023 Do Over Life, Grief Recovery with Matt Mcspaden LYME Voice

Matthew McSpadden is LymeVoice.com’s 023 Podcast Episode’s guest. The big hearted man behind DoOverLife with Grief talks with Sarah and Aaron about overcoming grief, his grief that at one time had him contained in a tight spot, which made him feel helpless and totally lost. He was thankful for that particular grief though, and for it to had come at that particular period. It made him what he is today; stronger, wiser and more warmhearted towards those who matter in his life and he is loving the kind of person he has become. His grief was caused by traumas which made him a fighter and he thinks it made him a socially appropriate person too. His experience made him discover that saying the right words at the right time can mean so much in nudging a person to acknowledge or rather to recognize their grief, support their healing process and affirm them in their recovery. It made him magnanimous with words of encouragement and he is working hard on bringing that to a worthier level with his up and coming Episode Podcasts at DOOVERLIFE. He was a Math teacher in a Public School and his grief and traumas had impacted his profession greatly. He lost it, together with a few of his dreams. However he is making sure by working hard on his ongoing overcoming grief mission that he wins what he had lost back. What’s in this episode: Matthew’s Griefs - Gaining Disability, Losing Disability Matthew’s trauma was not caused by disease and not by Lyme at any length, but by physical and emotional misfortunes; the physical one was unintentional; a near fatal stroke 2 years after he lost his brother while he was playing football. And then after that he faced another one. It was an emotional trauma that could have been the end result of the underlying physical distresses he was experiencing at that time caused by his stroke. His divorce at a very young age was a major emotional upheaval which made everything cave in for him. He lost all interest with everything that’s going on around him and in his life. Like any person who had gone through grief Matt had also fallen into the throes of depression. Not the suicidal type, but more of the “I lost interest with anything that’s going on in my life” kind. There were so much going on inside him, physically, emotionally and psychologically that he found small talk at gatherings of friends or family distasteful. What he badly wanted then to hear were some sympathetic words that will help him to properly place everything into context or label his confusions. But it were not so. Then something woke him up from his stupor and made him reach out to his loved ones. It was in kind an indirect plea for help. He was glad those people in his life who had remained by his side all through his ordeal were mindful enough of his welfare. They promptly acted and had saved him from totally going over. He was glad it was not too late when final realization came. That no one is going to help him get out from the hellhole he was slowly burrowing into but himself. There was a kind of trigger occurrence that brought about that most opportune jolt. It partially ended his FIGHT story. Learning To Rise Above His Grief Everything happened for some reasons and, he had recovered and had risen up from the morass for a few reasons of his own too. And he knows just as traumas and grief differ in severity and causes; reasons for healing and recovering from grief and trauma also varies. He is for people to seek what can make them fight and seek out healing themselves because what works with somebody might not work with them at all. His was reading self-help books, and it reinforced what he personally know. That not everybody could rise above situations all by themselves, they need help. He wants to share some personally learned insights on how; like seek a dream support team and then ultimately find their key to happiness. People or a person that can become the light that will subdue all the darkness slowly encasing th