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Listen in to this new bi-monthly podcast from Conscious Discipline creator, Dr. Becky Bailey. Together with Conscious Discipline Master and Certified Instructors and special guests, Becky explores trends in social-emotional learning and classroom management.

Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey Dr. Becky Bailey

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Listen in to this new bi-monthly podcast from Conscious Discipline creator, Dr. Becky Bailey. Together with Conscious Discipline Master and Certified Instructors and special guests, Becky explores trends in social-emotional learning and classroom management.

    Episode 59: The Importance of Composure

    Episode 59: The Importance of Composure

    As a child, DJ Batiste didn’t have the skills he needed to behave or succeed in school. He was expelled from preschool and often kicked out of classrooms before becoming involved with gangs and increasingly serious trouble. During his senior year of high school, DJ’s life changed when he walked into
    the classroom of Donna Porter, a teacher implementing Conscious Discipline. For the first time, DJ had a teacher who didn’t tell him, “Get out.” Instead, she connected with him. That connection paved the way for DJ to learn valuable skills that he continues to use today.

    Listen in as DJ discusses the powerful impact of teachers, the vital skill of composure, and how teachers like you can connect with other “DJ’s” and change their life trajectory for the better. As DJ says, “Never
    question the power you have as a teacher… You can choose to create more success stories and less statistics.”

    Essential Takeaways
    • If a child is told he’s bad often enough, he begins to believe that is who he is. The way we see children matters.
    • Meet your students where they are, accept them where they are, and build. Your first encounter with a student may be a disrespectful one. It is how you respond that sets the tone for the relationship.
    • Composure is the first skill of Conscious Discipline. Without it, accessing the other skills is impossible. Before attempting other skills, learn to quit taking student behavior personally and to compose yourself before responding.
    • A great teacher’s true intent is to teach and not to punish.
     Teach discipline skills more than once, the same way we continue to teach academic skills until they are mastered. Give children a fresh start every day.

    Important Links
    • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/)
    • Video: From Gang Leader to Graduate: A Conscious Discipline Transformation
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/gang-leader-to-graduate-a-conscious-discipline-transformation/)
    • Video: DJ Batiste Teaches “Words Have Power” (https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/dj-
    batiste-former-gang-leader-teaches-words-have-power/)
    • Podcast: The Transformational Power of Connection with DJ Batiste
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode037/)
    • Video: DJ Batiste Explains “Preschool Expulsions Lead to Destruction”
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/dj-batiste-former-gang-leader-explains-preschool-
    expulsions-lead-to-destruction/)

    Product Mentions

    • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated/)
    • Creating the School Family (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/creating-the-school-family/)
    • School Family Job Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/school-family-job-set/)
    • Brain State Poster Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/brain-state-poster-set/)
     Seven Skills Poster Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/seven-skills-poster-set/)

    Show Outline
    0:22 What is Conscious Discipline?
    1:18 The power of teachers
    2:14 Introduction of guest DJ Batiste and DJ’s story
    4:15 It’s never too late to change the brain
    4:53 Self-fulfilling prophecy
    9:30 Learning new tools for managing student behavior
    16:58 The skill of composure
    20:18 Be persistent with teaching discipline skills
    23:30 Give children a fresh start every day
    25:23 What’s Becky up to?
    25:58 What’s Becky celebrating?

    THANK YOU FOR LISTENING
    There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.

    • 27 min
    Episode 58: Weaving I Love You Rituals Into The Day

    Episode 58: Weaving I Love You Rituals Into The Day

    Episode Summary
    I Love You Rituals are playful, one-on-one interactions that build loving connections while increasing attention span, decreasing power struggles and promoting language and literacy at school or at home.

    These brain-building interactions facilitate optimal development for young children and create lifelong bonds between children and adults. If you’re interested in incorporating I Love You Rituals into your current classroom practices, you may wonder: Where should I start? How do I introduce I Love You
    Rituals? When in the world do I have time to teach them?

    Join Master Instructor Kim Hughes, a 30-plus year veteran of the education field, as she leads a session on making I Love You Rituals part of your day. Kim answers frequently asked questions about I Love You Rituals and shares valuable strategies and insight. As Kim says, “Conscious Discipline is not a second job. We weave all of this throughout the curriculum so you have a beautiful tapestry.”

    Essential Takeaways
    • The best exercise for the brain is exercise.
    • The powers of Conscious Discipline allow us to see conflict differently, while the skills allow us to respond to conflict differently. The structures help adults and children practice the skills.
    Without the powers and skills, putting up structures is merely “decorating your classroom with Conscious Discipline.”
    • Everyone needs “joy juice.” Every child needs at least one adult to love and support them.
    • Learn the I Love You Rituals yourself first, then practice them with children. Once children have practiced with an adult, they can do I Love You Rituals together.
    • Teach ILYR on the playground, at centers, by having older children teach younger children, whilea child is on the changing table, etc. You can also incorporate them into your daily greetings.
    • Start where you are comfortable, and celebrate your successes. Remember that you can’t implement everything right away. Breathe, take it slowly, and tell yourself, “I’ve got this.”

    Important Links
    • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/)
    • Master Instructor Kim Hughes (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-
    development/instructors/kim-hughes/)
    • Free Resource: I Love You Rituals Teddy Bear Activity Board
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/i-love-you-rituals-teddy-bear-activity-board/)
    • Premium Resource: I Love You Rituals Choices Spinner
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/i-love-you-rituals-choices-spinner/)
    • Premium Resource: Choice Board-I Love You Rituals
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/choice-board-i-love-you-rituals/)
    Product Mentions
    • I Love You Rituals (book) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you-rituals/)
    • I Love You Rituals Changing Table Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you-
    rituals-changing-table-poster-set/)
    • I Love You Rituals on a String (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you-rituals-on-a-
    string/)
    • Rituales Amorosos (book) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/rituales-amorosos/)
    • Greeting Apron (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/greeting-apron/)

    Show Outline
    0:20 What is Conscious Discipline?
    1:28 Brain Smart Start
    9:06 Relationship between powers, skills and structures
    11:18 Introduction to I Love You Rituals
    15:22 How to introduce I Love You Rituals in your classroom
    16:58 When to teach I Love You Rituals
    19:25 I Love You Rituals book (Family Night)
    21:44 Where to start with I Love You Rituals
    23:59 What’s Becky up to?
    24:31 What’s Becky celebrating?

    THANK YOU FOR LISTENING
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    platforms.

    • 25 min
    Teaching Conflict Resolution to Young Children

    Teaching Conflict Resolution to Young Children

    In any classroom, conflict happens. And that’s an understatement—conflict occurs every day, all day long. Research shows that in Pre-K classrooms, 60 acts of intrusion occur per hour. If you want to save time for learning and connection, teaching conflict resolution to young children is essential. With Conscious Discipline, we foster a willingness to resolve conflicts by building a School Family. Then, we teach healthy conflict resolution skills like composure, assertiveness, and recognizing and managing triggers.

    Join Master Instructor Vicky Hepler as she leads a session on teaching conflict resolution in early childhood on this special episode of Real Talk for Real Teachers. With 37 years in education, Vicky draws on a wealth of experience as she shares actionable strategies, activities and coaching tips for transforming conflict and chaos to connection and cooperation.

    Essential Takeaways
    • For conflict resolution to be effective, we must foster the seeds of willingness by establishing a School Family. From there, we can teach even the most challenging children to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner.
    • Conflict is an opportunity to teach children a better way to communicate, resolve problems and meet their needs.
    • Children are developmentally programmed to seek help from adults. When a child tattles, he or she is telling us, “I need help. I don’t know what to do.” This is an opportunity to teach children how to use their assertive Big Voice.
    • With their Big Voices, children teach others how they want to be treated, a vital lifelong skill.
    • We teach children to use their Big Voice in the moment that conflict occurs. We also help them identify triggers and find strategies to use when they are triggered. Don’t forget to celebrate when your students use their Big Voice!

    Important Links
    • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/)
    • Master Instructor Vicky Hepler (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/vicky-hepler/)
    • Webinars from the Field: Conflict Resolution and Assertiveness with Older Children with Kristin Abel (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/webinars/conflict-resolution-and-assertiveness/)
    • Article- Getting Over the Finish Line: Teaching Children to Use Their Big Voices (https://consciousdiscipline.com/getting-over-the-finish-line-with-big-voice/)

    Product Mentions
    • Creating the School Family (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/creating-the-school-family/)
    • Shubert’s BIG Voice (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/shuberts-big-voice/)
    • Sophie’s BIG Voice (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/sophies-big-voice/)
    • Shubert Visor (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/shubert-visor/)
    • Conflict Resolution Time Machine (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/conflict-resolution-time-machine/)

    Show Outline
    0:20 What is Conscious Discipline?
    1:15 Introduction of guest Vicky Hepler
    2:20 Planting seeds of willingness for conflict resolution
    3:12 Conflict happens all the time and is a teachable moment
    5:30 Responding to tattling by teaching assertiveness (Big Voice)
    9:30 Ideas for introducing conflict resolution to young children
    11:12 Helping young children identify their triggers and how to respond
    13:02 “Make your voice match mine”
    14:59 Coaching in the moment
    18:17 Celebrating when children use their Big Voice
    19:44 What’s Becky up to?
    20:33 What’s Becky celebrating?

    THANK YOU FOR LISTENING
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    • 21 min
    Healing After a Natural Disaster with Conscious Discipline

    Healing After a Natural Disaster with Conscious Discipline

    Conscious Discipline is both trauma-based and trauma-informed. It emphasizes optimal brain development for all children and adults, regardless of life experiences like chronic stress and trauma. There are three types of trauma: acute, chronic and complex. Acute trauma results from a singular instance, like a natural disaster.

    Alabama Pre-K teachers April Carr and Hillary Spratlin were faced with restoring safety after acute trauma when a major tornado struck the small community of Beauregard. Both teachers leaned on the powers and skills they had learned from Conscious Discipline to be of service, help children identify and regulate their emotions, and focus on empathy and helpfulness. In this podcast, April and Hillary share the steps they took to help young students and their families heal after a natural disaster.

    Read more about April’s experience with Conscious Discipline and restoring safety after a tornado in her article “My Conscious Discipline Journey: Taming Anxiety and Healing After a Natural Disaster” (https://consciousdiscipline.com/my-conscious-discipline-journey-taming-anxiety-and-healing-after-a-natural-disaster/). In the “Important Links” section below, access free resources mentioned in the podcast, including a social story and ritual plans for Safekeeping and Wish Well.

    Essential Takeaways
    • The goals of Conscious Discipline include helping children experience a felt sense of safety and authentic connection, teaching and modeling the executive skills needed to achieve goals despite obstacles and distractions, and empowering everyone to give and receive empathy.
    • Acute trauma results from a singular instance. Chronic trauma is repeated and prolonged, and complex trauma is exposure to varied and multiple traumatic events.
    • In times of stress or turmoil, being of service to others can help balance and regulate our internal state.
    • After experiencing a major tornado, April and Hillary utilized strategies like home visits, Feeling Buddies, heart cream, Wish Well, an expanded Safekeeper Ritual, and a focus on helpfulness and safety.

    Important Links
    • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/)
    • Teaching Missing Skills: The Power of Social Stories by Dr. Becky Bailey (https://consciousdiscipline.com/teaching-missing-skills-social-stories/)
    • Free Resource: I Can Handle Scared Social Story (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/i-can-handle-scared-english/)
    • Free Resource: Safekeeping Ritual Plan (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/safekeeping-ritual-plan/)
    • Free Resource: Wish Well Ritual Plan (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/wish-well-ritual-plan/)

    Product Mentions
    • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/classroom-edition-feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only/)
    • I Love You Rituals Value Pack (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you-rituals-value-pack/)
    • S.T.A.R. Breathing Tool (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/s-t-a-r-breathing-tool/)
    • School Family Job Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/school-family-job-set/)

    Show Outline
    0:21 What is Conscious Discipline?
    0:50 Goals of Conscious Discipline
    2:13 Three types of trauma
    4:01 Introduction of guests April Carr and Hillary Spratlin
    5:04 Conscious Discipline implementation in Alabama
    6:40 How Conscious Discipline helped during and after a major tornado
    11:03 “How can I be of service?”
    12:25 April’s home visits after the tornado
    17:13 Extended Safekeeper Ritual upon returning to school
    22:26 How Hillary addressed the tornado with her students
    26:36 Making “safety bags”
    28:22 Focusing on helpfulness and being of service
    32:23 What’s Becky up to?
    34:13 What’s Becky celebrating?

    • 36 min
    Consequences vs. Punishments with High School Students

    Consequences vs. Punishments with High School Students

    Effective consequences, rather than ineffective punishments, are embedded in Conscious Discipline. Unlike punishment, consequences teach children to solve problems, learn from mistakes, take responsibility and focus on learning a new skill. Understanding the logic behind choosing consequences
    instead of punishment is easy when we’re dealing with younger children. With older children, it becomes far more difficult. We believe, “They ought to know better by now.”

    In this episode, high school Social Studies teacher and Certified Instructor Steve Hummer shares how and why he uses consequences instead of punishments with his high school students. He also explains
    that he has found relationship-building and natural consequences to be far more effective than punishments, which often stigmatize children as bad and rarely deter them from repeating misbehavior. Learn alternative strategies to “punishment for the sake of punishment” that make a lasting positive
    difference with high school students.

    Essential Takeaways
    • In Conscious Discipline, consequences are everywhere, every day. The goal of Conscious Discipline is to learn from our mistakes, take responsibility for our actions, and be accountable for learning new skills that enhance our ability to live our highest values.
    • Synonyms for punishment include revenge, retaliation, and vengeance. Consequences, not punishments, are embedded in Conscious Discipline.
    • The fear of punishment inhibits our ability to self-regulate and almost guarantees that changes in behavior are impossible.
    • When students act out in the classroom, we can’t take it personally. Typically, there is something else going on. If we can determine what it is, we can help solve the problem and change the behavior.
    • When we engage in power struggles, we can’t solve the problem. If we remain calm, we can work together with the student to find a helpful solution and teach better strategies for the future. We can also teach them to calm and to build positive relationships with others.

    Important Links
    • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/)
    • Why Conscious Discipline Consequences Work and Punishments Don’t
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/why-conscious-discipline-consequences-work/)
    •Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor Steve Hummer
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/steve-hummer/)

    Product Mentions
    • The NEW Conscious Discipline Book- Expanded and Updated
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated/)

    • Award-Winning Conscious Discipline E-Course
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/conscious-discipline-e-course-individual-registration-1-year/)

    Show Outline
    00:18 What is Conscious Discipline?
    00:41 Consequences vs. punishments with high school students
    3:25 Impact of punishment and fear of punishment on the brain
    5:14 Introduction of guest Steve Hummer
    7:35 “Where are the consequences?”
    11:30 Importance of logical consequences and problem-solving
    12:14 Quit Taking It Personally
    13:40 Effects of sending children out of the classroom
    14:30 What you focus on, you get more of
    16:02 Teaching students how to calm vs. power struggles
    18:20 “I want you in the room”
    20:05 Additional problems with escalating punishments
    27:40 What’s Becky up to?
    28:37 What’s Becky celebrating?

    THANK YOU FOR LISTENING
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    • 29 min
    Fostering Self-Regulation in Self-Contained Classrooms

    Fostering Self-Regulation in Self-Contained Classrooms

    Since Dr. Becky Bailey started Conscious Discipline more than 20 years ago, it has played an integral role in supporting the development of children with special needs. Core tenets like safety, connection, self-regulation and social skills development are vital for all children, but they are especially helpful for
    children with special needs.

    In this episode, Katie Keller, a school social worker in Minnesota, discusses how she uses Feeling Buddies and Baby Doll Circle Time to build important skills in self-contained classrooms. She shares the powerful results she’s observed, including an improved ability to calm and soothe, increased empathy, and gentler play and interactions in the classroom.

    Essential Takeaways
    • Children who are aggressive with peers and/or toys learn to be kind, loving, and gentle with the baby dolls during Baby Doll Circle Time.
    • Baby Doll Circle Time also allows children to experience or recreate the connections they may not have had when they were younger.
    • Children work toward goals like soft touch, fostering connections, and following directions.
    • With Feeling Buddies, children develop the ability to recognize and accept emotions. This helps with empathy and self-regulation. It reduces the time it takes children to work through their upsets.
    • If children are hesitant to participate in these activities, be patient and wait them out, letting them know that they’re safe and they can handle it. Add visuals. Gradually, children will begin to participate.

    Important Links
    • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/)
    • Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-
    resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit/)
    • Baby Doll Circle Time (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/sophies-
    classroom/baby-doll-circle-time/)
    • Webinar: Proven Success Strategies for Children with Special Needs
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/proven-success-strategies-for-children-with-special-needs/)
    • Free Resource: Safe Place Sensory Integration Signs
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/safe-place-sensory-integration-signs/)

    Product Mentions
    • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/classroom-edition-feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only/)
    • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Deluxe Toolkit, Bilingual
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/classroom-edition-feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-spanish/)
    • Baby Doll Circle Time Value Pack (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/baby-doll-circle-
    time-value-pack/)
    • El Círculo de los Bebés Paquete Especial (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/el-circulo-de-
    los-bebes-paquete-especial/)
    • HOME EDITION: Feeling Buddies for Families Toolkit
    (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/home-edition-feeling-buddies-for-families-toolkit/)

    Show Outline
    0:20 What is Conscious Discipline?
    0:50 Background on implementing Conscious Discipline with children with special needs
    2:41 Introduction of guest Katie Keller
    3:15 How Katie uses Baby Doll Circle Time and Feeling Buddies
    3:50 Baby Doll Circle Time in a self-contained classroom
    5:08 Results of using Baby Doll Circle Time
    6:38 Feeling Buddies in a self-contained classroom
    9:12 Results of using Feeling Buddies
    10:50 Combining Baby Doll Circle Time with Feeling Buddies
    13:30 Summary of results and advice for others
    16:15 What’s Becky up to?
    17:06 What’s Becky celebrating?

    THANK YOU FOR LISTENING
    There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.

    • 17 min

Customer Reviews

Mrs. A. Mann ,

School Social Worker

I absolutely love listening to these podcasts! I always feel grounded when I listen to a new episode. Dr. Bailey is fabulous and has such a great way of sharing her knowledge!

Jessica Lipsey ,

LCSW/Mom

I find these podcasts super helpful hearing the skillset of conscious discipline and the examples of how it has changed many lives. Although it's geared towards teachers I find it very helpful to apply as a mother. Thank you!!

lizhumala ,

Thank you!

So grateful for Becky Bailey. Thank you for your coaching. As a school counselor this has helped me tremendously when I have felt at a loss for children with emotional needs.

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