Positively Real Podcast Brittny King

For our third episode in the Stress Less Podcast Series, we're focusing on how to navigate stress in relationships.

Stress and relationships are like dance partners, moving in sync with each other. Our reactions to stress are often instantaneous, tied to unresolved issues or traumas from our past. These triggers can be related to our beliefs, values, or even the core of our identity. When these aspects are threatened, it can lead to a powerful emotional reaction.

In our biology, stress activates our amygdala, triggering the fight-or-flight response. This primal reaction bypasses higher reasoning centers, making stress feel overwhelming, even in non-physical situations.

How can we skillfully navigate stress in a manner that enriches our relationships?

Understand Your Triggers


Common relationship triggers: rejection, abandonment, control, insecurity, and misunderstanding.
These triggers often stem from unmet needs or unclear communication, where expectations are not expressed.
Understanding the roots of our emotional triggers allows for more effective communication and coping strategies.

Let Go of Your Manual


We all carry a manual in our minds, detailing how others should behave to make us feel loved, secure, valued, and happy.
If we haven't communicated these needs and directions we set ourselves up for disappointment. 
Letting go of our manual means accepting others as they are, even if we don't always like their actions.
Try embracing the mantra "So let them" to free yourself of the burden of control.

Daily Coping Practices


Daily practices can give us ways to cope and meet our own needs.
Try movement, breathwork, and grounding exercises.

Clean and Assertive Communication


Use "I" statements (I feel this way, I need).
Be specific when articulating what is going on inside of you. If you need support, explain what support looks like to you.
Practice active listening by summarizing what you heard the other person say, asking for clarification, and not planning your response.

The people in our lives are our greatest teachers, revealing where we are not free within ourselves. When someone triggers something inside us, it's not about them; it's about us. It's an opportunity to heal and validate those parts of ourselves that need it most.

Remember, in the midst of stress, there's always an opportunity for growth and connection. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other.

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Welcome back to our Stress Less Podcast Series!

In today’s episode, we’re looking at the intricate relationship between stress and emotional regulation. Join me to learn how practicing emotional regulation can lead you to a more fulfilling, harmonious, and balanced life amidst inevitable stressors.

Emotional regulation isn’t about being calm all the time. Stress is a part of our lives and can be essential for growth and motivation. However, without proper emotional regulation, managing this stress is an uphill battle. 

It’s important to identify your emotional triggers and recognize what happens in your body when you are triggered. Here is a worksheet to help you work through this.

Techniques for emotional regulation:


Mindfulness - being aware of what is happening inside of and around you
Meditation
Breathwork
Understanding why - knowing why you want to practice habits
Physical exercise and movement

Connect with Brittny:Instagram: @brittnyking_Website: www.brittnyking.comEmail: hello@brittnyking.com 

Welcome to a new series dedicated to unraveling the complexities of stress and its profound impact on our lives. In each episode, we'll discuss different aspects of stress, from understanding its origins and effects on the body to exploring practical techniques for stress relief and resilience-building. 

Today’s episode begins the series by focusing on what stress is, how it affects us, and most importantly, how to recognize and manage it effectively. Stress isn't a fleeting emotion; it's a powerful signal from our bodies that demands attention and awareness.

What is Stress?


In essence, stress is your body’s reaction to any change that requires an adjustment or response.
It is information, your body’s way of communicating with you.
Our external or internal environment can trigger stress.

Understanding the Stress Response:


Stress arises from perceived threats to our environment, and our response is influenced by past learnings and experiences, whether positive or negative.
While beneficial in the short term, the fight or flight response can lead to health issues when chronically activated.
Stress will always be part of our lives, and we need it for safety, but we also need to get better at managing and reducing our stress.

Types of Stress:


Acute stress: Quick, short-lived response to immediate threats, that allows us to face or escape danger.
Chronic stress: Persistent, long-term stress that can have detrimental effects without proper recovery.

Self-Assessment and Reflection:


Take inventory of your stressors.
Identify physical, emotional, and behavioral responses.
Prioritize stressors based on impact and level of control.

Stress Management Techniques:


Breathing exercises offer control over the autonomic system.
Mindfulness and meditation bring your focus back to the present moment.
Physical activity, such as walking, releases energy and boosts endorphins.
Establishing routines provides structure and control.

Understanding stress is the first step toward effectively managing it. By recognizing its triggers, implementing stress reduction techniques, and fostering self-awareness, we can cultivate resilience and lead healthier, more balanced lives.

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"I am committed" and "I know what to do".

Imagine being able to say these statements and mean them. That dream came true for Sa’Von after a lot of hard work and a coaching journey with me. 

In this episode, Sa’Von joins me to discuss her inspiring story of growth, self-discovery, and empowerment through coaching. She shares the insights she gained and the remarkable changes she experienced through the process.

Join us to hear how Sa’Von:


Reflects on her newfound sense of worthiness, cultivated through intentional effort.
Understands herself on a much deeper level.
Solves her struggles by harnessing newfound skills and techniques.
Reflects on her personal growth: building great relationships, achieving success, and tripling her salary.
Makes courageous decisions, including leaving a relationship that no longer served her.
Overcame commitment issues and embraced new beginnings, including entering a fulfilling relationship and expecting her first child.
Uses what she learned to improve relationships with friends and family and helps them understand the importance of seeking help when needed.
Believes that she has everything inside of her and knows she is capable.

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🌸 Happy Spring! 🌸

In honor of the beginning of spring, today’s episode focuses on embracing the lessons we can learn from the transformation of nature during this season. 

Winter is a time to reflect, go inward, hibernate, and set intentions for the year to come.

Whereas spring brings new energy and can act as a catalyst for personal and professional renewal and growth.

Join me for today’s episode where we’ll discuss:


The three phases of spring and how they apply to your life

Awakening
Growth
Blossoming

A spring cleaning for your soul
The opportunity for balance that the equinox brings

How to set intentions for renewal and growth



We’ll wrap up the episode with a session of grounding breathwork and meditation for entering spring.

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Today, I’m excited to introduce a new format for our episodes! Once a month, I plan to discuss personal development books I’ve read, driven by three key reasons: 


To potentially inspire you to read these books.
To offer insights for application, even if you opt not to read them.  
To aid my integration of the lessons into my life.

Our first book is The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life's Perfection by Michael A. Singer. This book is a memoir, but to me, it’s also a way to show and express what it means to let go of personal preference and surrender to the flow of life. His journey is so inspirational and I am excited to share my insights with you. 

Book overview:


The experiment begins with him deciding to let go of personal bias and preference and allow life's flow to guide his decisions.
His experiment led to deeper connections and unexpected opportunities.
Surrendering encompasses a few key aspects:

Trusting in a greater process and purpose.
Active engagement.
Emotional openness.

Aspects of letting go:

Release attachments.
Healing and renewal.
Personal decision. 


My takeaways:


The power of surrender
Living beyond our personal preference
The role of meditation 
Viewing challenges as opportunities
Having inner peace no matter what is happening in the outer world

Favorite quotes:


“The natural ups and downs of life can either generate personal growth or create personal fears. Which of these dominates is completely dependent on how you view change.”
“Instead of viewing the flow of life as something to be controlled and manipulated, I would relax and see it as something to be experienced and harmonize with.”
“I saw that if I wanted life to be a certain way, my preferences were not going to make me happy, they were going to make me miserable.”
“Life doesn't just randomly fall apart now and then, it falls apart exactly when it needs to in order to give us the opportunity to grow and evolve.”
“I've had to be willing to let go of what I wanted and open to what was being presented.”

How I'm applying it in my life:


Turning my daily practice of breathwork and meditation into a devotion.
Embrace new opportunities while staying in line with my values.
Daily mindfulness activities.
Letting go of resistance and discomfort.
Continue to view challenges as growth opportunities.

Journal prompts:


What areas of your life are you trying to control the most? What fears are driving this need for control?
Try to recall a time when something didn't go as planned, but turned out better than expected. What did this teach you about the outcomes of surrendering?
What does surrendering mean to you? How does it differ from giving up?
What are your thoughts on viewing challenges as growth opportunities? Do you like this idea or do you feel resistant to it? If you feel resistant, can you identify a current challenge in your life and look at it from the perspective of how this could be a growth opportunity for you?
How can you incorporate the practice of surrender into your daily life? Are there any specific rituals or reminders that you can set for yourself?

Books discussed in this episode:The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. SingerThe Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer

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