Welcome to Positive Adoption where you can find adoption/foster care, and trauma-informed parenting - all in one place. I’m Kathleen Guire, your host, mother of seven, four through adoption, former National Parent of the Year, author, teacher, and speaker. But more important than any of those things, I’m a parent just like you. I know what it’s like to raise kiddos from hard places. I used to feel as if I was the only one struggling and because I felt that way, I isolated myself. I don’t want you to feel alone in your parenting journey, so grab a cup of coffee and join me for Positive Adoption, a coffee break podcast.
Episode 183 - WE ADOPTIVE PARENTS MUST PARENT DIFFERENTLY THAN TRADITIONAL PARENTS
Sandra Flach, of the Orphans No More Podcast, joins me again this week as we discuss another point in the book- Five Things: A Tiny Handbook for Foster/Adoptive Families. Grab your free copy here.
We adoptive parents have to parent differently than traditional parents. We may seem to the outsider over strict or overprotective.
In a traditional family, parents raising children who have not come from hard places set boundaries and give natural consequences. This is good. Adoptive parents must work harder on these boundaries and helping the child to attach to them. It may make them seem overprotective or strict. They’re not. They are working on attachment skills.
Grab a cup of coffee and join Kathleen and Sandra as they talk through some science and experience. *Trauma-Informed Parenting is not live yet, so be sure to grab your copy of Five Things here - http://bit.ly/3beAl2T
Episode 182 - Yes, Adoption is Positive. Positive Things Take Effort.
Join me and my special guest, Sandra Flach, of Orphans No More Podcast as we talk through the book FIVE THINGS: A TINY HANDBOOK FOR ADOPTIVE/FOSTER FAMILIES. You can get a copy for free!
If you are an adoptive parent, this is for you. If you are a friend of an adoptive parent, this is for you. If you are thinking about adopting/fostering, this is for you. If you want to know how to support adoptive/foster families, this is for you.
Today we talk about the first point in the book - Adoption is positive, but it takes effort.
Just a note - Trauma-Informed Parenting is not live yet, but you can still your copy here -http://bit.ly/3beAl2T or fill out the contact form on thewholehouse.org! Grab a copy of the book and a cup of coffee and join Sandra and me for this series!
Episode 181 - Your Parenting Strengths
WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS?
We don’t often talk about our strengths. We usually speak only of our weaknesses. We pray about our weaknesses, rehash them with our inner critic, and complain about them to our friends. But what about our strengths? I dare you to start a conversation with a friend today and say, “I think my biggest strength is…” and see where it goes. So grab a cup of coffee and let's talk about our parenting strengths!
Episode 180 - Mom-Guilt and the Inner-Critic
WHEN OUR INNER-CRITIC BOSSES US AROUND
Some of us have an inner-critic. It harasses us all day long with thoughts such as –
It’s your fault your kids act the way they do.
If you would only (fill in the blank) then your kids would behave.
If you were a better parent, everything would be better.
If you weren’t parenting from your past, your kids wouldn’t struggle.
You’ll never be a great parent.
If this is you, I get it. I have an inner critic and it tried to boss me around. The Bible says we are supposed to take every thought captive. When my inner-critic is sending out thoughts, I need a giant lasso to grab them all. It’s not one thought. It’s a barrage of them. So, how do we handle it? And here’s a note, if you think when your kids are grown, the inner-critic quiets down, think again. There are plenty of “If you had only…” thoughts. Grab a coffee and join me as I share two approaches to combat the inner-critic and how to combat Mom-Guilt!
Episode 179 - There Are No Perfect Parents
Last week on the podcast, I asked – Do you think having obedient kids makes you a good parent? We must let go of the myth that perfect parents exist.
GOD’S FIRST CHILDREN DISOBEYED HIM
Does that make you feel better? It did me. When I first realized that God, the Father Himself, who is perfect, had disobedient kiddos, I breathed a sigh of relief. You can read the rest of the post and listen to the podcast here.
This week, I moved on to the next step –
HAVE A RECONCILIATION PLAN IN PLACE
Grab a cup of coffee and join me!
Episode 178 - What Makes a Good Parent?
WHAT IS A GOOD PARENT?
Am I a good parent?
How do I measure my parenting?
Is it by how well my kids behave?
Whether they have the same opinions I do?
Are clean, put together, and cute?
Don’t talk back?
This list could go on for days, literally. This is something I’ve been thinking about since a friend’s post about what she used to think good parenting entailed, spurred my brain into action.
For the next six weeks, I’ll be talking about “What is a Good Parent?” on the Positive Adoption Podcast and picking apart some of these questions on my lives (Tuesday on Facebook), and in article form. If you would, take a few minutes and take the survey, I’d love to hear what you think! Also, feel free to leave a comment- What do you think defines good parenting?
Read more -https://bit.ly/2JIlz8K
Grab a cup of coffee and join Kathleen as she begins the conversation with the question - Does having obedient kids make you a good parent?
The survey linked below-
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This is a must listen
Such a great podcast!