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What prevents entrepreneurs from succeeding is not a lack of talent, skill, intelligence, opportunity or luck, but the absence of the right mental and emotional mindset and abilities that foster success. You can have world-class business chops, but if you're not in control of your mind, emotions and actions, you're not in control of your life. Psychologist Dr. Steve Orma flips convention to show you why a LACK of selfishness (self-respect, self-valuing, self-esteem) can undermine success and fulfillment as an entrepreneur. Through interviews with entrepreneurs and solo episodes, he provides actionable tips, tools, and powerful insights to help you THRIVE in your business and life.

Selfish for Success: Entrepreneur | Business | Psychology | Self Esteem | Happiness | Healt‪h‬ Dr. Steve Orma: Psychologist, Author, Mental Health Expert

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What prevents entrepreneurs from succeeding is not a lack of talent, skill, intelligence, opportunity or luck, but the absence of the right mental and emotional mindset and abilities that foster success. You can have world-class business chops, but if you're not in control of your mind, emotions and actions, you're not in control of your life. Psychologist Dr. Steve Orma flips convention to show you why a LACK of selfishness (self-respect, self-valuing, self-esteem) can undermine success and fulfillment as an entrepreneur. Through interviews with entrepreneurs and solo episodes, he provides actionable tips, tools, and powerful insights to help you THRIVE in your business and life.

    SFS 072: How to Become Resourceful

    SFS 072: How to Become Resourceful

    Last time, we discussed how crucial Resilience is for success, how it’s vital to have the strength of mind and body to weather the bumps on the road to success.



    The second crucial ability you need is Resourcefulness. Resourcefulness is the ability to skillfully and quickly solve problems, overcome challenges, and generate creative solutions. Without it, you're dead in the water.



    In today's podcast, we cover what Resourcefulness is, why it's critical to your success, what happens when you lack it, and how to access and develop it in yourself.



    Episode highlights: 



    The KEY to being resourceful: using what you already have

    Most people don’t realize they have enormous resources at their disposal that they can use RIGHT NOW to attain anything they want

    What your PRIMARY resource is and why most people barely use it

    You already have within you the most powerful tool in the world (I'll tell you how to access it)

    The 2 shifts you need to make to become powerfully Resourceful

    A famous example from history that exemplifies resourcefulness











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    • 19 min
    SFS 071: How to Become Resilient

    SFS 071: How to Become Resilient

    Resilience is crucial for success in anything. When you pursue big dreams or goals, challenges, problems and setbacks inevitably arise. If you lack Resilience to withstand those challenges, you will fail.



    Resilience means having the strength of mind and body to face and overcome challenges as you pursue your goals and dreams. It’s the ability to take a hit and bounce back. A resilient boxer can take punches and keep fighting, and stay in the fight until success. You must learn to do the same.



    What happens to most people is they start pursuing their dream, then they run into challenges. They quickly get frustrated, discouraged, and start doubting themselves, causing them to lose their confidence and motivation, AND THEY GIVE UP.



    This happens because they expected it to be easy, and smooth, and when challenges come up they see them as signs to give up or that they’re incapable. This mental outlook WEAKENS them mentally, emotionally and physically, zapping their Resilience.



    In today's podcast, I reveal the secret to becoming as Resilient as steel, so you can handle the inevitable challenges that arise on the way to your dream, and ultimately succeed.



    Episode highlights:



    The 3 KEYS to becoming powerfully resilient

    EXPECT that you will have challenges and problems on the road to your dream

    What you can learn from trees about resilience

    You must be flexible and adapt

    You need emotionally-compelling reasons WHY you want your dream

    Resilience is a MUSCLE--the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets











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    • 21 min
    SFS 070: Why 90% or More of Success is Your MINDSET

    SFS 070: Why 90% or More of Success is Your MINDSET

    There's a lot of talk about mindset. But WHY is mindset so important, and why does your success in EVERY area of your life depend on it?



    Your mindset is the fundamental beliefs you hold about yourself and the world. It determines how you feel, what actions you take, and the habits you develop. It creates who you are and what happens in your life.



    Your life right now (your level of success, emotional state, level of self-esteem, income, and how happy you are) is a direct reflection of your mindset.



    Today, I reveal why this is and how you can develop a winning mindset.



    Episode highlights:



    Your mindset will determine whether you have a life of happiness and success, or a life of

    fear, frustration, failure and unhappiness

    Your mindset is the ENGINE that powers you to success

    Skills, strategy, and knowledge are only 10% of success

    Why the best athletes in the world can CHOKE in competition

    6 ways to adopt and foster a success mindset

    2 CRUCIAL beliefs you need to succeed (otherwise, you're SCREWED)











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    Mindset, by Carol S. Dweck, PhD

    SFS 061: The Secret to Self-Confidence



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    • 35 min
    SFS 069: Perfectionism – A Recipe For Failure

    SFS 069: Perfectionism – A Recipe For Failure

    Perfectionism means always trying to meet high standards AND not making mistakes or failing as you try to meet those standards. The problem with perfectionism is NOT high standards, but the rules for HOW to meet those standards.



    And the rules are: I can NEVER make mistakes, perform at an average or sub-par level, fail, stumble, and not be the best I can be--ALWAYS.



    If you try to live by these rules, it'll cause enormous havoc on your mental health, happiness, and enjoyment of life.



    WHY does perfectionism lead to misery and failure? And what is the rational alternative that allows you to have high standards and big dreams, without all the stress, anxiety, and pressure that perfectionists frequently experience?



    In today's episode, I'm going to give you a way to meet super-high standards, achieve really big goals, and also ENJOY your life in the process.



    Episode highlights:



    The FALSE alternative of perfectionism vs. low standards

    A way you can actually be perfect (without the trap of perfectionism)

    What a chipped tea cup and pets can teach you about perfection

    Perfectionists try to meet a standard that's IMPOSSIBLE for human beings

    How perfectionists continuously SCREW themselves (and how to avoid this)

    Why mistakes, setbacks, and failures are MASSIVE THREATS to a perfectionist

    Why perfectionism leads to a fear of taking risks

    Why perfectionism causes an enormous amount of anxiety and stress

    With perfectionists, life becomes a constant test of their self worth

    Many top performers are perfectionists, but that's NOT why they succeed (in fact, they would achieve more and with more joy if they weren't perfectionists)

    How perfectionism can lead to depression

    Why mistakes and poor performance are a GIFT that can lead you to excellence

    The RIGHT standard for high achievement and a joyous life



    “I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” Michael Jordan (from Brainyquote)











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    • 24 min
    SFS 068: Procrastination – How to Stop It

    SFS 068: Procrastination – How to Stop It

    Everyone procrastinates. But when it becomes chronic or stops you from performing tasks required to move towards your dreams and goals, it can have a devastating impact on your life.



    Today, I reveal what causes procrastination, and the most effective strategies for overcoming it so it doesn't stop you from creating the life you want.



    Episode highlights:



    The 3 main causes of procrastination

    How procrastination can literally KILL you

    Why sometimes it's GOOD to procrastinate

    Procrastination is just a form of AVOIDANCE

    7 ways to STOP procrastinating

    The first question to ask yourself when you're procrastinating











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    SFS 039: How to Stop Beating Yourself Up



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    • 25 min
    SFS 067: The Fear of Making Decisions (And How to Conquer It)

    SFS 067: The Fear of Making Decisions (And How to Conquer It)

    Life consists of making decisions, small and big, every day. If you have fear or difficulty making decisions, it can cripple and inhibit your ability to accomplish your goals and be happy.



    WHY do so many people fear making decisions? The main reason is they fear making the WRONG decision. But that's not even the real fear.



    Today, I talk about what really drives the fear, and give you 6 keys for becoming good at making decisions.



    Episode highlights:



    The 4 fears underlying the fear of making the wrong decision

    The clearer you are about what you want, the easier it is to make decisions

    Making decisions is about YOUR values and knowing what’s good for you

    Why knowing the HIERARCHY of your values makes making decisions much easier

    Making decisions is an art AND a science

    Focus on making the best choice rather than avoiding making the wrong one

    How a quote from a rock song can relieve your anxiety about making decisions

    An EMPOWERING way to think about decisions











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