Reboundy Rules (for single men‪)‬ Jimmy Nickel

In this episode, I talk about how most women find ambition an attractive trait in men - whether you’re successful or just starting out. I also talk about how a lack of ambition can make you look “blank” to new women - which can be a huge turn-off.
Why is this important? Because, how you present and discuss yourself matters and sometimes, it can even make or break you with new women. 
Episode Notes:
 
RR27. Whether you’re rich or poor, become ambitious, look ambitious. 
 
When you don’t show ambition or passion for something, you might look unremarkable or boring.
Ambition can sometimes be just as attractive, if not MORE attractive, than actual wealth. 
Your ambitions can be your goals, your hobbies, or your career (if you love what you do).
Pretend you're asked “What do you do for fun?” Practice responding enthusiastically.
Your ambitious, attractive side has nothing to do with material objects.
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Quote to Remember:
 
“Blank is NOT attractive to women. I don’t care how tall, handsome, and muscular you are…blank is not sexy in any way. So, don’t be blank.“
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In this episode, I provide some background for the ideas in this podcast (and in the program). I also talk about how the Information Age has messed with all of our heads as men - making us think women only want a select few kinds of guys (not true!).
Listen now to learn where all of these ideas come from and how you can use this information to level up your confidence with women and dating in a big way.
 
Episode Notes:
 
RR#0. ”What makes you qualified??”
 
The subject of attraction and dating contains a lot of unknowns but what is known is that some men are good with women - while some are not.
Some guys are awkward, shy, and nervous around women and some guys give up on women altogether. This is normal and common.
Some guys are cool, confident, and comfortable around women but this is NOT most guys because this takes specialized knowledge and effort.
The ideas here are based on the thoughts and habits of guys who are naturally good with women.
The core ideas here are not about “what women want.” The core ideas here are primarily focused on “what women DO NOT want.”
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Quote to Remember:
 
“I have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine and rage the likes of which you would not believe. If I cannot satisfy one…I will indulge the other.”
- The Monster (from the movie, Mary Shelley's Frankenstein)
 
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In this episode, I talk about the right way to be “seen” - whether it’s on your dating profile photos, at the pub, at the grocery store, at the mall, or any place where you might meet someone new.
Why does this matter? Because, wherever you go and whatever you do, being attractive to women is not just about your looks. It’s about the energy you’re kicking out and when you get that right, you can look good to women from across the room - even if you’re not classically handsome or you're in less-than-perfect shape.
On the other hand, if you get this wrong, you can look “scary” to new women - even if you’re one of those darn pretty-boys. Listen now for more on this.
Episode Notes:
 
RR26. Be seen being social, being cool, and having fun. 
 
We often look for social proof that some one or some thing is safe (or unsafe) and good (or bad), before engaging with that some one or some thing.
When a person is being anti-social, acting weird, and looking unhappy, other people look uncomfortable around that person.
When a person is being social, being cool, and having fun, people look comfortable around that person.
Comfort is king for attracting and succeeding with new women. 
When other people look comfortable around you and they look like they’re having fun, YOU become more attractive to women.
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Quote to Remember:
 
“You want her to see you from across the room and think, ‘Huh. Who’s he?! He seems like a guy who likes to have fun. He seems nice…’ That’s the goal. That’s what you want.”
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In this episode, I go deep into the wonderful topic of “Alpha” males vs “Beta” males. Fun subject, right? Never controversial, right? Not exactly. 
Why should you care about this? Because, despite what the internet tells you, no man is 100% “Alpha” or 100% “Beta” all the time. Plus, men who are both admired by men and attractive to women usually have some combination of “Alpha” and “Beta” traits. So, trying to be 100% “Alpha” or being 100% ANTI-Alpha can be counterproductive. Listen now for more on all of this.
Episode Notes:
 
RR25. Stop worrying so much about Alpha and Beta status. It’s not genetic. It’s just whatever. 
 
Most talk about “Alpha Males” vs. “Beta Males” is just unscientific word salad men throw around to rip on OTHER men.
Male behaviors that are turn-offs to women are omnipresent in men (i.e., displayed by both “Alpha Males” and “Beta Males” everywhere).
Most guys who are good with women typically have no category and that makes them awesome.
Some women prefer “Alpha male” types. Some women despise “Alpha male” types. Some women don’t know what they want. 
There is no such thing as an Alpha male “look.” Real Alpha males come in all shapes and sizes. 
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Quote to Remember:
 
“Many of the guys you like listening to on YouTube or on podcasts are all actual modern era Alpha males because they’re teaching you something that makes your life better in some way. They don’t want to dominate you. They just want you to win.”
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In this episode, I talk about how your imperfections might actually help you with a lot of women. I also discuss how a lack of authenticity around attractive women can actually scare them away (sometimes, literally). 
Why do you need to know all of this? Because, most guys act too “perfect” around a woman to whom they’re attracted. Or worse, some guys try to be “real” with women and end up looking and sounding like pathetic sad-sacks. Learn how to talk about yourself in a way that makes you human and relatable - while still looking confident and attractive. 
 
Episode Notes:
 
RR24. Don’t aim for perfection. Even for guys who are good with women, things are imperfect. 
 
Don’t buy into the “Myth of Perfection” that everything must be perfect about you and your life for a woman to find you attractive.
Don’t compare your damaged personal truth to everyone else's social mask” (Dr. Phil quote).
Most women are suspicious of any guy who acts like he’s perfect. They usually think, “Okay. So, what’s this guy hiding??” 
Be honest about your life and your feelings but NEVER, ever come across as a sad sack or in a depressing, weepy kind away. 
Remind yourself that MOST women - especially the beautiful ones - have baggage, have issues, and have a life that’s NOT perfect.
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Quote to Remember:
 
“Be that guy you are when you’re around your friends and you’re having fun. That version of you NEVER acts perfect because he doesn’t have to. That guy has nothing to hide. That guy is just cool.”
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In this episode, I go deep on three areas where men judge other men and where men judge themselves. I talk about personal strength, your money situation, and your ability to attract and date the kind of women you really want (i.e., might, money, and “mate-ability”).
Why think about all of this? Because, understanding how these three areas are related (and NOT related) can help change your outlook when it comes to attracting women and dating them. That is, when you “get” these ideas, you’ll quickly be more confident with women - whether you’re rich, poor, or doing okay.
 
Episode Notes:
 
RR23. Understand that Might, Money, and Mate-ability can and should all be developed separately.
 
Might, money, and “mate-ability” are the three areas where men rate themselves and each other.
Might, money, and “mate-ability” are all loosely related but can be worked on individually.
Proficiency in some areas (e.g., might and money) does not guarantee proficiency in other areas (e.g., “mate-ability”).
Attracting and dating women can be difficult if you neglect “mate-ability” (whether you are rich or poor).
Attracting and dating women can be easier if you work on “mate-ability” (whether you are rich or poor).
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Quote to Remember: 
 
“Never, ever get intimidated by guys who have more money or more muscles than you. Some of those guys are quite good with women, but most of them are not.”
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