Podcast by Probably Poly
Crystal Byrd Farmer on The Token
Episode 65 (Crystal Byrd Farmer on The Token) is now live!
We are very lucky to have Crystal Byrd Farmer drop by this week to talk about her book. “The Token” is a practical guide, including workshops, on how to look critically at majority communities wishing to increase diversity across any axis as well as common mistakes, how well meaning people are often still doing harm, and the best ways to avoid those harms.
Crystal’s Website: https://crystalbyrdfarmer.com
Buy the Token from the Publisher: https://newsociety.com/books/t/the-token
A First Hand Look at the Franklin Veaux Harms Process
We have the amazing honor this week of interviewing five of the people who spoke up about their experiences with Franklin Veaux, who have gone collectively by the name "the Franklin Veaux survivors" (although they don't all individually identify as survivors) — Melanie, Rose, Celeste, Eve and Marissa. We talk about what went right and what went wrong during the harms process and ways in which we can apply these lessons to our communities and culture going forward.
Survivor Archive: https://www.itrippedonthepolystair.com
Jiji Judges: https://twitter.com/jijijudges
Crystal Farmer on Reid Mihalko’s harms process: https://medium.com/@crystalbyrdfarmer/on-accountability-and-reid-mihalko-12bcb8afbb21
Rose on community response to Harms: https://ourbetternatures.wordpress.com/2019/06/08/community-response-to-complaints/
Survivor Statement about the Harms Process: https://link.medium.com/8g9lXLxeXbb
Closed Relationships: ethical & otherwise
In this episode explore the ethics of closed relationships. This includes explicitly non-monogamous closed relationships (often called poly-fidelitous) as well as how unintentionally closed relationships that represent or see themselves as open form.
Visual Resource for Boundaries, Wants & Needs Visualization: probablypoly.com/resources
Same Words Different Tools
In this episode we invite therapist Dr. Daniel Stillwell on the show to discuss the difference between the ways in which he applies the theories of boundaries, needs, and wants in his practice and common ways these theories are discussed or talked about in relationship help texts and the poly community at large. We separate multiple functioning ways to apply different versions of these theories for different scenarios and discuss the importance of defining your terms in discussions with partners.
Join Our Next Chat Saturday November 7th from 5 to 7pm EST: meet.google.com/ftw-gpod-adc
Get a copy of the visual from the episode complete with map key at: https://www.probablypoly.com/resources
Check out Dr. Daniel Stillwell at StillwellTherapy.com
Episode 61 (Couples Privilege) is now live!
If you have at least one relationship then you have couples privilege. In this episode we look at what causes couples privilege, why it is so hard to see in yourself, and what we can do to help alleviate the sorts of harms that couples privilege is likely to cause.
Join Our Next Chat tomorrow Saturday November 7th from 5 to 7pm EST: meet.google.com/ftw-gpod-adc
Consent Case Study
We attempt to provide both theory and application advise in relationship ethics. One of the best ways to do that is to take information from one or more of our theory episodes and apply them to a detailed case provided by a listener. This is the first of our case study series and it looks at a very difficult and intertwined situation of a person realizing they are non-monogamous after 17 years of marriage and investigating what options they have in the bounds of ethics if their partner is unwilling to open their marriage.
Join Our Next Chat tomorrow Saturday September 26th from 5 to 7pm EST: meet.google.com/zta-qeiw-kbn
Fantastic podcast for nerds
I love this podcast a lot. I love all the nerding out, and sprinkled throughout is some really beautiful adivce and perspective that everyone can benefit from.
Hosting an abuser
There is an entire me too site set up about Franklin veaux’s serial abuse, why are you giving him a platform
So glad I found you guys! You were recommended on a different poly podcast. Can’t wait to listen to them all. Ps his voice is bomb. 👍🏻