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Refusing the victim mindset even when you've been victimized - Lindsay and Danny Poelman - Episode 122 From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer
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- Mental Health
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
When you've been betrayed by your spouse, it's important to make room for the initial shock and work toward emotional and physical safety. However, it's tempting for someone who has been victimized to stay frozen in the victim position. Also, this doesn't only apply to betrayed spouses. Most individuals who struggle with sexually compulsive behaviors or other addictions often feel victimized by their histories, mental illnesses, relationships, or other outside factors.
In this episode, I interview recovery coaches, Lindsay and Danny Poelman, who teach about how to take personal responsibility through the recovery process no matter what has happened to you. In this episode, we talk about:
Their recovery story
Why couples focus so much on the other person's recovery/healing instead of their own.
What focusing on your own healing looks like
Actionable steps each person can do to take personal ownership of their own healing
How to stay connected as a couple while they work recovery together
Additional resources from Lindsay and Danny:
https://lindsaypoelmancoaching.com
https://www.dannypoelman.com
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypoelmancoaching/ (@lindsaypoelmancoaching)
https://www.instagram.com/dannypoelmancoaching/ (@dannypoelmancoaching)
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a sta
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us
- You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing. - Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.
Click here for more info.
Podcast Description
When you've been betrayed by your spouse, it's important to make room for the initial shock and work toward emotional and physical safety. However, it's tempting for someone who has been victimized to stay frozen in the victim position. Also, this doesn't only apply to betrayed spouses. Most individuals who struggle with sexually compulsive behaviors or other addictions often feel victimized by their histories, mental illnesses, relationships, or other outside factors.
In this episode, I interview recovery coaches, Lindsay and Danny Poelman, who teach about how to take personal responsibility through the recovery process no matter what has happened to you. In this episode, we talk about:
Their recovery story
Why couples focus so much on the other person's recovery/healing instead of their own.
What focusing on your own healing looks like
Actionable steps each person can do to take personal ownership of their own healing
How to stay connected as a couple while they work recovery together
Additional resources from Lindsay and Danny:
https://lindsaypoelmancoaching.com
https://www.dannypoelman.com
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypoelmancoaching/ (@lindsaypoelmancoaching)
https://www.instagram.com/dannypoelmancoaching/ (@dannypoelmancoaching)
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a sta
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