The Sex Is Great with Ashley Kelsch Ashley Kelsch

I was recently talking with one of my kids about quitting. They were unhappy in a certain situation and had all the reasons why. I listened as they explained and when they finished I said, I totally get it. I wanted to quit on your and sibling more times than I can count.
The easy answer anytime we are challenged is to quit or walk away. That said, if can come back to me with a list of reasons that have nothing to do with everyone and everything outside of you, a list that is not blaming anyone else and one that is owning your decision, I'll reconsider.
Of course, this got me thinking about dating and relationships, my divorces, our knee jerk reaction to blame the other people and not take responsibility for our feelings. 
Tune in todays episode, Emotional Edging where I share a few tips and practices on how to meet your emotional edges and not react. 
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If you are a woman who feels stuck and stagnate in her current relationship, unable to have the conversations to either repair it or end it, can’t stop seeking pleasure from other men and martinis and feel hungover with guilt, unsure how to untangle yourself from it all, head on over to www.ashleykelsch.com to inquire about working 1:1 with her.

Last week it was announced that Danny Masterson from That 70’s Show was found guilty of and sentenced to prison for raping several women twenty years ago.
During his trial, people close to him were asked to write to the judge, on his behalf and share the kind of person he really is. Two of those people happened to be Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis.
When I read that in the news, I thought, are you fucking serious? Aren’t they supporters and advocates for victims of sexual abuse and an organization that works to prevent and end sex trafficking? How can you stand with victims and then write a letter talking about how great of a character a rapist has?
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized, of course they did. I have 2 reasons why I think this that I’ll get to in just a moment.
First I have to tell you that season 3 of The Morning Show premiered last night. I’ve been waiting for this all too seriously for far too long. I have been fascinated watching this series address some of the most relevant topics of our time, while we are all still grappling with them as a culture.
Sexual Assault and Rape. Abuse of Power. Trauma. Racism. Cancel Culture. A Pandemic. Politics. Polarization. And so on.
The hook for me is watching and observing from my couch, how the individual characters process what is happening within their interpersonal relationships. Or not process.
Like Alex Levy finding out her work husband, best friend and a man she had sexual relations with was a sexual predator. On way hand she was shocked and wanted nothing to do with him and on the other, she missed her best friend. And then there was this mysterious third hand; she had turned a blind eye to his behavior and upheld the system that supported him.
Her brain cannot comprehend all of the ugly, horrific truth.
Which brings me back to why I think Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis wrote those letters:
For their brain to accept and believing their best friend as they know him is a rapist must be like a computer trying to download software that keeps glitching out. They are not ‘thinking straight’.
We live in a culture that has historically nurtures rape and assault.
It’s impossible to talk about Sexual Health Awareness Month and not address the main factors that play a role in a majority of people not having great sex. In addition to a Rape Culture, we have thousands of years of conditioning around women’s bodies and sexuality. It’s not a coincidence, either. Instead it’s about control.
And despite the #metoo movement, we still have a lot of work to do.
Tune in today to hear what 3 cultural messages about women’s sexuality are, and why The Sex Can’t Be Great, without awareness and acceptance that this is where we are as a collective.
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If you are a woman who feels stuck and stagnate in her current relationship, unable to have the conversations to either repair it or end it, can’t stop seeking pleasure from other men and martinis and feel hungover with guilt, unsure how to untangle yourself from it all, head on over to www.ashleykelsch.com to inquire about working 1:1 with her.
 

It took me 20 years to realize that when I was 17, I was given the most important, healthy bit of advice about sex and orgasms that I would ever receive. 
Ironically, I knew about sex, but very little about orgasms. The message was completley lost on me. This should come as no surprise because most the messaging we as a culture have cultivated around sex and pleasure for women has been there is none, shameful and disempowering. 
Have you considered that it was only in the 1960's that people thought it was 'weird' to workout and run. To eat 'right'. Vs today, it's considered mainstream. Our sexual well being and pleasure is no different. It’s on the fringes at the moment, but we are seeing real empirical, scientific and spiritual data that shows the impact it has on all domains of our lives.
We are at the beginning of a sexual revolution. Who's coming with me? 
The behavior is beginning to change, but the ancient beliefs are deeply rooted. Today I am  challenging societal norms and expectations about women's sexuality and advocating for self-empowerment and self-acceptance through a pleasure practice. 
I want you start with yourself. Solo. 
Join me this week as I disucss the importance of orgasm and why having a pleasure practice; a practice where you work with your erotic, sexual energy and pleasure consciously for higher development and growth of self and sexuality. 
You will discover: Practical tips for starting a pleasure practice, emphasizing relaxation, breath, sound, movement, mindfulness, and energy. This practice is not just about getting off but also about regulating the nervous system, nurturing oneself, and rewiring neural pathways.
You will learn the importance of self-pleasure and sexual well-being, and the physical and psychological benefits of orgasm.
To embrace your own sexuality, challenge societal norms, and prioritize your sexual well-being the same way you do your workouts and diet. It's equally, if not more important. 
The Pleasure is All Yours
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If you are a woman who feels stuck and stagnate in her current relationship, unable to have the conversations to either repair it or end it, can’t stop seeking pleasure from other men and martinis and feel hungover with guilt, unsure how to untangle yourself from it all, head on over to www.ashleykelsch.com to inquire about working 1:1 with her.

Did you know that there are only two industries that refer to its consumers as users? Can you guess what two those might be?
The digital and the drug and alcohol industries.
On this weeks episode of The Sex is Great, I’m taking a little detour to discuss alcohol consumption and addiction, particularly in women. For the first time in history, women are narrowing the gender gap in deaths from alcohol or related to alcohol. A few factors play a role in this. The ever pervasive normalizing and promoting of drinking culture. Physiological factors such as hormones and women’s bodies lacking the enzymes to properly aid in processing and metabolizing alcohol. And of course, dopamine. Our chemical desire and drive in seeking rewards for survival.
The negative effects of such substances and the challenge of breaking the cycle of desire are just the beginning. 
Join me today and listen in as I explain the deeper pain body we are experiencing as women who are socialized to be the primary caregivers, not to complain or ask for help and to put everyone else first. 
We are conditioned to compact our feelings or suppress them. Instead of going inward to solve for them, we are easily reaching out for a drink, anti depressants, or desserts. 
What You Will Discover: 
The problem is not you. 
Dopamine's role in desire and its impact on behavior are explained, showing how alcohol and drugs can override the brain's natural dopamine regulation. 
How the marketing and social normalization of alcohol consumption, particularly among women is targeted at making you believe it’s the answer to a successful life and the way to de-stress. 
Your stress is coming from a much deeper pain body than you are aware of. 
How you can begin to overcome the urge to drink, change your reactive patterns and slowly start integrating your shadow side into your whole being.
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Follow and Subscribe to Ashley’s column, The Sex is Great, for a weekly dose of dating advice, her personal and uncensored experiences along with worksheets and videos to help you navigate the high’s and low’s of modern dating, sex and relationships.
If you are a woman who feels stuck and stagnate in her current relationship, unable to have the conversations to either repair it or end it, can’t stop seeking pleasure from other men and martinis and feel hungover with guilt, unsure how to untangle yourself from it all, head on over to www.ashleykelsch.com to inquire about working 1:1 with her.

This week on the Sex is Great, I’m talking to dating and relationship coach, Angela Wetzel. Join us as she delves into the complexities of attachment styles, dating anxiety, and the journey towards self-soothing and empowerment. Learn how recognizing and addressing your emotional triggers, developing healthier patterns, and fostering self-compassion can lead to more fulfilling relationships and personal growth.
The more time I’ve spent studying my own attachment style and the theory in general, the more understanding I’ve had not only for myself, but the other people I’m dating or in relation to. 
I joke that having this information is like having a Dating for Dummies Guide book. 
And that it may decrease your chances of becoming DickMAtiZeD!!!! or No, don’t say it…., CunTStruCk!!!
Ahhhhhhh for Fox Sake!! Make the drama end, but let the sex be great!!
Distinguishing normal dating anxiety from hyper-vigilant behaviors is crucial for healthy emotional regulation. 
Let today’s teaser be all you need to dive a little deeper into exploring Attachment Theory.
It IS like having a cheat sheet in the wild that shows you your blind spots! 
Angela Wetzel who specializes in helping high achievers and purpose-driven people resolve the blocks that keep them from having the love they want with her knowledge of attachment theory, trauma, relationship strategies, masculine and feminine energy dynamics, polarity and neuroscience. 
Aside from being a giant relationship nerd reading and studying all the things while studying with the industries top experts…she was a former Korean Linguist and Sergeant in the US Army, worked as a government contractor for the office of naval intelligence, has been an actor and writer pretty much all of her life.
Click here to find out more about Angela's programs or to follow her instagram.
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Follow and Subscribe to Ashley’s column, The Sex is Great, for a weekly dose of dating advice, her personal and uncensored experiences along with worksheets and videos to help you navigate the high’s and low’s of modern dating, sex and relationships.
If you are a woman who feels stuck and stagnate in her current relationship, unable to have the conversations to either repair it or end it, can’t stop seeking pleasure from other men and martinis and feel hungover with guilt, unsure how to untangle yourself from it all, head on over to www.ashleykelsch.com to inquire about working 1:1 with her.

On this weeks episode, I’m sharing with you how you can process your authentic, albeit painful emotions, without judgment.
Emotions are neither right nor wrong, but simply a part of being human.
To actively engage with our emotions and literally move them through our bodies, I’m introducing a practice created by Mama Gena called "swamping" – a powerful tool that allows oneself to deeply feel and physically express without judgment, and fully release your emotions.
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If you are a woman who feels stuck and stagnate in her current relationship, unable to have the conversations to either repair it or end it, can’t stop seeking pleasure from other men and martinis and feel hungover with guilt, unsure how to untangle yourself from it all, head on over to www.ashleykelsch.com to inquire about working 1:1 with her.