Professor Erik Thoennes talks about the 4T'S and Christians who struggle with Homosexuality The 4T's and the Church

“Many men who have high same-sex needs eventually decide: “Being in the gay lifestyle is better then being in the church, Because in the gay life, you go into a bar and everyone hugs and kisses you. You go to a church, you don't get hugged and kissed by anyone. Some of them, the more artistic, the more politically astute, or maybe the more sensitive ones will do it......Christians are talking heads or praying heads. They can't get down to where you really need to be. Your skin is your largest organ in your body and they are afraid of it. They are afraid to touch, they are afraid to love, they are afraid to sacrifice, afraid to get messy. “Oh my god, what do you mean its going to take 10 years for you to get better? I don't have time that kind of time.” So the gay life appears to be a whole lot more love, acceptance, and laughter."

The quote above is from a book called A Bigger World Yet, Faith, Brotherhood, & Same - Sex Needs - It's written by Tim Timmerman