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Part of the recovery journey is giving back. Sharing our story, leading Pure Desire groups, and even giving back financially. Today, we’re joined by two members of our advancement team, John Begeman and Rodney Wright. John and Rodney talk about the role generosity plays in the recovery process, how God is using donations to expand sexual health, and what major projects Pure Desire is working on.
RESOURCES Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Join Team 58
Group Leader Training (Video Course)
Sexual Integrity 101 (Video Course)
How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex (Rodney's Book)
Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)
Seven Pillars Of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)

A common aspect of the full disclosure process is a polygraph. Polygraphs can carry a certain stigma with them. But what is a polygraph and what benefit does it offer a couple going through recovery and healing? Today, we’re joined by our Clinical Director, Tyler Chinchen. Tyler gives us an inside look at what a polygraph is, how it fits into the full disclosure process, and how it helps rebuild trust in a marriage.
RESOURCES Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Recovery Action Plan (Struggling Spouse)
Recovery Action Plan (Betrayed Spouse)
Full Disclosure Process Counseling

Each of us carries two types of “self.” Our authentic self—who God has made us to be. And our adapted self—the facade we’ve created to protect ourselves from pain and difficulty. On today’s episode, we talk to Marilyn Vancil, a spiritual director, coach, and author of Self To Lose, Self To Find. Marilyn talks us through how to identify which self we are living out of and what tools we can use to live out of who God made us to be.
RESOURCES Full Episode Video (YouTube)
MarilynVancil.com
Self To Lose, Self To Find (Marilyn's book)
Beyond The Enneagram (Marilyn's book—coming October 18, 2022)
Seven Pillars Of Freedom (Mens' Recovery Resource)
Genesis Process (Recovery Resource)
Relapse Prevention Tool (Three Circles)
Should Christians Use The Enneagram? (Blog Post)
OWN-UP Worksheet

A switch gets flipped when we begin to understand why we do what we do (especially with our unwanted behaviors). This understanding isn’t gained easily, but when it is, it changes the whole game. On today’s episode, we’re joined by a friend of the show who is an author, speaker, and influencer to the next generation–Ben Bennett. Ben joins us to help us find the connection between our unmet longings and how they play out in our unhealthy behaviors. We also discuss how to meet these longings in healthy ways.
RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)
RESOLUTION MOVEMENT (BEN’S ORGANIZATION)
FREE TO THRIVE (BEN’S BOOK)
FASTER SCALE (TOOL)
RELAPSE PREVENTION TOOL (THREE CIRCLES)
JOSH MCDOWELL MINISTRY

Whether it’s been caught or taught, many of us believe self-care is selfish. We can so easily see and encourage it in others, but when it comes to our own self-care, we dismiss it as too “self-focused.”  Why do we believe this? Does this belief cause damage? How can we change this underlying belief? Today, we are joined by Traci Wright (Pure Desire Clinician and author) to explore the myth “self-care is selfish” and discuss how to improve our personal self-care.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)

We all have some form of unwanted behavior in our life. Whether it's pornography, affairs, fantasy, or any other form of sexual brokenness, understanding where these behaviors come from is essential! If we want to break free from our unwanted behaviors, we must understand them. If we truly want to understand our unwanted behaviors, we must be curious. This requires honesty, courage, and hard work. On today's episode, Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted and featured speaker at this year's Pure Desire Summit, joins us to help us get to the root of our unwanted behaviors and gives us direction on what it means to understand them. He also gives us a sneak peek into what he'll be sharing at the Summit.
RESOURCES Full Episode Video (YouTube)
2022 Pure Desire Summit (Event)
Unwanted (Jay's book)
The Allender Center
Heart of Man (Film)
Jay's Website