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In Sex With Dr. Jess, Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, Toronto-based sexologist, author, and media personality, shares tips on how to enhance your sexual life to improve the quality of your relationships. She interviews guests with questions ranging from how to deal with jealousy to getting down in the bedroom, as well as hosting thought-provoking episodes centered around compatibility and strengthening relationships.

Sex With Dr. Jess Dr. Jessica O'Reilly

    • Sexuality
    • 4.4 • 128 Ratings

In Sex With Dr. Jess, Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, Toronto-based sexologist, author, and media personality, shares tips on how to enhance your sexual life to improve the quality of your relationships. She interviews guests with questions ranging from how to deal with jealousy to getting down in the bedroom, as well as hosting thought-provoking episodes centered around compatibility and strengthening relationships.

    Bisexuality, Religious Shame & Might-As-Well Relationships

    Bisexuality, Religious Shame & Might-As-Well Relationships

    Sexologist Ashely Cobb joins us to talk about her new program Hoe and Tell as well as to answer a ton of sex & relationship questions including:



    What is pegging?

    What sexual secrets are your friends and neighbours harbouring?

    How do I get my shy partner to make noise in bed?

    How do I introduce something new?

    Does everyone need lube?

    Can you get good sex ed on Tik Tok?

    How do you let go of sexual shame that is tied to religion?

    What are might-as-well relationships and what can we do about them?

    How to ditch pressures related to family and cultural expectations.

    Should a couple really operate as a unit?

    What questions should you ask before you get into a committed relationship?

    Is it okay to not like blow jobs?



    Follow Ashley on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter. Also, check out Ashley's podcast, Hoe and Tell.

    • 42 min
    Sex Clubs, Open Relationships & Setting Boundaries with Taylor Nolan

    Sex Clubs, Open Relationships & Setting Boundaries with Taylor Nolan

    We talk labia, penis size, public relationships, consensual non-monogamy and more with Taylor Nolan. Taylor is a psychotherapist who appeared on ABC's The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise. She hosts her own podcast and is recognized on social media for being outspoken and vulnerable on issues around  intersectional feminism, animal rescue, and mental and sexual health.



    Follow Taylor on Instagram & Twitter. Check out Taylor's podcast, Let's Talk About It!



    Here are a few notes on our discussion of labia...



    Why are we so obsessed with the way our labia looks?



    Because we have very few opportunities to see real naked bodies, we tend to draw our expectations from porn. But porn, as we know, is not generally representative of the general population. The bodies depicted tend to reflect one specific standard and oftentimes don’t align with what we see in ourselves. When it comes to how we view our labia, we may want to thicken, shorten, lengthen, or lighten ours to match what we see in porn. These unrealistic expectations are only intensified by the fact that we don’t tend to talk about our labia with our friends and this silence around our g******s can reinforce feelings of shame.



    How can I get over thinking my lips are ugly?



    If you don’t love your labia, that’s okay. You don’t have to love everything about your body at every moment in time. It might be useful to consider where these negative messages and feelings come from:



    Were you told that it was “dirty” when you were young? If so, do you know otherwise now? The vagina, for example, is like a self cleaning oven.



    Were you shamed for touching yourself as a child or teenager? Can you reframe these messages to enjoy your body and derive pleasure from masturbation? Can you consider the health benefits of masturbation? These include stress reduction, lower anxiety, improved mood, a better night’s sleep and heightened sexual functioning.



    The more pleasure you learn to derive from your body and the more you allow your body to perform for you in functional ways (e.g. dance, sport, self expression), the more likely you’ll be to develop a neutral or positive attitude toward it.



    An ex said they were long and I can’t get it out of my head. I’m always wondering what my BF is thinking...



    If your partner is shaming you for your labia or any part of your body, they might want to consider how they feel about their own body - and how they might work on their self-esteem in general. Oftentimes when we’re critical of others, it’s because we’re avoiding confronting our own self-criticism.



    Is labiaplasty a valid option?



    Note on labiaplasty: This is a personal choice. I do know one woman who found that her labia got in the way of comfortable intercourse (especially post menopause) and she found many clothes uncomfortable. She therefore opted to have a labiaplasty to reduce the length of her lips and is happy with the results. I also know others who feel pressured to alter their labia by unrealistic portrayals of beauty.



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    • 49 min
    All About Your Penis: Pleasure, Curves, Diet, Erection & More!

    All About Your Penis: Pleasure, Curves, Diet, Erection & More!

    How’s your penis doing? How’s your diet and how does it relate to the pleasure you experience? And how can you have better anal sex? Sexual Medicine fellow & LGBTQ advocate, Dr. Josh Gonzalez, MD, joins us to discuss arousal, orgasm, ejaculation, erection, pain and more. He shares his expertise and answers your questions including:



    What’s the best diet for your penis?

    How can you deal with painful ejaculation?

    What is a muted orgasm?

    How can you deal with delayed ejaculation?

    What are excitatory neurotransmitters?

    What is soft glans and what are your treatment options?

    What is Peyronie’s and how can it be treated?

    How do some antidepressants inhibit and help and harm sexual pleasure including orgasm and desire?



    Follow Dr. Josh Gonzalez on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram. Check out his recent articles on the Astroglide blog here.



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    • 51 min
    Lingerie Humiliation, Sex Sans Erection & Sexual Worthiness

    Lingerie Humiliation, Sex Sans Erection & Sexual Worthiness

    The brilliant Dr. Lexx Brown-James joins us to share their insights and answers your sex & relationship questions including:



    How to deal with feelings of rejection.

    What’s the real difference between truth and honesty.

    What to do when you or your lover lose their erection.

    Managing feelings related to weight gain and why more weight can mean more pleasure!

    How to get over fears of initiating sex.

    How to feel worthy of love, sex and pleasure without the pressure to “do more” in bed.



    Follow Dr. Lexx on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook.



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    • 49 min
    Astrology of Sex & Relationships

    Astrology of Sex & Relationships

    Author and Astrologist Mecca Woods joins Jess and Brandon to weigh-in on whether or not you should consider your Zodiac sign in dating, and shares her insights on:



    The relational and sexual strengths of each Zodiac sign

    How air, earth, water and fire signs differ from one another

    How we can benefit from embracing elements from all Astrological signs

    The areas you may want to work on according to your Zodiac sign

    How Astrology can support self-development

    Astrology as a motivational tool as opposed to a destiny-focused blueprint



    Follow Mecca on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook. Also, check out her podcast: Stars On Fire



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    • 51 min
    Pleasure Mapping, Clitoral Response & Redefining Healthcare

    Pleasure Mapping, Clitoral Response & Redefining Healthcare

    Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist and sexuality educator. She joins Jess & Brandon to discuss all things sex, pleasure, wellness and bourbon!



    How can pleasure mapping improve sexual communication and pleasure?

    How do you deal with a hypersensitive clitoris?

    How do you assess pelvic pain and endometriosis?

    How can therapists and other helping professionals take care of their own physical and mental health?

    What is vaginal stretching?

    How can we assess racism and oppression in healthcare?

    What are Bourbon Talez and what can you learn from them?



    Follow Uchenna on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter.



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    • 42 min

Customer Reviews

4.4 out of 5
128 Ratings

128 Ratings

podcastfordayz ,

Sound

Cool podcast. Could your producer address the sound? When you all speak, the sound is good. However, the music spikes up when it plays and well, it’s obnoxious.

blake.kirven ,

Great podcast about sex

Great podcast with so much information. Wish that you’d get a new mic but other than that, love the episodes. Thanks for your advice and help.

Dr. Maha Sexual Healing Doc ,

Great information in a fun and personable way!

Dr. Jess always provides up-to-date, useful, and educational information regarding various topics in sexuality and relationships. As a sex therapist myself, I constantly learn from her podcasts and highly recommend them to listeners! It’s a fun way to get some really good sex education.

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