20 Questions of Howie and His Answers
I sent a list of questions and below are the questions and the answers.
This seems to be the first email back from Howie that I have found.
I think it is clear that we are both good people. I think that is less surprising to me than to you because, based on what you tell me, I have been more fortunate in finding good people over the years than you have. If there has been one blessing above all others in my life, it has been the extraordinary number of wonderful people I count as friends. And for the most part the women I have had romantic relationships with have also been good people. You appear, unfortunately, to have less good fortune in this respect. Like I said last night, it appears I have some very easy acts to follow.
Not sure what flutter is. But it sure is nice to know that if I ever get stuck in a dumpster I can count on you to pull me out!
What both of us being good people means to me is that I think we can count on each other to deal with the other honestly. That is really all we can promise each other at this point. The rest of getting to know someone simply takes time and there is no way to rush it. We all tend to be on our best behavior with someone new. I suggest not even thinking about "the stakes". Just enjoy the process, count the happy minutes we give each other as something no one can ever take away, and we'll see where it leads.
At 06:25 PM 12/12/02 -0500, you wrote:
Thank you for taking the time to answer those for me. It is almost done. I was duly impressed with your answer to the question that I wanted to know.
The question I would like most to know is: What is there about you that you think is your best, and yet least understood, quality?
In terms of a "quality", I'd like to think honesty, integrity, doing the "right thing". And to the extent it seems rather a rare thing, particularly in the business world, I guess it is not well understood by many people.
As I read it, I felt that same little flutter that I felt in anticipation of seeing you recently. That is such a rare feeling for me, that it has stopped me cold in my tracks to contemplate it. I think it is because it matters.
When I saw you superficially, as just another good looking man, I could take it or leave it and the outcome of any interaction with you didn't matter. The more I discover about you, the more special and unique, I see you to be. This raises the stakes and makes me more nervous. It's not a bad thing, just new to me. I am so glad to have this opportunity to get to know you.
If a child were to ask you:
What is your favourite thing to do?
Tennis. (Not a very exciting or romantic answer, like walk on the beach in moonlight, but it really is the thing I would most choose to do most of the time.) Certain answers, of course, would not have been appropriate if asked "by a child".
What was your favourite movie?
LadyHawke. (Now there IS a romantic answer)
What was your favourite book?
Tough contest between Shogun, Taipan (both James Clavell) and Atlas Shrugged. If I had to choose one, probably Shogun.
What is your favourite food?
There is one dish at Cafe Amaretto that is my favorite, It is a Veal Canneloni. Normally I don't like veal, but this is a minced inside a canneloni. Let's go there for dinner and I'll show you. Not far from you, on Memorial just south of Hillsborough.
What is your favourite colour?
Teal, like that raincoat.
The question I would like most to know is: What is there about you that you think
is your best, and yet least understood, quality?
In terms of a "quality", I'd like to think honesty, integrity, doing the "right thing". And to the extent it seems rather a