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Let's talk self-care. Sarah James, a lifestyle blogger and self-help aficionado, is joined by bestie Kristen Howerton, a writer and psychotherapist, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Why don’t I eat the way I should? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s the best way to deal with pubic hair? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Sarah are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . and maybe a touch of the random, all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should.

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Let's talk self-care. Sarah James, a lifestyle blogger and self-help aficionado, is joined by bestie Kristen Howerton, a writer and psychotherapist, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Why don’t I eat the way I should? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s the best way to deal with pubic hair? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Sarah are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . and maybe a touch of the random, all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should.

    What To Do When You Feel Like S#@!, Loving an Addict, and Retinol Advice | Selfie Podcast Episode 115

    What To Do When You Feel Like S#@!, Loving an Addict, and Retinol Advice | Selfie Podcast Episode 115

    We’re talking emergency self-care and coping skills for those moments when you are so overwhelmed that your brain is misfiring. BJ answers a listener question about how to help a partner who is struggling with addiction, and Claire gives us her best advice on dipping our toes into the world of retinol. 







    In this episode we also talked about:



    Nuuly Clothing Rental from Anthropologie

    Graydon “The Putty” Plant-Based Moisturizer 

    Ellia Pay Attention Essential Oil Blend

    Weighted Hula Hoop

    You Feel Like S#@!, A n Interactive Self-Care Guide



    Photo by Tim Goedhart on Unsplash

    • 57 min
    Differentiation as Self-Care, Best Botox Practice, and Healing After Sexual Assault | Selfie Podcast Episode 114

    Differentiation as Self-Care, Best Botox Practice, and Healing After Sexual Assault | Selfie Podcast Episode 114

    We are talking about differentiation with Kathleen Smith, author of Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down. Claire answers your botox questions, and BJ offers support to a listener struggling with trauma after a sexual assault (a trigger warning is given before this segment.)



    We also talked about:



    Migrastil Essential Oil Aromatherapy Roll=On Migraine Stick

    Veestro Plant-Based Meal Delivery Service

    Pilot G2s

    Bare Republic Sunscreen Stick

    Steinbeck Pencils

    LePen

    • 51 min
    Making Marriage Work, and When To Jump Ship | Selfie Podcast Episode 113

    Making Marriage Work, and When To Jump Ship | Selfie Podcast Episode 113

    Why are women so tired? How can we make modern marriage work? Roo and Kristen discuss the mental load that tends to fall on women, and how to push back on the societal norms that tell us that, despite our efforts at equality, women are still in charge of more domestic and familial tasks. We also chat with Jennifer Petriglieri, the author of Couples That Work: How Dual-Career Couples Can Thrive in Love and Work, and our resident therapist BJ shares some advice for readers struggling to know when to end a marriage.







    In this episode we also talked about:



    Green Tea Detox Matcha Mud Mask 

    Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb

    Fleabag

    Schitt’s Creek

    Runner’s Mace

    The New York Times Crossword



    Photo by Matheus Ferrero on Unsplash

    • 53 min
    The Difficult Task of Being Present | Selfie Podcast Episode 112

    The Difficult Task of Being Present | Selfie Podcast Episode 112

    Kristen is chatting with our new cohost Roo Powell about the difficulty of being present, and interviews Philip Shephard about the concept of embodiment and radical wholeness. We also introduce BJ Hickman, our new resident therapist who will be taking your questions (ask them here!)







    In this episode we talked about:



    Radical Wholeness: The Embodied Present and the Ordinary Grace of Being 

    New Self, New World: Recovering Our Senses in the Twenty-First Century

    TEPP

    The Strava App

    GoFiltr Alkaline Water

    Scrumptious Wicks 

    The Davinci Wedge

    Klova Patches



    Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

    • 58 min
    Creating Space to Feel Your Feelings + Sarah’s Last Episode | Selfie Podcast Episode 111

    Creating Space to Feel Your Feelings + Sarah’s Last Episode | Selfie Podcast Episode 111

    Sarah explains her decision to step back as host, and Kristen introduces the new show format and a new co-host. We chat with Sherianna Boyle about the importance of creating space to feel our feelings.







    In this episode we talked about:



    Emotional Detox: 7 Steps to Release Toxicity and Energize Joy

    Emotional Detox for Anxiety: 7 Steps to Release Anxiety and Energize Joy

    The Chalet Wrap from Mer-Sea

    Mantra Mask Hemp CBD Coconut Eye Gels

    Sarah’s Top Clean Beauty Picks of 2019

    Aleavia Body Cleanse 



    Photo by Cristian Newman on Unsplash

    • 53 min
    Sex Without Shame | Selfie Episode 110

    Sex Without Shame | Selfie Episode 110

    We’re talking about how shame affects our sex lives with Matthis Roberts, author of the new book Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms.. 







    In this episode we also talked about:





    Nalgene Water Bottles

    Kristen’s Giant Water Jug

    The Berkey Water Filter

    Skylar Clean Perfume

    365 Makeup Remover

    Drunk Elephant Cleansing Bar

    Adoratherapy Mood Boost

    MyChelle Refining Sugar Cleanser

    The Ordinary Vitamin C Serum

    Lavender Epsom Salts



    Photo by Gaelle Marcel on Unsplash

    • 55 min

Customer Reviews

LexieLoo1102 ,

Relatable, friendly, and funny

Love this podcast! All the women are witty, funny and seem to be very down to Earth. The addition of Claire has been great in my opinion, I find her hilarious.

Comeasyouare01 ,

Used to love this Cast

It’s really unfortunate how much this podcast has changed in the last couple of months with the addition of a new “host”. I cannot stress enough how unpleasant it is to listen to her self obsessed loud, crass ramblings and constant interruptions of the other host. As an example, In the beginning of the last episode she literally talked about an upcoming trip to Europe with three kids over 10 and two other adults for 10 minutes. 10 minutes! She infantilized her husband as useless and went on and on about every possible detail of this upcoming trip and her anxiety as if it were a brave and daunting trip that only she would be able to manage.... Huh? These are not young children, she has two other adults, and she’s not heading anywhere dangerous or interesting. Why would we as listeners have any interest in 10 minutes of this?? Every time she talks it’s like nails on a chalk board, such a contrast to the two other soft spoken thoughtful educated smart and savvy hosts. I’m disappointed as I’ve been listening to Kristin and Sarah since the beginning. It appears as though this woman has zero qualifications or expertise although she certainly pretends she knows everything about everything. It’s very grating and unpleasant and frankly embarrassing to listen to. Sorry to have such a strong reaction but I will not be continuing to listen if she remains as she keeps popping up unexpectedly. I still enjoy the guests and the weeks when this woman is not included and I hope it’s just a temporary situation and this podcast finds its way back as it was an excellent show before this change!

-update I’m so glad that you have finally removed Claire from cohost. I will miss Sarah but Roo is great! The idea however that she should continue to be included at on any level let alone a “beauty expert” is ridiculous... she has no business being on this podcast in any capacity. I’m sure you’re just trying to let her down easy but c’mon.. stop torturing us....

boclit ,

Love this but

I love this podcast but will miss Sarah! I like Kristen but the constant interruptions drive me nuts. The hmms and talking over people just isn’t good podcast etiquette.

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