Picky Eating vs. Selective Eating: Instagram Advice vs. Reality

Let's face it, navigating the world of picky and selective eaters can feel like trying to solve a Rubik's cube...while blindfolded! In this intro to our "Eating & Feeding" series, we'll discuss the ins and outs of feeding our young neurodiverse kiddos while breaking down the differences between picky and selective eaters, and share our own relatable mom struggles to dish out real-life strategies that actually work.

We'll also tackle common misconceptions by reviewing instagram advice vs reality and provide actionable strategies to help you create a more positive mealtime experience by understanding the developmental phases of eating to practical tips on how to encourage variety - without pressure.

Timestamps:

(01:25) - Welcome

(12:24) - Selective Eating vs. Picky Eating

(17:09) - ARFID and Picky Eating

(28:03) - Mealtime Challenges

(30:11) - Dinner Routines and Strategies

(43:41) - Separate Meals As A Strategy

(48:31) - Encouraging Kids to Try New Foods

(51:48) - "They'll Eat When They're Hungry.."

(01:01:20) - The Shift in Feeding Therapy Approaches

(01:05:33) - Take Home Message

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