Special Guest: Bekah Hawrot Weigel.
    Sponsored By:
    Nurture Life: The kids are home, you’re at home, and everybody has to eat.

    Nurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for the whole family delivered fresh right to your door each week. Meals are portioned by age and designed specifically to meet the nutrient-needs of your child, so everyone from your 10 month old to your 18 year old can continue to eat well and stay healthy as we stay inside.

    With a focus on organic veggies, lean antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, Nurture Life meals offer balanced nutrition that kids actually like. From Mac & Cheese with Cauliflower to Teriyaki Salmon with Rainbow Veggie Rice, each meal sets a new standard for w

    • 42 min
    041: COVID-19

    041: COVID-19

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 041 : COVID-19

    In today's episode we discuss what everyone is talking about, COVID-19. Yes, we talk about it. We're talking about the new normal, full time remote work, childcare - or the lack there of, how to communicate the situation to our children, and what this means for our world moving forward. Tune in!


    00:55 COVID-19 check in


    On a scale of freaking out vs totally chill… How many tweets are you reading?
    Self quarantine pre plan
    Chris has a dry run when his son catches the flu... *The actual flu.


    05:40 The new normal


    Will grocery stores shut down?
    Limit social outings
    Sports, events, and all gatherings are being cancelled… more of an inconvenience


    09:10 Tech has shut. it. down.


    Everyone is working for home, asap
    What’s the deal with other industries?
    If you can stay home, stay home


    13:20 New policies


    What about goals?
    College kids subbing as the new neighborhood babysitters
    Privilege in steady jobs
    Preschools and schools - some open vs. some closed


    24:10 What about the kids?


    Toddlers situation.. They need room to move, but also need to be hand-washed supervised
    Parenting milestones


    27:55 Full time work from home


    Hermit life has become even more hermit-y
    Parenting switch offs


    29:15 How to communicate covid-19 to our children


    One kid was shown a picture of the virus.. So now all the kids in preschool want to see a picture of the virus
    Middle school kids are informed with a bit more detail
    Those are the rules!
    No more toys at school


    37:28 Genius // fail


    Chris blames the cats… but they were framed!! By his corgi
    Allison has a COVID-19 #fail
    KWu’s strategy is to switch over to online purchases when possible.. Minimal contact #genius


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    Panel

    Allison McMillan
    Chris Sexton
    Katherine Wu

    • 46 min
    040: Ethics and Leaving a Job

    040: Ethics and Leaving a Job

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 040 Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.

    00:20 Welcome


    We discuss what it's like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics
    The difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you


    00:55 Examples of companies dealing with ethical controversy


    Companies working with ICE, kickstarter
    Ethical clients, customers, organizers, labor oriented - who’s responsible?


    02:34 Technology, good or evil?


    Surveillance
    Hyper aware of indications within our jobs and technology
    Being in the tech industry, able to create foundational tech communication - bonus
    US culture is more politically aware within the last few years


    06:40 Being more involved


    Lessons of the past
    Minority identity
    What are we if we don’t participate


    09:30 Support and encouragement to leave a job, things to consider


    Financial decisions play a huge role
    Putting family at financial risk
    Healthcare
    Retirement benefits


    16:44 Inflexible costs of leaving a job


    Childcare
    Extra childcare - nannies livelihood
    Donation makeup for moral indications


    19:35 What can we do?


    Don’t public shame others
    Leaving a role is instant, but long term change takes time
    Use your voice for what you support
    Vote with your wallet


    28:15 Genius / Fail moments


    Allison's son gets groovy with techno in the AM
    Adarsh’s son is back in the hospital from another day at the park..
    The monkey bars!
    Kids are being taught how to talk about their feelings #hugeWin


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    Panel

    Allison McMillan
    Adarsh Pandit

    • 42 min

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No kids, still great.

I don’t have kids, but I’m IN. TO. THIS. Great information about overcoming social pressures and navigating difficult situations in the context of kids, but you know, adults can be a little childish sometimes too. :)

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Great panel discussion about being a software professional while juggling the raising of kids.

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