Most couples have no idea why their marriage isn’t as easy as they thought it would be. In the Secure Marriage Podcast, Paul Elmore, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and his wife, Shannon, use Biblical truth, the latest relationship research, 16 years of professional counseling, and 25 years of personal marriage experience to show you exactly what you need to do to make your marriage work better. It doesn't matter if you're just starting your marriage, you want your good marriage to be better, or your marriage is melting down, when you use the Secure Marriage Framework you are guaranteed to fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your spouse.
#119: Paul Admits He Was Wrong (And Shannon Was Right!)
Admitting to your wife you were wrong is never easy. Yet, this is the unfortunate experience I’ve found myself in this last week.
In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you get to take a walk with us as we process just how important it is to be able to admit when you’re wrong and how this humbling experience can actually strengthen your relationship.
Why Being Grumpy Usually Leads to Less Sex
A lot of husbands (and some wives) have never understood the connection between emotional and physical intimacy. They are genuinely confused (and frustrated) when their spouse isn’t in “the mood” after a long day of arguing and tension.
In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage podcast we’re looking at why emotional connection is so important to a healthy sex life and how you can start to build more of it in your relationship.
How We Resolved Our Most Recent Fight
Like we’ve said many times… “We don’t have a perfect marriage, but we do have a secure marriage.” This last week is proof of that.
In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re talking about the fight we had last week and the steps we took to get is resolved as quickly as possible and get connected again. We hope you enjoy.
What NOT To Do To Get Your Spouse To Change
Every husband or wife has that “thing” they’d like to see changed in their spouse, believing it will make their life easier and happier. While this is perfectly normal, you can make your marriage miserable if you go about it the wrong way.
In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at a few ways you could sabotage your marriage while trying to change your spouse.
Accepting The Quirkiness Of Your Spouse
Does your husband or wife have that “thing” that drives you crazy, even though, you’d have to admit (reluctantly) it’s not actually wrong of them to do it? These things can actually become endearing to you, if you learn how to see them in the right light.
In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at a few things inside our own bags of crazy and sharing how we’ve grown to love and accept each other, even when we approach life so differently.
We hope you enjoy.
Why Date Night Should Still Be A Big Deal
Remember when dating was something that was fun and easy? Now, after a few years of being married, you probably don’t do it as often, and it seems to be more of a chore rather than something you look forward to.
No matter how long you’ve been married, setting aside time together regularly is super important. If you’ve forgotten why, we’ll be glad to remind you in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.
We hope you enjoy.
Better then premarital counseling
I have learned more from this podcast than I ever did from our premarital counseling. Paul and Shannon are not afraid to talk about the things that we all worry about in marriage - the things that make us ask “Are we normal? Is this ok?” It’s so refreshing and reassuring to hear a long-term couple talk about their challenges and how they’ve learned to work through things. It’s also a great reminder for me, as a newlywed, that it’s all part of a journey. A “perfect” marriage shouldn’t be the goal as much as a secure marriage. I’ve learned so much from their podcast that has helped me show up in my marriage the way I want to, and I know I’ll rely on it for many years to come! Here’s to hoping they keep it going for a very long time.
Love this podcast!
This has been an eye opener for me. Love that it’s short and to the point, from both partners’ perspectives.
Congratulations on 100 episodes!
I love your honesty in addressing real marriage challenges
Thank you so much for allowing us to see your strengths and weaknesses as you continue to adapt in order to strengthen your marriage. This is helping me to have a more balanced and nurturing perspective, while I also remember to lovingly communicate my needs as an HSP.