Sandwich Parenting Sherry Yuan Hunter

Having been groomed to be a doctor by two physician parents, Toni Liu did in fact become a physician and gynaecologist... until she made a big pivot in her life to work with clients on a more personal level. Now she coaches people and creates programs to help clients learn to love themselves and their sexuality, and avoid the devastating traps of self-loathing. 

#selflove #selfcare #sextalk #sexcoach #womensadvocate #sexualliberation #sexeducation #selflovecoach

Show Notes:

00:00 - Intro

00:26 - Toni’s origin story

04:26 - Truly helping people instead of just doctoring them

06:44 - Toni’s work empowering women of colour to explore their sexuality

08:24 - The journey Toni’s clients take on their road to sexual self-discovery

09:53 - Taking the onus off women for being sexually abused

12:31 - Determining the sources of low self-esteem and self-worth

14:36 - Giving Asian girls an outlet for discussion sexuality

15:25 - What people can learn from the programs that Toni creates

19:15 - How the work ethic is more valued over personal self-care

20:11 - Toni’s advice to parents about discussing sexuality with their children

24:05 - Discomfort is good


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Stephanie Foo has written a raw and detailed first-person account of her trauma recovery journey, titled What My Bones Know. We delve into the roadmap of her recovery, discuss what's right and what's wrong with current notions of mental health treatments, and more!
Show Notes:
01:04 - Stephanie's book What My Bones Know.
04:33 - The process of how the book was written.
05:35 - Dealing with the distorted view of self that comes with complex trauma.
06:35 - The unconventional therapy of Dr. Ham.
08:45 - What needs to be changed with conventional therapy.
09:25 - The responses to What My Bones Know.
10:37 - Trauma is trauma is trauma.
13:18 - The way we think of mental health absolutely has to change.
17:46 - The promotion of culturally-insensitive psychotherapy
18:27 - Talking about Iris Chen's book Untigering.
19:51 - Companies say they want to promote a work/life balance, but your boss never takes anything off your plate.
21:58 - Dr. Greg Siegle and BADASS.
24:54 - Complex PTSD and the pandemic.
27:27 - Feel your feelings.
30:34 - Dealing with The Hulk.
32:50 - Talking about hope and agency.
36:07 - Stephanie's advice for parents dealing with complex trauma.
#complextrauma #complexPTSD #StephanieFoo #whatmybonesknow #trauma #culturallysensitive #untigering #survivingthepandemic #theincrediblehulk





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Moving from a clinical perspective as a therapist, to the more personal environment of trauma coaching, Dr. Jai has dealt with parents, families and helping women of colour work through their culturally specific traumas. Join me as I discuss these challenges and more with the amazing Jai Belton.

Show Notes:

01:22 - Dr. Jai Belton's origin story.

05:26 - The clinical approach to psychotherapy vs. trauma recovery.

07:14 - What does a trauma recovery coach do?

10:17 - Taking the client present, forward.

11:28 - Working with family trauma.

12:58 - Dr. Jai's work as an inclusion and diversity manager in trauma recovery.

14:24 - Culturally-based mental health issues and trigger responses.

18:43 - Trauma recovery for African-American women.

20:21 - Changing the face of trauma.

23:29 - Not erasing trauma, but navigating it.

23:59 - Working with adolescence trauma.

26:52 - Trauma work for specifically African-American females, continued.

31:36 - Dr. Jai's one piece of advice for parents.... or maybe two.

#jaibelton #jaiknows #jaispeaks #SherryYuanHunter #IAOTRC #sandwichparenting #parenting #traumacoaching #trauma #motherhood #copingskills #traumarecovery #culturaltrauma #familytrauma #racialtrauma #diversity #multicultural #healing #education #disenfranchisement #reconnectwithyourself


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Seibo Shen went to law school (and dropped out after two weeks), ran the race of Silicon Valley startups while running up his bank account balance, and served as a CEO in the cannabis space. Driven to accomplish so much from the strict and demanding upbringing instilled in him by his father, Seibo decided to reset his life and follow the loving and nurturing lessons of his mother. He now working as a transformational coach, helping professionals avoid the burn-out that he experienced. Please have a listen as we discuss Seibo's journey to self-discovery. 

Show Notes: 

00:39 - Seibo featured in the Asian Hustle Network book Uplifted, helping Asian entrepreneurs achieve success. 

02:27 - Seibo's origin story of dropping out of law school, finding career success creating software in Silicon Valley, and eventually moving into the cannabis space. 

04:47 - The law of diminishing returns of fulfilment in continued monetary success. 

08:51 - About this relentless drive to success: the amazing gift of Seibo's father. 

12:17 - Learning by doing things: The difference between reading a map and walking the terrain. 

13:35 - As a CEO, concerning yourself more about your team's success than your own advancement. 

15:29 - Seibo as a coach: success stories. 

17:59 - The parenting style of Seibo's mother and father. 

20:20 - What Seibo kept from his own upbringing when parenting his children, and what he changed. 

24:15 - Being able to self-express and show vulnerability as a parent. 

26:57 - Showing your true, authentic self instead of trying to be the smartest person in the room. 

27:56 - Using curiosity and understanding to heal the divisiveness in the world. 

30:14 - Understanding the roots of racial prejudice. 33:18 - Making the best decisions with the information you have at the time. 

35:55 - Seibo's one piece of advice to sandwich parents. 

#seiboshen #seiboknows #seibospeaks #SherryYuanHunter #asianhustlenetwork #sandwichparenting #parenting #startuplife #fatherhood #motherhood #ceo #transformationalcoach #selfdiscovery #cannabis #professionaldevelopment #AsianMentalHealth


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In my discussion with radio and podcast host Sen Zhan, we talk about the immigrant experience, consider a path for coming to terms with trauma, look at methods of acclimatizing to new surroundings, and so much more. I hope you'll listen to this episode and learn as much from Sen as I did talking about her fascinating story. Here are the highlights of our talk:

00:29 - Sen Zhan’s origin story

05:26 - Culture shock as a little kid arriving in Canada, straight from China

06:05 - Western kids are like wild animals compared to Chinese kids

07:46 - Acclimatizing to life in Calgary

09:16 - Overcoming a language barrier within your own community

10:47 - Rejected everything Chinese for a safer path

11:52 - Immersion in western youth fiction reading gives Sen a sense of self-discovery and independence

12:47 - Balancing the priorities of two different cultures

14:00 - A lesson at western school: What is your favourite colour?

16:38 - A struggle for survival as an immigrant family

18:09 - It’s not so much about forgiveness as it is about understanding

20:49 - Processing trauma

22:07 - Talk about Sen’s Beyond Asian podcast

25:20 - Neutral Asian Avoidance

29:49 - Discussing the Asian experience without delving into identity politics

33:29 - Thinking that your Chinese heritage is something to overcome, rather than embrace

35:32 - Standing out more as an Asian in Europe, than in North America

36:44 - Being from somewhere else is itself a super-power

38:02 - Just surviving is a great immigrant success story

40:29 - The story of Sen’s grandmother’s survival

42:59 - Sen’s advice to parents, as a sandwich kid



To visit Sen's podcast, Beyond Asian, please follow this link: https://beyondasian.com/



#immigration #immigrants #heritage

#chinese #survivor #healing




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Dave Walker lived a life that might be familiar to anyone trapped in the rat race, making good money and surrounding himself with "stuff", but fundamentally unhappy with his work, using alcohol as a coping mechanism, and disturbed by the person staring back at him in the mirror. What might not be so familiar is Dave's trajectory out of this spiral: re-examining his upbringing, leaving his work situation and starting a new company, investing more time with his children, and re-inventing himself... all in the shadow of a harrowing car accident.  Please join me as we journey with Dave through his transformation, and discover the different legs of the metaphorical stool that supports him. 

Here is a breakdown of our discussion: 

01:03 - Dave's origin story, where he talks about his way out of clinical depression and alcoholism. 

03:36 - His Six-Legged Stool model for life. 

04:51 - Our children are the catalyst for change. 

07:02 - Knowing your love languages. 

08:03 - Little changes adding up to big improvements. 

08:37 - The different parenting styles between Dave's Mom and Dad. 

09:32 - Not liking the face looking back in the mirror. 

10:20 - Reparenting yourself when your parents haven't given you the tools to cope with life. 

11:57 - A Harvard degree in suppressing your feelings. 

12:53 - Dave reconnecting with his Mom. 

14:20 - Being in touch with your feelings is not being emasculated. 

16:56 - The Universe speaks: Dave gets into a terrible car wreck. 

17:45 - Dave's Mom continues to plant seeds, even after her passing. 

18:46 - Giving your kids the gift of knowing you trust them to be okay. 

19:45 - As opposed to parenting from fear. 

22:35 - Giving your kids "The Talk" when you never got one. 

23:04 - Guys don't cry. 24:16 - Using movies as crying therapy. 

26:03 - enJOY life. 

27:00 - Savour your relationships. 

28:50 - Using alcohol as a coping mechanism. 

30:33 - We're only human. We're bound to make mistakes. 

31:20 - Trust in yourself. 

32:05 - Passing the values you learned from a parent to your own kids. 

32:58 - People are gonna “should” all over you. 

33:55 - Courage isn't not being afraid. Courage is being afraid and still going forward. 

34:48 - From Captain Comfort Zone to Captain Courageous. 36:02 - Why we fear the things we fear. 

37:14 - Big thinker vs. big feeler. 

40:23 - Judging your father when the blinders come off. 

42:17 - Saying "I love you" to an emotionally stunted father. 

44:04 - Dave downsizing, but he'd rather connect with people than with stuff. 

45:00 - Working hard and being paid well is a powerful and addictive drug. 

46:38 - “Feeling Dave” is keeping an eye on the life compass. 

49:12 - Dave's final advice to parents: Trust your kids and learn their love languages.



#MondaysDontHavetoSuck #DaveWalker #SherryYuanHunter #sandwichparenting  #parentlife #motherhood #fatherhood #cptsd #recovery #selfcare


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