Rena Martine Helps Us Be Less Weird About Sex I Forgot to Tell You Something

Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! As a special treat, women’s intimacy expert Rena Martine joins us to unpack how ADHD impacts our relationships and our ability to foster intimacy. Rena Martine shares her journey from being a sex crimes deputy district attorney to becoming a certified coach and speaker.
Rena emphasizes the importance of overcoming shame and shoulds in sexuality and encourages individuals to explore their desires and communicate their needs. We also touch on the role of porn in a healthy approach to sex and the fear of rejection and its impact on initiating intimacy. In this conversation, Rena Martine discusses various topics related to sex and relationships, with a focus on ADHD and trauma. The conversation covers the impact of rejection on initiating sex, the importance of handling rejection appropriately, understanding responsive desire, dealing with low sex drive or libido, addressing the impact of trauma on sex, the need for external validation and self-validation, and connecting self-image with feeling sexy.
Takeaways:
ADHD can have a significant impact on relationships, making it more difficult to foster and sustain intimacy.Overcoming shame and shoulds is crucial in developing a healthy approach to sexuality.Individuals with ADHD can benefit from exploring their desires and communicating their needs in relationships.Porn can be a valuable tool if used ethically and as a means of exploration and discovery.Rejection in a sexual relationship can lead to a decrease in effort and initiation from the rejected partner. Handling rejection appropriately is crucial to avoid resentment and maintain a healthy sexual relationship.Understanding responsive desire can help partners navigate differences in sexual desire and find alternative ways to connect physically.Trauma can have a significant impact on a person's view of sex and intimacy, and it is important to approach healing with a personalized and gradual approach.Both external validation and self-validation are important for feeling sexy and confident in one's own body and sexuality. Chapters:
00:00 The Impact of ADHD on Relationships03:30 Rena Martin's Journey to Becoming a Women's Intimacy Expert08:34 Discovering What You Want in Sex and Relationships16:09 Overcoming Shame and Shoulds in Sexuality23:09 Navigating Rejection and Fear of Intimacy30:40 The Role of Porn in a Healthy Approach to Sex41:12 The Impact of Rejection on Initiating Sex42:07 The Importance of Handling Rejection Appropriately43:00 Understanding Responsive Desire46:11 Dealing with Low Sex Drive or Libido49:32 Addressing the Impact of Trauma on Sex57:51 The Need for External Validation and Self-Validation01:06:11 Connecting Self-Image with Feeling Sexy01:07:16 Where to Find More Information about Rena MartineLoving the show?
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