It’s a radically gentle podcast about sex and relationships. We’ve noticed a widespread hunger for ways to navigate conversations about gender complexity, alternatives to monogamy, and other things that transcend norms, but outside of queer circles it can be difficult to find a starting point. Our podcast meets that need by holding a safe, playful, and accessible space for conversations that are often difficult to have, creating bridges between queer ideas and those who may not yet know or love them
OOOOOOOOH BYE: THE LAST EPISODE?!?
Dear Listeners: SFSP, in this form, is ending. BUT! It will be evolving into a new podcast in about a year!! Rather than being about sex and love through a lens of our collective liberation as SFSP has been, the new podcast will be about our collective liberation at large (transformative justice! consent culture! dismantling white supremacy! systems shift + widespread cultural healing! queering everything!) without shying away from things having to do with sex + bodies + desire that so often get swept under the rug. We’d love love love to stay in conversation with you in the meanwhile and beyond! Please stay subscribed to our feed, and/or you can join our mailing list at sexforsmartpeople.com to make certain that you hear about what we are up to next. All the episodes will stay up and available, so feel free to keep sharing with loved ones, as well! If you want to stay in touch with Dave, follow him on Twitter @davidjmcgee. And Ryan would love to stay connected to you in all the ways, including through their new dating app for kinky people (trykinkedin.com) and through their coaching practice (sexandrelationshipscoaching.com). It’s been a huge joy and honor to make this thing with each other and in conversation our guests and with all of you. Thank you thank you thank you for tuning in!
Episode 30: Authenticity and Intentionality and Tenderness, oh yes yes YES!
Rev. Alba Onofrio shares about their journey to embracing relationship and family beyond default scripts/labels and their work as spiritual director of Soulforce, holding authenticity and intentionality as paramount, fighting for the lives of queer and trans people everywhere! We collectively address listener questions including: How do I raise my son when I see the world as such a hostile and terrifying place, especially after the Pulse massacre? A bisexual cis woman in a relationship with a straight cis dude wonders: do I have a right to claim the term queer? We also jam about the connection of Christian Supremacy to rape culture, consent that goes far deeper than the tactical or “asking permission”, and queer identity as a rallying cry / call to action / politically based orientation to the world based in an experience of marginalization. Shout outs about the book “Revolutionary Mothering: Love On the Front Lines” to which Alba contributed, the movie “Captain Fantastic”, the Sexual Liberation Collective, and Soulforce’s healing take on the Sodom and Gomorrah story.
A Collection of Queer Love Notes, post-Pulse
We found that our queer communities, friends, and families pulled together in some f*****g beautiful ways to support one another in the moments and weeks after the massacre at Pulse. We wanted to create something that shows our intense sense of community, shows how we love at the same time as mourn and rage. So here is a collection of messages of love sent between and among queer folks in the weeks following June 12th. Thank you to everyone who contributed!
Episode 29: Reflections on Orlando // Sexuality From a Place of Wholeness
We are honored to be joined by actress/activist/founder-of-TransTech Angelica Ross. Hear why she believes most people are in relationships for the wrong reasons and that relationships are best when thought of as prolonged period of discovery. We address the misunderstanding of the term sex positive as pressure to have more sex than you want to, queering as a force for good, learning what your body says “yes” to in life AND in sex, and how to full our honor the fucked up truth of now and also full out hold our responsibility to imagine alternatives. When you are dating or hooking up with a new person, at what point is it important to disclose you are trans? What do you do when you and your partner both want an open relationship but you feel overwhelmed by jealousy? How do you get to be more pleasure-oriented than orgasm-centric? Plus shout outs about the amazing webseries HerStory (by and for queer and trans women, featuring Angelica Ross!), taking a walk around your neighborhood, and the beauty and importance of queer and trans choirs.
A Collection of Coming Out Stories!
The surprising stuff, the mundane stuff, the way folks felt like they were always out or felt like they never came out at all: A moving/many-splendored collection of coming out stories that break from the most traditional narratives. This is the first of what will be many more episodes that feature stories from YOU, dear listeners. May we all be more deeply invited into radical wonder and radical welcoming toward ourselves and others, and may we keep working toward a world in which everyone is free and safe to be open about all of who they are.
Episode 28: We Need To Complicate What It Means…
Dylan Marron! It’s Dylan Marron! Writer/performer Dylan Marron joins us for a wildly multi-faceted conversation about various and sundry things including: In a longterm relationship, what do you do when you feel like you are not connecting at all anymore and that talking about things gets in the way of your already-too-infrequent sex life? When you are playing matchmaker for friends, how much do you need to disclose about them to the other? Also: sex as conversation, setting intentions in sex and conversation, where focus goes energy goes, naming how you are feeling in the moment, an interview collage about marriage from the Love Songs for the Rest of Us tour, ways of thinking about the default script of “bros before hos”, widening collective circles of care, treat your friends as lovers and your lovers as friends, cheers to the power of chosen family in all of its many forms, #gaymediasowhite, ice cream, “13 questions to ask before getting married”, The Affair, Dreamgirls, Michael R. Jackson, complex feelings about Transparent, the amazing new webseries: HerStory, and trans narratives in the media in general.
Thoughtful and thought provoking
It's about time something like this came along. Much respect.
For People Who Need People* (*which is almost everyone).
Steph, Dave, and their guests address a huge range of love & sex questions with humor, intelligence and, most importantly, generosity.
Navigating relationships (sexual, romantic, or otherwise) in a healthy, fair, and giving way is one of the most complicated challenges we face as people who inherently need other people. This podcast helps untie knots and debunk the myth of the effortless relationship clearly and openly, which ultimately encourages us as listeners to have the power to address similar concerns or questions in our own lives.