Rethinking What It Means To Be the Bigger Person

“If you have to be the bigger person, you have already outgrown them.”

In this episode, I am challenging what it means to be the “bigger person.” Are you showing how you’ve evolved or relapsing? Are you keeping the peace or betraying yourself? We will answer these questions, and more, as we work to rethink what it means to be the bigger person in your relationship.

Takeaways

Slipping into resentment is a sign of self-betrayal.

Setting boundaries protects your energy and heart.

If setting a boundary messes with the relationship, you have a relationship problem.

If you have to be the bigger person, you've outgrown some people.

Staying silent isn't being the bigger person—it’s relapsing into a version of yourself that you have outgrown.

Sometimes being the bigger person means addressing issues others are afraid to speak about.

You are not being a bigger person if you allow mistreatment.

The goal is to grow and evolve, not to be bigger than others.

Normalize not wanting to be the bigger person for people you've outgrown.

Chapters

00:00 The Journey of Self-Discovery

02:45 Boundaries and Self-Respect

05:19 Redefining the Bigger Person

07:55 Empowerment Through Communication

10:47 Embracing Your True Self

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Resources

Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com

Email your questions to thepodcast@nakeiahomer.com

For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠

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Photography: Drea Nicole

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