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Real Men Feel was founded to encourage men to allow for and express all of their emotions. We remind men that they are human beings. Producer and host, Andy Grant is an author, speaker, transformation coach, healer, and suicide attempt survivor. See show notes at http://realmenfeel.org. Learn more about Andy at http://TheAndyGrant.com. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

Real Men Feel Andy Grant

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Real Men Feel was founded to encourage men to allow for and express all of their emotions. We remind men that they are human beings. Producer and host, Andy Grant is an author, speaker, transformation coach, healer, and suicide attempt survivor. See show notes at http://realmenfeel.org. Learn more about Andy at http://TheAndyGrant.com. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

    Moonshot Mission for Mankind & Humanity

    Moonshot Mission for Mankind & Humanity

    Real Men Feel #266 Moonshot Mission for Mankind & Humanity

    Research shows that men live sicker and die sooner than women. Dr. Jed Diamond is on a mission to change that. His moonshot mission focusing on men's mental health could save 375,000 lives each year in the United States alone.

    My Guest, Jed Diamond, is one of the world's leading experts in Gender Medicine and Men's Health. He has written sixteen books, including international best-sellers Surviving Male Menopause and The Irritable Male Syndrome. Most importantly, Jed is a teacher, mentor, and friend, and I am thrilled to connect with him again.

    When looking at risk factors for disease and early death, the number one risk factor is being male. Saving males is a worthy goal.

    Topics and Questions

    1:50 Is challenge constant?
    3:20: What is the purpose of your Moonshot Mission?
    4:56 If we could help men live as healthy and long as women, we would save 375K men's lives per year in the United States.
    9:20 You've said that healing men will do more good than curing cancer. Can you explain that?
    11:30 Is this about only extending men's lives or also improving them?
    13:24 What makes being male so deadly?
    15:50 Men die sooner and live sicker due to our behaviors.
    17:40 Many of these improved behaviors are well known. What keeps us from making these positive changes?
    22:42 What does this African proverb mean to you?
    "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth."
    25:00 The rise of authoritarianism.
    25:53 The ease of going into blame mode.
    29:26 Tell me about the book you are working on.
    31:35 Jed, what's the best way to learn more about you and this moonshot mission?
    32:37: Is there one habit, practice, or program you want to share?



    Links

    Connect with Jed Diamond

    menalive.com

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    • 36 min
    Don't Always Push : 3 Life Lessons

    Don't Always Push : 3 Life Lessons

    Real Men Feel #265 8/6/22 Don't Always Push | 3 Life Lessons

    Over the past two weeks, I've done a lot of clutter clearing and overall cleanup. My home can get pretty nasty after ignoring it for over half a year, but I attacked the basement and garage today. I started with the basement, liberated the world's most ignored furnace filter, and then on to the garage - clearing trash, cobwebs, and random garage shit.

    I was sweeping the floor with a push broom — I pushed so hard that I snapped the handle. I could have gotten pissed, angry, stormed off to buy another one, or started throwing shit around… but I laughed. I said, nice one, Universe — maybe I've been pushing too hard. So operation garage cleanup is left at about 75% complete, and I'm fine with that.

    One of my favorite books is The Four Agreements.
    Get your copy at https://amzn.to/3BMeBbL
    The agreements are.


    Be Impeccable with Your Word
    Don't Take Anything Personally
    Don't Make Assumptions
    Always Do Your Best

    Now, if you just have them memorized or know them from a magnet, you could run into challenges. In the book, the nuances are explained more. Always Do Your Best, for example, sounds lovely, but the truth is your best will change from day to day, from moment to moment. Your best when you are tired, hungry, or sick is nothing close to your best when you are healthy, vibrant, and loving life.

    Your best is not some static setting; it varies. Some days my best is walking away from a broken broom handle.

    When I publicly came out of 8 months of withdrawal and darkness last month, one type of comment struck me at how often it was stated. "I've been feeling the same way" and "You are not alone."

    Why do we hide our pain from each other? Every human being has challenges, wounds, and struggles. Yet we often believe nobody is supposed to know that. WHATEVER you are going through, other people feel like you do, other people are dealing with that same thing -- but they keep it to themselves.

    Let it out.

    We are here to support each other. I don't believe life is a competition.

    Let's Talk - visit theandygrant.com/talk

    Links

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    • 6 min
    Love You, Bro

    Love You, Bro

    Real Men Feel #264 7/29/22 Love You, Bro

    I could not always tell people I loved them, especially male friends.

    Love you, dude. Love ya, mean it. I love you, man -- are just some of the ways I've said and heard men expressing affection for other men.

    Recently, I've been talking with and getting messages from many friends I haven't spoken to in many months or years.

    I've noticed many signing off with -- Love you, bro.

    I've never been a fan of that phrase.

    I get that it is short for brother. I adore it when my brothers from the ManKind Project or the Modern Mystery School say I love you, brother. Totally cool with that sentiment and phrase. But "bro" changes it for me somehow.

    Can't we just say, I love you? Period.

    Links

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    • 7 min
    Reaching Out & Being Ignored

    Reaching Out & Being Ignored

    Real Men Feel 263 7/22/22 Reaching Out -- Being Ignored

    One thing that struck me after my 8-month-long withdrawal from life was how many told me that they noticed I was quiet and wondered what was up. Some said I'd been on their mind, yet they didn't reach out. Some said they energetically reached out but were quickly shut down.

    When I did finally speak up and share, the number of people who said that I'd been on their mind or that they considered reaching out but didn't… made me wonder why that is.

    I think part of it is the way that polite society tells us not to feel - that negative emotions are bad, keep your shit to yourself, and suck it up.

    Never take being ignored personally. A response, or lack thereof, is entirely upon the mindset and energy level of the individual. You may want them to feel better, connected, and alive more than they do at that moment.

    Perhaps we are all responsible for keeping each other going. Let that be the point of social media.

    We are all in this together. So trust those little hunches and give the people that pop into your head a quick check-in. You might find yourself feeling good.

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    #RealMenFeel

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    • 9 min
    Thinking I Want to Die

    Thinking I Want to Die

    Real Men Feel #262 7/15/22 Thinking I Want to Die

    WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal thoughts and attempts. If you are in a crisis, do not listen to this.

    Please call or text 988 to be connected to trained counselors that are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network. If you are outside of the US, please search for suicide prevention in your country.

    You matter! Please choose life.

    In recent years, I've become more careful in referring to my suicidal thoughts and actions. Instead of saying I wanted to die, I say I believed I wanted to die, or I thought I wanted to die. Because what I really wanted was to feel good. To not feel broken, hopeless, and helpless.

    I wanted my misery to end, not my life, but at times I saw them both as the same thing.

    I have to choose the light, joy, and life multiple times a day.

    I used to think that was horrible, but maybe it's just life.

    There are many times that life isn't easy, but that never means it isn't worth living.

    Links

    Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

    Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant

    Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

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    • 15 min
    WTF Happened? Where Is Andy?

    WTF Happened? Where Is Andy?

    Real Men Feel #261 7/6/22 WTF Happened? Where Is Andy?

    This is the first episode of Real Men Feel since October of 2021. Such a long break was not my plan. Today I attempt to explain what happened and open up about my dark night of the soul and all the underlying shame that had me withdraw from everything. I've spent months living in complete apathy. I've only recently gotten to a place of genuinely wanting that to change.

    You can't help anyone who doesn't want to be helped. I did not want to be helped. I ignored everyone who offered support or even just asked if I was okay. Only in the past month have I been willing to feel better.

    Part of my process is authentically sharing what I've been going through. I'm not sure that I make much sense, which is probably true for anyone in the midst of depression and an existential crisis. I apologize for vanishing on you, and I hope something resonates with you. Be well.

    Links

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    Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant

    Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

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    • 19 min

Customer Reviews

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Cg911 ,

Andy is a real man

Thinking about you Andy. Good to hear your voice again.

anxiouslyattached ,

Just a hello and a thank you

Andy, you are an amazing human being and I just want to thank you for your body of work and for your vulnerability at this difficult time for you. I am the wife of a man that faithfully listens and when he finds content of yours that resonates he shares it with me. You have helped us both immensely improve ourselves as individuals and as a unit. We still have a long way to go and it’s still a lot of ups and downs but your very raw, real return reminded me that just because you’re in a struggle doesn’t mean you’re not still on a path to enlightenment and healing. It’s a part of the journey. I am in a terrible depression right now and it’s definitely the most dark, painful parts of my childhood that are surfacing. I think that sometimes stuff is so hard that we have to heal other things first in order to have the strength to handle the the things that hurt us the most, the things that we’ve carried with us for most, if not all of our lives. I want you to know that you don’t just help men, you help people, couples, their children, and anyone that loves the person that is listening, reading or watching your content. I want you to know that you help me, and if knowing that helps you in some small way, which I hope it does, that gives me more hope too. More hope that I can come out of my depression. We really are all connected. Love and light to you, kind sir.

malfoxley ,

Great show!

Andy, host of the podcast, highlights all aspects of men’s mental health and more in this can’t miss podcast! The host and expert guests offer insightful advice and information that is helpful to anyone that listens!

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