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The Reason for Chores | Part 5
Getting Out Of The Way
The Reason for Chores | Part 4
Implementing Chores Many parents ask the question should allowance be attached to chores? The response is what are we training them for? The purpose of training up a child is to ready them for adulthood. There are many jobs that we as adults have to do around the house. I donâ€™t remember ever receiving a paycheck for doing dishes, laundry or taking out the trash.Â One of the purposes of chores is to teach children that there are things that we do simply to be a contributing member of a family. There may be extra jobs that are not considered regular chores, such as cleaning out the refrigerator or cleaning windows, that could be done to earn some extra cash.Â This teaches a child to go above and beyond what is simply required of them. These extra jobs can also be used as consequences, without pay, for chores not done. Many parents then ask how do I get my child to doÂ household chores? We discussed yesterday setting up a reward/consequence plan for chores. We as adults do have a reward for household chores-a clean and relaxing living space. Think of some rewards,not monetary, that will motivate your child as well as consequences for chores not done. Listen to todayâ€™s podcast for more insight on chores.
The Reason for Chores | Part 3
Chores Teach A Child To Choose We discussed yesterday that chores train a child to do what is responsible rather then what is pleasurable. The question is where is a parent to start? The concept of chores is something that can start as early as preschool with simple tasks.Â In our house, we are working with our three-year-old son teaching him how to clean up after himself. He picks up one set of toys before bringing out another.Â Of course it would be MUCH faster, and I probably wouldnâ€™t have to sing the clean up song, if I just ran around after him straightening.Â If I consistently did the work for him, however, then he wouldnâ€™t be ready for the next step, cleaning his room on his own. For any child utilizing the ICE plan is key for chores.Â Instruct them what your expectation is.Â Tell them ahead of time what the consequence is for not completing the chore and what the reward is for completing the chore to your expectation.Â Finally and sometimes most difficultly we have to step back and let them exercise their choice.Â Are they going to choose a reward or consequence? In the residential homes at Sheridan house the teens have chores every morning.Â The room that does the best in their chores gets ice cream at the end of the week.Â Many kids are reward driven so attaching rewards early on for a job well done will [â€¦]
The Reason for Chores | Part 2
Why Itâ€™s So Important Why is it so important to fight the chores battle as parents? There are four main reasons. First there is nothing that teaches a child personal responsibility as well as chores.Â It teaches a child to make the choice between what they want to do and what they need to do.Â This learned responsibility translates into many adult situations from credit cards to sexuality. Chores can communicate that a child is needed.Â Every part of the family pitches in to help out. It can also help to teach a child how to take initiative as well as learning the importance of excellence.Â If I do something right the first time I wonâ€™t have to go back and fix it. Lastly it prepares a child for emancipation from the home.Â We have laughed about how many college freshman have no idea how to do laundry.Â But simply teaching a child how to do chores helps them to learn basic household management skills. Â For more on why chores are such an important area to train your child in, listen to todayâ€™s podcast.
The Reason for Chores | Part 1
Why Donâ€™t We Give Our Kids Chores Anymore? This week will be spent talking about the importance of children doing household chores. The interesting thing is that it seems overall families donâ€™t prioritize their children doing chores.Â Why is this? There are many reasons for this but it seems that the main reason is time.Â We are all very busy from adults to children in the home, our schedules are jam-packed.Â The priority of chores has fallen by the wayside. It also takes a lot of time put in by the parent.Â It takes time to train your child how to do the chore.Â It takes time to inspect the chores and make sure that they are done to your standard.Â It also takes time to correct mistakes, as well as time to cheer when the chore is done right.Â This is why many parents shy away from the job of training their children to do chores.Â â€œIt just seems faster and easier to do it myself. â€œ Chores are an important part of training a child however.Â Â There are many lessons that can be learned from them.Â Check back the rest of this week to see why they are invaluable! Â Listen to todayâ€™s podcast for more on chores.
Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 5
Learning About Your Spouse and Physical Intimacy Make sure to take the time to learn your spouse.Â Are they the kind of person who likes surprises or do they need time in advance to adjust to ideas?Â When planning activities to help get out of a rut learning this may be key, to not only actually getting out and doing them but making sure that both spouses enjoy the process.Â This is even something that you can sit and do together.Â Together you can process through a list of things that would be fun to do as a family or on date night.Â If both spouse are involved in this process then both can be excited and looking forward to these activities.Â Then make sure to put the list on the family calendar. You can never be married to long to bring romance back into the marriage relationship.Â Sexual intimacy is something that you only share with your spouse.Â It is special and sacred that is why it is also something that should not be ignored.Â For more on this topic click here to hear the series on romance in marriage. Â
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