Secret Son Mike Trupiano

Searching and finding disrupts long-standing family dynamics. 
Jack Dermody and I delve into how newly arrived adoptees are like bombs thrown into a family and how the knowledge gained by searching offers us an invaluable new perspective on ourselves. 


Letting go of what could have been, Billie Eilish and even Lawrence Welk make an appearance. 


Wunnerful!  
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Born in 1945, Jack Dermody is one of the original Baby Scoop adoptees. 

He is a facilitator, trainer, national public speaker and linguist with 28 years of experience in Africa, Asia, Latin America, and the U.S. working with instructors and teaching adults and college students from many walks of life. 

Specialty: Language Acquisition, especially English Language Learning
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Theme music by Cassis Birgit Staudt

http://www.cassisb.com/
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If you want to tell your tale on the show or just say hi, email me here: secretsonpod@gmail.com

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themiketrupiano/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mike.trupiano.7

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miketrupiano1/

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Show Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Please tell a friend about the show, rate it, write a review and visit our Patreon page:

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David Lynch's story and mine run rather parallel. 

BPD adoptive mother? Check. False leads in our father searches? Also check. Our Lady of Corporal Punishment primary school? Oh, yeah. 

Join David and I as we delve into these topics, Barbara De Angelis and much more! 
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David Lynch is an adoptee who searched and found his birth mother in 1992-93. He is a writer, graphic designer, and musician who lives in a rustic cabin in Western North Carolina.
Theme music by Cassis Birgit Staudt

http://www.cassisb.com/
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If you want to tell your tale on the show or just say hi, email me here: secretsonpod@gmail.com

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themiketrupiano/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mike.trupiano.7

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miketrupiano1/

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Show Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Please tell a friend about the show, rate it, write a review and visit our Patreon page:

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From rural Chile to urban Sweden, Maria Diemar started life with a huge journey.

Join Maria and I as we discuss kidnapping investigations, maddening bureaucratic red tape and '90s Nordic Neo-Nazis.

Los Secretos are everywhere!
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My name is Maria Diemar. I’m 47 years old, adopted, a teacher and mother of 3 boys. I was born in Chile then adopted in Sweden where I grew up but I currently live in Dallas/USA. In the last 12 years I have lived in Japan, Australia, and the US. I’m Mapuche, the largest group of indigenous people in Chile. 
I was sent to the airport in Stockholm when I was 10 weeks old where I met my white Swedish foster parents. After living with them for 6 months, they adopted me in the court of Stockholm. Many years later, I learned that my mother never actually gave me up for adoption; I was stolen from her in the delivery room. 
As a young adult, I searched for my Chilean family for 7 years and was reunited 20 years ago. Despite that, I didn’t meet my mom in person until last fall; I wasn’t ready until then. I have 4 siblings in Chile and travel to Chile frequently to be with them. 
I’m part of a Swedish organization called chileadoption.se and we help reunite Chilean families with their children that were taken and adopted abroad. I also have a Instagram and Facebook page where I share my experiences as an adoptee @I_own_my_story_maria_diemar 
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Theme music by Cassis Birgit Staudt

http://www.cassisb.com/
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If you want to tell your tale on the show or just say hi, email me here: secretsonpod@gmail.com

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themiketrupiano/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mike.trupiano.7

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miketrupiano1/

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Show Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Please tell a friend about the show, rate it, write a review and visit our Patreon page:

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Dave Brown has his own Tales of the City. 

Join us for episode #11 of Secret Son as we discuss coming out in the 70s, implicit memory and meeting inebriated relatives for the first time. 

Thanks for listening!
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I  am a domestic adoptee born in Virginia, raised in San Diego, CA, and have lived in the San Francisco Bay Area most of my adult life. I have a Bachelor's in Business Management and am a retiree from the University of California.
Three and a half years ago, I decided to take a DNA to find answers to shake off the shroud of secrecy. I found what I was looking for, but I was also unprepared for the upheaval in my life.


I created My Refocused Life to document my journey, never anticipated how much I would change. https://www.facebook.com/myrefocusedlife
I wrote this three years ago when I first saw my birth parents' pictures.
A Mirror Man is someone with mirrored-self mis-identification, i.e., unable to recognize themself in a mirror. 

As a teen, I would spend much time looking at myself in the bathroom mirror, not because I was a budding narcissist, but because I didn't recognize myself. 
I realize it is because I didn't see my parents in me. 

It was the same for my adoptive brother; we both felt like we had Martian DNA, although he fits in more than I did. I was the dorky kid who was merely tolerated.
I didn't have kids, so I didn't experience the sensations and wonders of adoptee friends who had kids. I hadn't thought about it until I heard other adoptees talk about how huge that was to see themselves reflected in their children.

Seeing the pictures of my birth parents for the first time made an emotional and physiological impact. Seeing myself reflected in them and vice versa hit me like a tsunami. 

I looked just like my father and had a resemblance to my mother. They were both beautiful. 

I noticed the facial features, the mouth, the shape, and the color of the eyes. But what got me is that my birth father and I stand the same way, his head tilted to the right as mine. I had always hated that aspect of myself. Now I think it's cool.
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Theme music by Cassis Birgit Staudt

http://www.cassisb.com/
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If you want to tell your tale on the show or just say hi, email me here: secretsonpod@gmail.com

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themiketrupiano/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mike.trupiano.7

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miketrupiano1/

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Show Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Please tell a friend about the show, rate it, write a review and visit our Patreon page:

https://www.patreon.com/secret_son
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Hey! Yeah, you! Why not join us for episode #10?

Pamela Karanova is a force to be reckoned with in the adoptee community and has a new Substack you should definitely check out!

Pamela and I discuss angelic librarians, going on the wagon and wild dogs deep in the Iowa countryside.

And, of course, secrecy!
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Pamela A. Karanova is an adult adoptee from Iowa residing in Lexington, KY.

She's the founder of Adoptees Connect, Inc, Adoptee Remembrance Day - October 30th, and Adoptee Merch.

Pamela is a freelance writer at The Real Adoptea Moxie, addressing the challenging issues in adoption.

She's navigated her search and reunion, experiencing double rejection from both biological parents, and considers adoptee healing to be a lifelong journey. She spends much of her time creating adoptee-centric resources.

She's an avid hiker, mountain climber, and waterfall chaser all over the great state of Kentucky.

 She has three adult children, two dogs, and one cat, and she loves the simple things in life, hot tea, bonfires, sunrises, sunsets, and solitude.

Adoptees Connect, Inc. www.adopteesconnect.com

Pamela A. Karanova Website www.pamelakaranova.com
The Real Adoptea Moxie https://therealadopteamoxie.substack.com/
Adoptee Remembrance Day - October 30th www.adopteeremembranceday.com
Theme music by Cassis Birgit Staudt

http://www.cassisb.com/
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If you want to tell your tale on the show or just say hi, email me here: secretsonpod@gmail.com

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themiketrupiano/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mike.trupiano.7

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miketrupiano1/

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Show Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Please tell a friend about the show, rate it, write a review and visit our Patreon page:

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Join me for episode 9 with Shawn Sigler.

We cover the usual stuff - KKK relatives, Cold War Berlin and seeing ourselves in photos of our deceased fathers. 

Shawn has had an incredible journey of persistence, bravery and self-discovery. Somehow he seems to have emerged from it without bitterness. A very inspiring story and episode!
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"I was born in 1963 in Indiana. I was adopted by a white couple from a small town. The public identified me as black, so I spent much time struggling with that identity.

 My adoptive mom had always insisted that I never search for my biological mother until she was dead. She had refused to share what she knew about my birth mom for fifty years.

She must have known that she was near the end of her life because she finally showed me my complete adoption paperwork. I met my birth mother and her wife a few months later. Eventually, my birth mother shared the identity of my birth father.

I wrote a book about my experiences entitled Born Without A Race." 
Theme music by Cassis Birgit Staudt

http://www.cassisb.com/
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If you want to tell your tale on the show or just say hi, email me here: secretsonpod@gmail.com

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themiketrupiano/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mike.trupiano.7

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miketrupiano1/

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Show Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Please tell a friend about the show, rate it, write a review and visit our Patreon page:

https://www.patreon.com/secret_son
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